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He meows. Makes hard eye contact but if I touch him , he gets mad and runs off.

What? What do you want!?!?! Why are you staring at me and meowing if you don't actually want me to do anything?!

He also seems to get mad and run off if I just look back at him and not try to pet him.

If I try to ignore him he just rolls around and sometimes does this little ridiculous "tantrum" deal where he will stand up and dramatically throw himself down and then roll onto his back. It's always loud cause he's a big cat. It can't feel very good. But he does it all the time.

Idk. Maybe he just likes being dramatic.

Anyway. Any cat whisperers who have figured it out, let me know.

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[–] ef9357@lemmy.world 4 points 5 hours ago

He’s bored and wants to play.

[–] Lupo@lemmy.world 3 points 5 hours ago

To feel the weight of their sins on their bellies instead of their backs.

Like a weighted blanket

It's comfy

[–] Xanthrax@lemmy.world 2 points 4 hours ago

"You gotta be quicker than that"

[–] Fedizen@lemmy.world 10 points 14 hours ago

It means the cat is bored

[–] reksas@sopuli.xyz 10 points 15 hours ago

i think it means they want attention, when my cat did this she wanted me to pet her or go to her so she would have me follow and show she wants to go out or have some food.

I assumed she just knew how cute she is and deliberately wanted to be even more cute so i would have to come to her, which i always did precisely for that reason.

[–] Paranoidfactoid@lemmy.world 23 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Showing their belly means they trust you. If they let you rub their belly they really trust you.

[–] TheMinister@sh.itjust.works 10 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

First part is correct. Second part not necessarily. Some don’t like having their bellies touched no matter how much they trust you. The show of trust is exposing their belly, going for he belly is usually taken as a betrayal of that trust.

[–] Buddahriffic@lemmy.world 1 points 13 hours ago

Yeah, I've had good results just going for the chest instead of the chest and belly. Then they can interact with their front paws or head if they want to, and you avoid getting raked with the rear claws if they suddenly decide petting was ok up to then but must stop immediately.

Also don't go from 0 to 100 instantly, unless you know the cat well. Ramp up the intensity more slowly so the cat isn't jolted around unexpectedly or feels out of control. Same thing if you pick them up. If they instantly start squirming around, they aren't comfortable. Maybe it's nervousness about being dropped, maybe they just don't want to be carried.

[–] SocialMediaRefugee@lemmy.world 11 points 1 day ago (2 children)

What if you stick you face in their belly and go "wuzza wuzza wuzza"?

[–] Sergio@piefed.social 21 points 1 day ago (1 children)

It depends. It's like when a human says "I love you." In some cases it's time to blow them a kiss and cook them some crepes. In other cases it's time to double-check your safeword and tighten the straps.

[–] Ghostie@lemmy.zip 12 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Check eyes. Dilated pupils. Combat mode.

[–] fodor@lemmy.zip 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

One of my cats lays on her back and stretches out when she's hot. If you try to scratch her belly, she will claw your arm off. So she has clearly communicated that I should not scratch her belly and that's an easy message to understand based on the scars.

My other cat loves belly scratches, but she prefers if I pick her up for them.

The easy thing to do is try various actions and then stop doing the ones that result in you getting your arm torn off, and whatever's left over, that's what the cat likes

[–] zerofk@lemmy.zip 1 points 13 hours ago

What if you don’t figure it out before losing both arms?

[–] TerrabyteMarx@quokk.au 7 points 1 day ago

Head cup and little scratch behind ear. Quality trust time, ignore incidental cat tum for now.

[–] Notyou@sopuli.xyz 12 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Belly rubs and blood. Did you try slow blinking at him before touching? Maybe he wants you to touch him but is nervous.

[–] daannii@lemmy.world 9 points 1 day ago

Sometimes he will do kitty winks back and forth with me. But tummy is off limits.
He has never liked that.

I think he wants to play with a wand toy. He seems open to that.

[–] SocialMediaRefugee@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] JackFrostNCola@aussie.zone 3 points 18 hours ago

Sometimes i protecc, but mostly i attacc

Mine wants belly rubs. This goes on for a bit until he decides you are a chew toy now.

[–] Klear@quokk.au 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Where does he run off to? Me might be trying to bring you somewhere.

[–] daannii@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

Just gets up. Runs off a bit. Looks back at me. Like I did something wrong. Cause I guess I did.

I think he's wanting to play as some others have suggested. Play with a fishing rod or wand. But no touchy .

