By stepping back into an abusive relationship and not knowing how to get out without fear of the person committing suicide and leaving 3 children with no parent.
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I was clearing some brush with a machete, 6 stitches in my shin.
That reminds me of a few years ago when I noticed a neighbor down the street running a weed eater while wearing a small bikini. She had on heavy gardening gloves and safety goggles, but to protect the rest of her whole body just the bikini. And it was a really big-ass weed eater too, the kind with the extra side handle. Might have even been gas powered.
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I can see you on the hill
Comatose but walking still
Curves beneath your flowing gown
Only I could bring you down
Why do I keep fuckin' up?
Wrapped my 4yo in a big towel on the way back from the hotel pool and shortly after challenged him to a race to our room. He immediately tripped on the towel and hit his head because his arms were under the towel. Fortunately just got a bump and some rug burn on his forehead
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I ate too many blueberries yesterday and regret it today.
I'm someone who can eat multiple pounds of blueberries in one sitting. Next time, try spraying them thoroughly with vinegar and letting them soak for at least 5min, 10 or even 20 is better. Then rinse thoroughly with water. There are some tummy upsetting molds and bacterias that are neutralized by the vinegar. This works for any berries or easily spoilt produce. It's majorly cut down on the "consequences" of my grape and berry binges.
Yeah, I do a vinegar bath when brining berries home from the grocery store. Just fill a mixing bowl with water, then add like two cups of white distilled vinegar. Let the berries soak while you put away the rest of the groceries.
I started doing it after I had some strawberries get visibly moldy only one day after I bought them. I was pissed. Since I started soaking them in diluted vinegar, they don’t get moldy anymore. They literally dry out and shrivel before they go bad. I just dunk the entire container into the mixing bowl, and let the entire thing float while I put my groceries away. Then give them a quick rinse with the sink sprayer before they go in the fridge.
When I notice them starting to dry out, I just move them to the freezer instead; They still taste fine, so after they start to dry, I use them in smoothies instead.
I didn't know this was possible, could you share what you think the critical amount is?
This is obviously a fabrication. Blueberries are delicious and there's no too many about it.
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I left a thermocouple connector unsecured and it fell onto an aftertreatment unit during testing.
When the aftertreatment unit was red hot the connector caught fire. 👌
Was my first time ever using a fire extinguisher!
Oh I got this. Real good fuck up. So, I run a bunch of services for me and family and friends, like Nextcloud, Immich, Mastodon, etc. All of their data is stored on a big RAID array built with mdadm. I built it before I knew about dm-integrity, so I wanted to rebuild it with dm-integrity running on all the disks. So I took out one disk (it’s a RAID6, so it can stand losing a disk just fine), and added dm-integrity on top of it. When I tried to add it back to the array, mdadm was like, “that’s not a big enough device”. Ok, yeah, makes sense, dm-integrity takes up some space. So I took all the services offline and started a resize2fs to reduce from 22TB to 18TB. Well that was taking forever, so I canceled and ran e2fsck, no worries. I started a new resize2fs reducing from 22TB to 21.8TB, which should be good enough. On pass 4, it’s looking like it’s gonna take 8 DAYS. I can’t have my services offline for that long, so I cancel and run e2fsck. Thousands of errors. Oops.
At least it’s looking like all the errors are just in Mastodon’s cache files.
So now I’m moving all the files to an external drive in order to migrate the array properly. In its degraded state though, the array is painfully slow. At least my services are online.
So basically I risked my files (though I have a backup from about three days before all this), and gave myself an extra maybe ten days(?) of work.
Moral of the story, don’t ever use resize2fs unless you have time to wait.
I've done something like this before, but thankfully it only impacted services that I host for my own use, didn't affect any family and friends.
Btw, I've found the easiest (but not the cheapest) way to fix this is to simply buy bigger disks. Swap out each disk for a bigger one one-by-one, then resize the whole volume to fill the new disks. Resizing upwards is much faster than shrinking a volume.
I've never had a volume shrink operation work without errors, and yes it takes days if you have more than 4TB.
Posting online that Luigi did nothing wrong? Social Credit™? Flagged.
What is that ? is that what the chinese have ?
Coming soon, to a ~~livestock pen~~ US community near you! 😅
I printed 200 labels at work all with a typo on it, so I had to print 200 more. Good thing the only thing that cost me was my time lol
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Very minor, but I very recently changed deoderant after not being able to find the one I usually use. I just got to a clinic for a medication infusion and it has completely worn off, being replaced by the smell of stress sweat from traffic, and now this poor nurse has to smell me while I get my medicine, so I am mortified.
If it helps, I'm pretty sure stress sweat is far from the worst thing that nurse routinely smells. By a long shot.
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Forgot a lunch box for weeks at work, and then they threw it out while I was sick, so now I have to buy a new lunch box.
