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[-] _lilith@lemmy.world 120 points 8 months ago
[-] Theharpyeagle@lemmy.world 62 points 8 months ago

I hate the guy but don't really like using real, devastating neurological diseases as an insult. It seems much more likely that he's just trying to make his suit hang in a more flattering way.

[-] NotAtWork@startrek.website 99 points 8 months ago

using a devastating neurological diseases as an insult, is wrong, but using it a a reason that he shouldn't run a country is fair. Also, is he trying to make his Poor judgement, Loss of Empathy, Socially Inappropriate Behavior, Lack of Inhibition, Inability to Concentrate or Plan, Frequent Abrupt Mood Changers, Speech Difficulties, and Memory Loss hang in a more flattering way?

[-] dumpsterlid@lemmy.world 22 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

using a devastating neurological diseases as an insult, is wrong, but using it a a reason that he shouldn’t run a country is fair.

I don’t necessarily disagree but you also run the risk of distracting from the most dangerous part about him. He is a fascist, that is what is wildly dangerous about him and as much as it is fun to make fun of fascists for being dumbshits, it isn’t a lack of mental capacity that leads to fascism. Those two things are perpendicular and as tempting as it is to equate fascism with stupidity the far more terrifying truth is that it only really equates with ignorance.

[-] RestrictedAccount@lemmy.world 14 points 8 months ago

As long as we are arguing about the various reasons he is unfit to serve, I’m good.

[-] dumpsterlid@lemmy.world 3 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

As long as we are arguing about the various reasons he is unfit to serve, and also being careful not to throw our trans friends under the bus in the process, I'm good!

Also Donald Trump is one of the straightest, most heterosexually normative men alive if we measure heterosexual masculinity in terms of insecurity, which I think is a reasonable way to quantify heterosexual masculinity. I mean, describing thermonuclear explosive yields of nuclear bombs in terms of kilotons of TNT is a reasonable way of talking about abstract regimes of force we can't directly grasp, so why not kilotons of insecurity to describe the toxic yields of bigots?

edit gotta love the downvotes, I’m sorry if y’all can’t handle people punching up at heterosexual male identity, I know it is such a fragile thing and I am very sorry I should have been more careful not to break it :)

[-] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 2 points 8 months ago

Why would we judge heterosexual masculinity by insecurity? Yes there are deep ties there, but those deep ties are more based on a precarious position of a neutral trait being held up as an ideal and imbued with societal power. The insecurity is a byproduct of patriarchy favoring it and thus incentivizing those who do not embody it faking it. I would instead say that folks like Nick Offerman who both embody it and reject its dominance are the ones who hold it most. Someone like Steven Crowder for example who clearly hates the cigars he smokes and the whiskey he drinks and just reeks of a bad performance of heterosexual masculinity clearly lacks any authentic expression of gender and orientation.

Trump is clearly a straight man and a masculine one for his culture. I believe the performance he gives, but his insecurities seem to be of value and of strength, especially as he ages and declines. That insecurity is not inherent to straight men, but rather rampant among them

[-] dumpsterlid@lemmy.world 2 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

That insecurity is not inherent to straight men, but rather rampant among them

How brave of you to make the point “Not All Men!”

Why would we judge heterosexual masculinity by insecurity?

I don’t know, maybe because I am a heterosexual man and I have met countless heterosexual men and one of the most common threads that makes heterosexual men stand out from other people is their deeply ingrained insecurity and propensity to project it with regimes of control and violence?

And ok… to calm the all the men having temper tantrums I am not saying men are inherently…. well anything but is undeniable that the constructed male heterosexual identity is imbued with what I am describing. Our jobs as heterosexual men is to demolish that construction of violence that we were taught (which as you brought up, someone like Nick Offerman does effectively through characters), of course it isn’t inherent to “being a man” , unlike bigots I am not insulting the mental capacity of men by pretending like they don’t have a choice of how to behave, but rather pointing out that heteronormative masculinity is an extremely problematic construct that we must intentionally dismantle and rebuild in more healthy ways for everyone.

Part of doing that is taking the piss out of heterosexual men drowning in insecurity that they impose on everyone else through sexism, driving massive pickups that are custom designed to kill children in a car accident, mass shootings (~99% of mass shooters in the US are, surprise!, heterosexual white men!) talking over other people constantly, pretending the ideas put forward by women are theirs, desiring to possess a partner as an object not a human being with a brain, confusing displays of the capacity for violence as a display of a confidence in their masculinity, taking up as much space as possible in public, demanding to settle disputes with other men through violence and using the threat of that those men will no longer be real men if they refuse….

….how much do I have to go on?

By making fun of the worst aspects of heterosexual men like Donald Trump I am punching up at a thing that needs some punching I think. If this were punching down at a vulnerable group without power in the societies they inhabit ok that would be a different conversation than punching up at the category of people that controls almost every power structure and power dynamic in society wouldn’t it?

