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[–] Sheepy@sh.itjust.works 73 points 4 days ago (5 children)

This is so painfully close to being Loss. There's got to be a way to juggle those squares around just right.

[–] uuldika@lemmy.ml 31 points 4 days ago

is this Das?

[–] Jay@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 2 days ago

Is this Verlust?

[–] Apytele@sh.itjust.works 5 points 3 days ago

Omg I thought that was the joke.

[–] seralth@lemmy.world 6 points 4 days ago

Wait this isn't loss?!

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[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

in order of masculine, feminine, neuter, plural

  • nominative: der, die, das, die
  • accusative: den, die, das, die
  • dative: dem, der, dem, den
  • genititive: des, der, des, der

which becomes:

  • RESE
  • NESE
  • MRMN
  • SRSR

in high school I pronounced this mnemonic as:

  • resee
  • nesee
  • Mormon
  • sir sir

My teacher didn't like the "Mormon" bit, he wanted me to say "merman" but I found it easier to remember "Mormon" and his discomfort only made it stick better, lol.

[–] Skullgrid@lemmy.world 54 points 4 days ago (3 children)

Fuck gender and fuck german for letting "the" get THIS fucking out of control.

I studied this fucker for 5 years in secondary school, got a B , but fuck it.

I'm learning/speaking Spanish now, it's still got gender and el/la/al but it's not this bad.

My first language of Turkish doesn't even have "the" for fucks sake.

[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 16 points 4 days ago (1 children)

there's a cheat code called "not giving a fuck" where you just say "die" or "das" for every word, and natives will just cringe slightly and then forget about it

[–] Distractor@lemm.ee 10 points 3 days ago (3 children)

Afrikaans (one of my mother tongues) uses "die" for everything. The first time my (German speaking) partner overheard me saying "die man" he was so freaked out 😂 He still can't deal with it, it's just too wrong for his brain.

[–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Das Mädchen und das Weib haben kein Mitleid für die man

[–] Distractor@lemm.ee 2 points 2 days ago
[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 5 points 3 days ago (2 children)

tbf i empathize, sweden has remnant gendering and hearing someone use the wrong suffix makes me barely able to parse it as the same word

hell in some cases it literally just ends up being a different word, "the table" is "bordet" but "the tables" is "borden", while "the chair" is "stolen"

it'll be interesting to see if this changes in the future, considering we have a significant diaspora of middle-eastern immigrants who just give up and use "-et" for everything.

[–] lime@feddit.nu 4 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (11 children)

you're forgetting to mention the best part about swedish grammatical gender: since it's all vestigial there are no rules left for which word gets what. the words are not gendered, but the suffixes are.

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[–] porous_grey_matter@lemmy.ml 1 points 2 days ago (1 children)

That's weird, Germans have usually heard Dutch before which also uses 'De' for most things (except randomly some words still have vestigal neuter article 'het'), same in plattdeutsch in their own damn country (they have 'dat' for neuter).

[–] Distractor@lemm.ee 1 points 2 days ago (1 children)

De is not a german word, whereas die is feminine in german.

[–] porous_grey_matter@lemmy.ml 1 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Yeah, but die is also "that" so people say "die man" all the time.

[–] Distractor@lemm.ee 1 points 2 days ago (1 children)

The word "that" is either "dass" when used as a conjunctive, or gendered when used as an adjective, adverb or pronoun. So depending on the part of speech and case, "that man" could be translated as "der Mann", "dieser Mann", "der da", "den", "welcher", or "jener".

Die is also the plural form, so they will say "die Männer", but never "die Mann" singular.

[–] porous_grey_matter@lemmy.ml 1 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

I'm talking about Dutch, sorry for being unclear, I thought "man" rather than "Mann" would make it clear. I'm just saying the phonetic sequence "die man" is something many Germans will have heard before from nearby and related languages. I understand that it could be surprising the first time.

I'm a native Dutch speaker and have a German partner and live in a German speaking country (although my standard German isn't amazing, B1-2ish) so I'm not totally ignorant of the parts of speech in Germanic languages.

