Gay married man nearing his 40s here The REAL problem is when you accidentally go out wearing exactly the same thing... for the tenth time that week. And how often we don't notice until somebody asks if we're twins.
this post was submitted on 07 Jul 2026
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I knew it. I'm meant to be forever alone!
Sorry not sorry to my wife, I just look better in her flannel.
She's lucky I'm too tall to steal more than shirts
*sigh* maybe someday...
A perk of being kinda ugly is that my partner will always be way more attractive than me :3
Waiter my steak is too juicy and my gf is too buttery!
Wlw?
Wutai Loses Wars
Wulti Level Warketing
Win Loss Win
It's just a pattern people notice
Wulti Level Warketing
Warxism Leninism Waoism
Are Warx and Wao like Wario and Waluigi?
"The working class must relinquish the means of production"
- Charles Warx
Waldo’s location where?
Women loving women
is it a synonymum for leasbian or is there a difference?
I think it's different. You can be bisexual and be WLW and lesbian means attracted to woman only. But I'm not an expert, just walking by.
wlw is a little more generic, like, a wlw could be lesbian, bisexual or whatever while lesbian is only wlw
The construction of the sentence is just getting to me: "wlw...with a gf."
It feels like the important part is "having a gf," and "having the gf" implies the "wlw." So you could have just left off the "wlw."
“having the gf” implies the “wlw.”
Only if you already knew (or assumed) that the person who posted it was female. I, for one, didn't pay attention to the username or avatar pic, so for me, it was a helpful clarification.
Far enough
"Lesbian" is a statement of identity, while "WLW" is merely a description of behavior.
As I understand it, terms like "WLW" are preferred by sex researchers in order to keep the focus of the research on the behavior and try to prevent it from being used to categorize people too much.
well as a woman who loves women you could also love other genders, it's a matter of preference
It do be like that, yes.
Can't go the other way, though, because I'm one size bigger than her :-/
As the smaller of two wives, you are correct
One size difference is fine for knit garments. They are stretchy fabrics that can be worn by larger women, which makes them even more form fitting.
I have a dress that looks great on me, but my wife steals it sometimes and wears it and ooooooooooooooo
lol ... I have one knitted jumper that my Mum made (by hand) for my sister. I got it from her, because she didn't like it ... and one of my exes borrowed it once and stretched it all out of shape :-(
Now, I can only really wear it around the house.
When I said knit garments I meant those made from machine knit fabrics, as opposed to woven fabrics. My dress I referred to was is a commercial rib knit so its very stretchy, and recovers afterwards.
I'm sorry to hear about the jumper.
Ah ok, I understand now. I think those have generally been out of my price range TBH ... but in September I plan on scouring lots of charity shops in the UK so maybe something will show up :-)
Thank you!