[-] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 1 points 8 months ago

Ok honestly fair, tbh I totally read your comments as someone who’s been in queer female vent spaces long enough to forget how to act outside of them. And part of my reason for the response is because I do see harm being done by a lack of positive role models for young straight men, and I think the solution is twofold: yes they do need some obviously, but also they need to learn the media empathy that women are expected to always be showing.

Though I feel from the bottom of my heart a desire to make a “who here has been victimized by ~~Regina George~~ heterosexual male insecurity” meme if I wasn’t on my phone on my lunch break. But yeah you ain’t wrong, it’s just the sort of thing I instinctively keep to inside thoughts for fear of men’s anger.

[-] RestrictedAccount@lemmy.world 1 points 8 months ago

So male heterosexuality is the same as mass murdering with nuclear weapons.

Got it.

[-] NotAtWork@startrek.website 3 points 8 months ago

Statistically, 100% of all nuclear weapons used in war were dropped by Dudes with Dicks.

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[-] dumpsterlid@lemmy.world 1 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

I mean, that is basically one of the key points Thomas Pynchon makes in Gravity’s Rainbow but with V2 rockets instead of nuclear weapons and yes absolutely I think it is a great point!

Do you not think the mass brutality of warfare is inextricably linked with societal constructions of male heterosexuality? Like… who else is doing the killing and driving all the violence then? Sure anybody can be a soldier, not just heterosexual men but come on…. are you going to claim with a straight face that there isn’t a connection between male heterosexuality and state violence? Lol I hope you do, that is an absurd position to take and I welcome the amusing rhetorical gymnastics you will have to display to make that kind of argument!

[-] Theharpyeagle@lemmy.world 8 points 8 months ago

using a devastating neurological diseases as an insult, is wrong, but using it a a reason that he shouldn't run a country is fair.

If it's a disease he's suffering from, which is not something I'm confident of. The image above chooses a particular representation of the posture caused by the disease that happens to match, but it is far from a fully representative expression of that symptom. The behavioral symptoms listed are likewise picked specifically for their fitness to Trump, and a brief search doesn't show any descriptions of the disease that go into that much detail about the associated behavioral issues. That's all to say, it's a meme, not a fact.

fair. Also, is he trying to make his Poor judgement, Loss of Empathy, Socially Inappropriate Behavior, Lack of Inhibition, Inability to Concentrate or Plan, Frequent Abrupt Mood Changers, Speech Difficulties, and Memory Loss hang in a more flattering way?

All perfectly valid reasons to deem him unfit for office, so why make up more? This and comments on his (or anyone's) appearance only distract from the multitude of very valid issues with him. I mean you only need a video of him speaking to see that he vomits verbal diarrhea at every opportunity and only cares about himself, why do we need to assign it to some malady?

Were I to believe that most people spreading this actually thought he had some form of dementia, then fine, that's a valid reason to call him unfit. But I don't believe that, and it sets a poor precedent going forward to call attention away from his open bigotry and genuinely horrific policies to bring up these invented illnesses that aren't actually going to change anyone's mind. It only serves as an insult to make people who already dislike him feel better and give his supporters and fence-sitters more reason to ignore factually founded opposition. Look forward to this for every election.

I mean all you really have to do is post quotes right from the horse's mouth. If those don't speak to his issues, nothing will.

Don't forget when Romney got beat. Romney, hey. Did you see his? I wonder if he enjoyed his flight in last night. But when Romney got beaten, you know, he stands up like you're more typical, "Well, I'd like to congratulate the victor." The victor? Who is the victor, Mitt? "I'd like to congratulate." They don't go and look at the facts. No, I don't know. He got, he got slaughtered. Probably, maybe it was OK, maybe it was. But that's what happened.

[-] zarkanian@sh.itjust.works 3 points 8 months ago

All of those things you described are the reasons why he shouldn't run the country. Why bring illness into it?

[-] Cypher@lemmy.world 4 points 8 months ago

hurr just point out the laundry list of symptoms instead of the scary medical words

[-] N_Crow@leminal.space 31 points 8 months ago

It isn't an insult when you are actually non-ironically worried that the person might have it.

[-] NotSpez@lemm.ee 75 points 8 months ago

Or ol’ Donnie knows his shrivelled up dick is extremely well protected by his overhanging belly.

[-] TheAuthor_13@lemm.ee 24 points 8 months ago

Ummm… it’s a little mushroom, thank you very much.

[-] Gork@lemm.ee 74 points 8 months ago

You know, for a party that is extremely anti-LGBTQ, the Republicans spend an awfully long time talking about penises.

