This tuck tape fucking rocks, I can swim again
Can't go to the bathroom with it cause it ain't sticky, but sacrifices must be made to wear a one piece
getting disqualified from no nut november after i was caught using performance enhancing drugs (estrogen)
Update on the girl I'm kinda crushing on, I think I maybe messed up. I met her for coffee today, and at one point I was telling a story and she interjected just to tell me I'm very cute, so maybe that means she's interested in me too. But because I'm a loser I didn't know how to respond so I just looked down and smiled and kept yapping and now I'm worried that if she was flirting, she might think I'm disinterested or rude because I didn't reciprocate.
lol obviously she's at least a little interested if she's stopping you mid-sentence to say you're cute. just send a message now like "hey it made me really happy when you called me cute earlier. i think you're cute too" or something
So got these sour noodles at the dollar store, vegan as far as I can tell and they taste pretty great.
dysphoria
I have come to realize that I am significantly more affected by dysphoria than I thought. I realized how much of a prison guyness feels like and how much I hate feeling like one. I feel like I'm always a little bit aware of what I look like and what I sound like and it makes human interaction feel so much harder.
I think I'm developing feelings for a man who's already in a relationship. Fuck
First thing in the morning, show some trans comrade love.
gendered language musing? Idk workshopping, indirectly flirty
"Good girl"
"Good boy"
"Good... bee?" 🐝
(idk I kinda think "bee" as short for enby sounds cute)
facial hair of days past
Oddly gender affirming teaching my transmasculine comrade how to do a wet shave for his face. Glad someone gets to use that knowledge know that I no longer need it. Wet shaving was one of the few rituals that I enjoyed when I had the facial hair, always felt so nice to whip up the warm foam and earn the smooth face.
Just got back from a show, it was the first show ive been to in years. It was so fun!!! Like 90% trans people, it was perfect ^^ felt actually comfy there, surrounded by beautiful trans people and listening to power violence ^^
Are all of the transes depressed in autumn or something?
We've been getting btfo by the news mega.
Unacceptable.
Someone start posting controversial takes to drive engagement.
Being told saying that saying holding hands is is a played out joke is disheartening. Who said I was joking those are some of the best dreams I've had
I'm scared that I might not be cis and in denial. I tell myself it's just me feeling like I don't want to / can't live up to the standards of masculinity, that my genitals specifically don't give me dysphoria so I cant be trans , but maybe I'm just scared of adding more complications to my life of adding another form of discrimination I'll get to have , that I feel like I'll never find anyone and presenting myself another way will make it 100x harder . Why do I cry if I even begin to imagine myself looking feminine , I just want to close my eyes and have them not open.
Who wants to go Halloween costume shopping with me and by Halloween costume shopping I mean finding a single fucking good woman's outfit for regular wear
kinda sadposting
Really fighting the i am fundamentally unwantable thoughts today . Literally only because I felt awkward earlier while at a friends place and now im just holding back the flood of thoughts and ruminations and anxieties. I just want to be comfortable with my friends, but ive got too many maladaptive processes, and my maladaptive processes dont interface well with everyone elses (i guess thats part of why their maladaptive now and not just adaptive anymore...).
spoiler entertaining my ruminations
I have a really deep seated belief that i am unwantable . That any expression of wanting to be around me is a lie, or intended to be deceptive. I know its not true, but, well, under duress we regress . And when im stressed or anxious or feel awkward my ability to counter that thought goes out the window. Like its not even a thought, its axiomatic . And i cant seem to do anything about it! Im aware of it, i try to counter it by ignoring it, by ignoring my discomfort, but it never goes away, and I dont know what steps to take to change that process.
People ask me about it sometimes, but i just and tell them its nothing, im fine; I dont want to make my friends deal with my weird shit. Like, when im in these spaces I require an explicit "i want to spend time with you and will be sad if you leave " (yes the hug is included in the quotes, i require hugs) in order to not feel bad guilty and shameful for existing near my friends. But they shouldnt have to say that; i should be able to understand "feel free to hang out if you want" actually is an invitation, and not a thinly veiled attempt to get me to leave.
Fuck my brain
Here is a portrait I drew of me and my brain:
Does anyone else find life kind of bittersweet?
story
Idk if it makes sense, but like I went clubbing with a friend of mine and we met up with some of his friends. I vibed really well with his one friend 'James' (not his real name) and my friend, James and I wound up going to get something to eat before heading to James' place where we watched some anime. My friend fell asleep and one thing lead to another and me and James did a lot of kissing, cuddling and heavy petting. The next day we met up too and the same thing happened, but before that we also went to get something to eat and then we cuddled while watching some anime. And he isn't pushy and doesn't seem to only want sex. Idk it felt like he was interested in something more.
And like it sounds great, but also so incredibly bittersweet as I knew this would never lead to more as he didn't know I was trans. It was a reminder of something I feel like I'll never have, and now I have to kill off whatever spark was there. Honestly I just bawled my eyes out because of this realization that any relationship developing organically seems basically impossible while trans. At best I'll get to wade through awful dating apps and in the end any partner I might find will have to know I'm trans which makes me sick. Idk it feels like cruel joke to have something great within reach, but then realizing it will never ever work out.
I’m definitely part of skirt gang now, ya’ll. Got so many compliments and some creepy old men staring at me, which i’ll still take as a win.
Got some dark purple nail polish today, really looking forward to it. I've been wanting purple for a while now
Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!! People keep changing plans and its super overwhelming!!!!!!!! My fun family time has turned into me curling up and crying far away from everyone because the plans kept changing rapidly and everything was so confusing
I'm at that point 2 weeks out from a laser session where the hair is falling out again
Well, we voted to reject the proposal. So, unless the government changes very rapidly... we voted to strike.
whining, dysphoria
Showering is awful, I hate being alone with my thoughts and horrible body. Being reminded of all the things I hate about it. The dysphoria, the scars, everything.
Also can't shave for shit. Not sure how I'm supposed to when I can't even see what I'm doing. The perfect way to ruin a good mood.
Will be seeing a cute guy I met recently again today, but I don't think he knows I'm trans, so it'll be the last time I see him. So yaa, quite sad about that🥲
Somewhat positively though, I think I've narrowed down my future career goals, and my HRT dose was increased.
Hoping comrades @ashinadash@hexbear.net and @magi@hexbear.net are doing okay.
The purple is just as pretty as I hoped Its a little glittery too, feels amazing.
When I look at old pictures of myself I see a guy now, pretty cool stuff.
thinking about that home made pesto pasta I had the otther day again. damn that shit was so good. fresh basil just has such a smell and absolute powerful verdant look to it in pesto
Talk of sex drive on estrogens, masturbation
Before I didn't like horniness on testosterone because of how often I felt the need to get off, and overall I think I'm some form of ace so that made it worse. On estrogen I rarely feel horney and its so nice. I can just go like 2 weeks without getting off and just be fine, and when I do get horny, I actually like it
bottom dysphoria, masturbation
Main problem is I still get erections. Even if I just stimulate the tip I still get them, so maybe a vibrator will help me idk. Just having a dick and balls just annoys me, and having to see them if I want to have fun times is frustersting.
Also I still get random erections and it sucks
One day I will upgrade from a "service dog in training" and become a "service dog"
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