That's quite rude. I'm lucky at my work they just throw the food out and wash the Tupperware.
I made sure I told them, too, that I would've cleaned it and taken it home had I not been sick since the day before they posted the ultimatum and gave me 3 working days until they threw it out.
It was a nice glass container too.
I am the one at my workplace who throws moldy lunchboxes away. Though in pur fridge it is mostly unopened yoghurts that somebody brings and forgets about. So disappointing how much food is wasted
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I planted hydrangeas in an area with too much sun exposure and they're getting scorched leaves while I wait for shade cloth to ship
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I did nothing to improve my situation
Left my bicycle unattended (but locked) for 3 days. Came back to a bicycle without tires. Rip 300€
Damn that sucks. I have a chain lock but it only loops through the frame and front wheel. I use a shitty old cable with it to loop through the back tire and my pannier strap if I’m leaving it on the bike. I do this because I’ve had a wheel jacked before also, it fucking sucks.
If it makes you feel better, most of my major fuck ups are cooking related. I was boiling down some dr. Pepper for jerky marinade and fell asleep. Didn't wake up to alarms until my wife woke me up. Pretty embarrassing, and really makes you doubt your own ability to do things. Eventually you get over it and just get cagey about the very specific lead up steps, which is probably a good thing.
I set some humming bird food to boil a while back. Got distracted in the other room and smelled smoke. Went back into the kitchen and couldn't see the stove there was so much smoke. Then the smoke alarm went off. Very effective. Took hours to scrub the burn sugar out of the pot and days to get rid of the smoke smell in the house.
Pro tip, always set a timer when you walk away from something on the stove.
About, oh my a decade ago, I had what I call the toffpocalypse. I was drinking and decided to make toffee from sweetened condensed milk by boiling the cans in a pot. Well I inevitably fell asleep and woke up to the alarms in the entire apartment blaring. There was a thick smoke and the dog had pooped on the floor in fear. The cans had exploded when the water boiled away, denting the ceiling and the stove hood. I turned off the stove, opened the windows, and fanned the smoke until the alarms stopped. Luckily the building alarms had not gone off.
I had intended it to be a video gaming heavy weekend as my wife was away visiting a friend. Instead I had to use wet rags to clean toffee off of the ceiling as best as I could for all of Sunday. I did manage to mostly get it all clean. It was a good lesson to learn not to actively cook while not sober, the results could have been much worse, even fatal
When I was living in a boarding-school like arrangement for people with disabilities once, they had really sensitive smoke detectors and if you tripped them needlessly, you were in for a hell of liability, because they immediately caused complete evacuation pocedures and an automated emergency call where not just a small contingent of firefighters were called. One night, one person forgot their pasta boiling on the stove and fell asleep on the couch in exhaustion - so deeply and long, that all the water boiled away and the noodles burned and tripped the alarm. That exhaustion cost them several thousands of Euros.
Caught my shoelaces in my bike chain trying to avoid a shitty driver who almost ran me off the road (I did successfully not get hit by this idiot and eventually got him to realize how bad he was fucking up, yay).
Tired of this bullshit and am probably going to convert my bike from chain and derailleur to belt and hub like I have on my Priority Folder.
This is kinda long and kinda vague: I had a meeting recently with some devs/artists to discuss an upcoming project.
In short, the meeting went poorly. I stood alone against everyone else on the design/direction things were going to be headed.
I was tired and frustrated and walked away basically saying I'm not going to support any of it.
After mulling it over for a day, I felt I was too harsh and unreasonable. I reached back out and apologized and asked to give this one more try.
Well they didn't accept. I guess that bridge is too scorched to go back on. It wasn't until that point that I realized I really messed this one up.
Bought some parts for my car without checking they fit. Two hour round trip to pick them up, hours grinding the old rust off them, more hours repainting them, another £100 buying all the extra bits I needed to fit them. Then got under the car and realised there was no way they were going to fit. Ended up just buying some refurbished ones off the internet so at least the extra parts weren’t wasted and I get to fit them.
They were anti-roll bars for anyone who cares.
Recently? The worst was accidentally drinking coffee too late in the evening a few days ago, which, sadly, was more than enough to mess up my well-being for several days at this point in my life.
My bathtub faucet plunger that diverts water to the shower head wasn't working anymore so I couldn't shower. I bought a new one with chrome finish to match the existing hardware in the bathroom. Installed it
Then I decided to CLR douse the water valve and decorative plate and get rid of some hard water staining. It dripped onto the new faucet which clearly wasn't made of the same material because it instantly oxidized.
So that was infuriating.
I was replacing the runner lights for our stairs and was having some resistance pulling, so I tried pulling the other way. It’s currently stuck and I’ll need to take off a section of molding to push it back through. At least I did the other side correctly