When you're taking pictures of yourself, don't use a mirror, it'll double the dirt and distort you. Just put your phone on a little tripod (very cheap) at waist level roughly 6 feet away, and use the self-timer. Try not to go any lower, that's how you look like a giant with a chin. Too high above you, and you can look like you have a massive had, and a small body.
Face the light source, not away from it, and diffuse lighting is generally better.
There's loads of posing guides out their, generally just try to get your whole body standing up. Maybe hit THE POSE.
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Tinder pisses me off. I asked this girl how she was and she responded 'good'. I then asked her what made her day so good, and then she replied with 'huh?'. Like it's not that hard to understand what I meant. She didn't say her 'day' was good, so maybe I shouldn't've said 'day' but still, it's not that hard to understand. So I responded with a question mark and whwn I looked back a couple hours later, she unmatched me. WTF
I despise the apps too lol, I gave it another shot. I dont like the number of matches and shit Im getting now (its too many) but the people I match with seem to have no personality and seem fundamentally uncurious about the world around them. Actually going on dates with these people was like pulling teeth... if Im not leading the conversation or asking questions theyre just sitting there like lumps - like you wanna see if I fit in your life, are you sure you dont wanna ask me about my family or life or career or goals or hobbies or lol. Cis men also suck hard, but its not like any other variety of human is any better.
Asking people how they're doing is almost always non-literal, people just treat it like a greeting. Even if someone is doing terrible, they'll respond with good.
There's even a joke about that, a man goes to the doctor, doctor asks how he's doing, the man says good. Then the doctor asks how he's doing, the man says terrible, I'm in immense pain after a car just hit me. Just from memory, others could probably tell it better.
When I used Tinder, I always found that I had the least conversational people I've ever met on an app. Also people I rarely had anything in common with, but that could just just be a me problem.