[-] dylanmorgan@slrpnk.net 50 points 8 months ago

And anal sex. I’ve heard way more about man on man anal sex from republicans than I have from my numerous gay friends who are also chronic oversharers.

[-] Cube6392@beehaw.org 15 points 8 months ago

Its the casualness. Gay men talk about gay sex the same way straight men talk about straight sex: clumsily, and frequently.

"Straight" men talking about gay sex talk about gay sex how romantic novelists talk about sex: detailed, florid, and full of euphemisms that someone paint an even more detailed portrait

[-] kandoh@reddthat.com 9 points 8 months ago

Everyone is a kind of gay, but only conservatives are denied exploring those feelings so it presents in odd way like this.

[-] autokludge@programming.dev 70 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

Huh, dickhead confirmed

[-] Cheems@lemmy.world 57 points 8 months ago

Republicans spend hours analyzing cocks and say they are based and alphas. I do it and they ask me to leave the library.

[-] Asafum@feddit.nl 4 points 8 months ago

The key is to do that research with your pants on.

[-] harry_balzac@lemmy.world 4 points 8 months ago

takes notes furiously

[-] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 2 points 8 months ago

think i'm gonna need a taste test to really be sure

[-] Zehzin@lemmy.world 51 points 8 months ago

6 year old taking a picture next to grandma energy

[-] protist@mander.xyz 22 points 8 months ago

Did Trump steal that coat from a toddler?

[-] doofer_name@feddit.de 14 points 8 months ago

Nah. That’s his. He’s the toddler.

[-] RestrictedAccount@lemmy.world 43 points 8 months ago

Donnie’s gut is so big, if he clasped his hands they wouldn’t go below his belly button.

[-] ChicoSuave@lemmy.world 20 points 8 months ago

Yeah, Trump stands like that because if he tried to cross his arms or hold his hands it would show how enormous his gut is.

[-] Honytawk@lemmy.zip 36 points 8 months ago

Trump doesn't have cock confidence either.

He just can't fold his tiny hands together since he is so fat.

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[-] halvar@lemm.ee 35 points 8 months ago

They are both standing next to what we think could have been a three-thousand year old space-witch. I would say Obama is cock-precautious and Trump is cock-foolish.

[-] UnhingedFridge@lemmy.world 7 points 8 months ago

Heh, foolhardy.

[-] adam_y@lemmy.world 25 points 8 months ago

By that logic the queen has gut shame.

[-] wick@lemm.ee 2 points 8 months ago

I'm sure the rabid dogs of the conservative movement consider women feeling shame desirable.

[-] xantoxis@lemmy.world 22 points 8 months ago

We have firsthand accounts that Trump has a little weird dick, but being obscenely proud of the most mundane and unimpressive "accomplishments" is very on brand for him.

[-] KingThrillgore@lemmy.ml 20 points 8 months ago

You think people actually believe this shit

[-] ZombieMantis@lemmy.world 20 points 8 months ago

Unfortunately, yes.

[-] Asafum@feddit.nl 19 points 8 months ago

Very much yes.

If people believe crystals heal, the earth is flat, and Epstein killed himself, I can 100% see people believing this especially since it says nice things about Mango Mussolini.

[-] Phegan@lemmy.world 5 points 8 months ago
[-] stress_headache@lemmy.world 17 points 8 months ago

It's because he's too fat to stand like that.

[-] dumpsterlid@lemmy.world 17 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

If I was standing next to a disposed dictator from possibly the most brutal modern empire who was not overthrown but instead given control over a massive amount of real estate and just let free to do whatever they want as a filthy rich person… I would protect my balls too you don’t know what someone unhinged like that is going to do and you KNOW there isn’t going to be consequences for them so more than anyone else in the world they have zero fear about going for a nut kick.

Besides the whole English royalty thing is such a lame game of Simon says where rich insular people copy the aesthetics of other rich insular people to accrue more power, it is just like high school, so there could easily be a “Royal Nutcracker” that royalty does when men are around them with their balls uncovered and nobody would bat an eye, not the British public, not the news media, not British politicians… they would all just sigh and say “That’s our queen!” and laugh at you as you reeled in pain.

[-] alcoholicorn@lemmy.ml 5 points 8 months ago

If I was standing next to a disposed dictator from possibly the most brutal modern empire who was not overthrown but instead given control over a massive amount of real estate and just let free to do whatever they want as a filthy rich person… I would protect my balls too you don’t know what someone unhinged like that is going to do and you KNOW there isn’t going to be consequences for them so more than anyone else in the world they have zero fear about going for a nut kick.

Are you implying the queen was trans?

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[-] RedC@sh.itjust.works 9 points 8 months ago

At least Barry O knows how to tuck his damn shirt in

[-] Midnitte@beehaw.org 5 points 8 months ago

Are you sure Dumpf just doesn't know what to do with his tiny hands?

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