[–] Distractor@lemm.ee 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Ah, that makes sense. Apologies for the grammar lesson :)

We don't travel to the Netherlands or Belgium all that often, and when we do everyone speaks English to us, whereas my mom just visited us for a month, so ¯_(ツ)_/¯

[–] porous_grey_matter@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Nah you're good, hopefully other people reading will find it interesting. You're right, English usually works better across that border, unless they speak Platte in which case it can be a tossup if someone doesn't have great English.

[–] Distractor@lemm.ee 2 points 2 days ago

I can communicate in Afrikaans to someone speaking Dutch if both of us speak slowly and use simple language. It's painful though, so I haven't needed it often. Lucky me that English is so widespread :D

[–] Laser@feddit.org 6 points 4 days ago (2 children)

Spanish is a rather easy language

German on the other hand not so much. On the other hand, it's usually very precise and information-dense, which is reflected in how fast it rather slow it's spoken, especially compared to Spanish.

[–] rumschlumpel@feddit.org 7 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

Eh, there's lots of filler in German, too. I learned both Spanish and German and as far as I can tell, Spain-Spanish fast talking is more a feature of cultural extroversion than anything inherent to the language. Even many of the american Spanish speakers speak considerably slower than the Spaniards, and there's no obvious reason why Spanish should be spoken so much faster than Italian, Portuguese or even French.

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[–] subiprime@lemmy.blahaj.zone 14 points 3 days ago (1 children)

6 articles?

amateurs...

meanwhile the polish words for "this" and "that":

[–] Allero@lemmy.today 5 points 3 days ago

Same across other Slavic languages

[–] azolus@slrpnk.net 30 points 4 days ago

Ist das Verlust?

[–] Prunebutt@slrpnk.net 21 points 4 days ago

Babe wake up. The German grammar political compass just dropped.

[–] saltnotsugar@lemmy.world 20 points 4 days ago

I’d like to start a petition to replace all these bad boys with “deez.” For example: Deez Frau ist mit deez Hut…uhhhh…getanzt.

[–] Muscle_Meteor@discuss.tchncs.de 14 points 4 days ago (2 children)

You think this is bad you should see a chart that explains the prepositions across the cases... Jfc

[–] kopasz7@sh.itjust.works 9 points 4 days ago (3 children)

This actually makes more sense than the arbitrary grammatical genders. (Sure, english has it simpler with, "from where", "where" and "where to")

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[–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 1 points 2 days ago

I’m a nonnative German teacher and holy fuck is this helpful. I learned each of these separately and at different times with great effort, but I will be sharing this with my students, because it’s way easier to remember with this visualization. Thank you!!

[–] abbiistabbii@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 3 days ago (1 children)

English: We have one definitive article: "The".

Me: OK, that's nice and simple.

Scots Gaelic: Our's is a little more complicated. We have "An", which becomes "Am" for words beginning with B and P, for words starting with an h as the second letter (Th, Bh, Mh...) we use "A' ", and for plurals we "na", oh and if the first word in a word is a vowel, you slap "h-" onto it.

Me: OK, a we bit more complex but I can vibe with it, German what's your Definitive articles?

German:

[–] yetAnotherUser@lemmy.ca 3 points 3 days ago

and if the first word in a word is a vowel

Damn, that sounds a bit complex /j (Thanks for the insight on how Gaelic definitive articles work btw)

[–] ZILtoid1991@lemmy.world 6 points 3 days ago (1 children)
[–] GraniteM@lemmy.world 6 points 3 days ago

No one who speaks German could be an evil man!

[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 3 days ago

akkusativ my beloved <3

[–] bownage@beehaw.org 9 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (1 children)
[–] rumschlumpel@feddit.org 7 points 4 days ago (5 children)

I wish it worked this way, but nooo, neutral gender is only 'for things' and 'dehumanizing'.

[–] Peter_Arbeitslos@feddit.org 7 points 4 days ago

Gendern nach Phettberg enters the room

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[–] flango@lemmy.eco.br 7 points 4 days ago (1 children)
[–] Laser@feddit.org 7 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Though it'd be maybe even more helpful if you're and columns were named; from my understanding, the columns are "male | female | neuter | plural" and the rows "Nominativ | Akkusativ | Dativ | Genitiv"

[–] barsoap@lemm.ee 3 points 3 days ago (1 children)

They are, it's just transparent thus you get black on lemmy background dark grey.

[–] Laser@feddit.org 2 points 3 days ago

Haha ok, thanks, I had no idea

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