[–] Supervisor194@lemmy.world 22 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Try getting a feather on a stick type toy and pulling it out when he does this. I'd say he wants to play, but doesn't want to engage your actual huge ape body when it comes down to it. In any case, it's a sign he considers you his human. He's really a beautiful cat.

I have a heavy cloth, like canvas, stuffed tube that I break out when he is on his back with crazy eyes. I know he wants to get a good "dig" in. I rub the tube on his belly and he'll latch onto it a tear into it like he's gotten some sweet prey. I'll even hold one end and drag him around the floor and rotate him while he furiously kicks and chews it.

[–] sploder@lemmy.world 17 points 1 day ago (1 children)

My cat does this when she’s happy. She’ll fall asleep like that with a literal little smile on her face in the sun and when I see it I explode because it’s so damn cute. She’s also an old girl so I have to kinda make sure she’s breathing these days and didn’t literally go belly up and give up the ghost on me 😭😭

[–] 100_kg_90_de_belin@feddit.it 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Pets really nailed down the manipulation through cuteness

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[–] N0t_5ure@lemmy.world 88 points 2 days ago (6 children)

Cats will often show you their belly as a sign of trust, as it makes them vulnerable. Some cats love to have their bellies rubbed, others view it as a breach of trust and will shred you, even though they flopped over. If it's a cat you don't know, the best thing is to just reach down and scratch the top of their head around the ears. If you want to see how far you can push it, give them scritches under the chin, move down to the upper chest, and inch your way lower to see how far they're okay with going.

[–] CmdrShepard49@sh.itjust.works 104 points 2 days ago

give them scritches under the chin, move down to the upper chest, and inch your way lower to see how far they're okay with going.

This quickly turned into cat fan-fiction

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[–] mvirts@lemmy.world 12 points 1 day ago
[–] mech@feddit.org 61 points 2 days ago

With my cat, it's an invitation to play fight.
So I put on an oven mitt, tickle her belly and she clamps down on it and tries to kill it.
But she doesn't extend her claws or actually bite down, and when I remove my hand she goes back to the position on her back. Which tells me she seems to enjoy it.

[–] robocall@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago
[–] SapphironZA@sh.itjust.works 34 points 1 day ago

Attention. Purely you just talking to him and staying around him is enough usually.

Some head and ear scratches might also be acceptable.

Belly rubs might be interpreted as an attack.

[–] Quibblekrust@thelemmy.club 13 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Put on a thick leather work glove and wrestle him.

[–] SocialMediaRefugee@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I used to do this with my giant Main Coon. I could feel his teeth trying to bury themselves in my hand. Ahhhh!

[–] Quibblekrust@thelemmy.club 1 points 13 hours ago (1 children)
[–] SocialMediaRefugee@lemmy.world 1 points 8 hours ago

I could feel the pressure but they didn't penetrate. He was trying. lol

[–] crank0271@lemmy.world 51 points 2 days ago

Blood (yours)

[–] texture@lemmy.world 16 points 1 day ago (1 children)

hes telling you he likes you and is happy youre here and doing whatever youre doing.

not all cats showing belly want belly touched, simple as.

[–] TipRing@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

Yeah, my cat just wants effusive praise when she does this, she doesn't want me touching her.

[–] PeculiarGoat@lemmy.world 27 points 2 days ago (2 children)
[–] baggachipz@sh.itjust.works 12 points 1 day ago

Pls pet?

No touch! Only pet!

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[–] starblursd@lemmy.zip 42 points 2 days ago

My cat does this for belly rubs... Her software is bugged and doesn't have a limit on belly rubs. Also to scratch her back on the carpet. She will also let me spin her like a beyblade while doing this for some reason and keep laying on her back for more belly rubs

[–] hraegsvelmir@ani.social 2 points 1 day ago

Maybe he's asking you to give it a go, too?

[–] jordanlund@lemmy.world 10 points 1 day ago

Every cat is different. One of ours demands belly rubs like this.

Another one cannot tolerate being touched in any way. You go to pet her and she's like:

https://youtu.be/8DajVKAkL50#t=25s

[–] Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works 24 points 2 days ago

My cat will allow brief chest pets. NOT belly rubs!!!

Mostly I think she just wants me to stop walking and give her my full attention. She flops right at my feet. Usually while I'm carrying something.

Sometimes she'll let me touch her paws too, NOT in a grabby way, just with my fingertips.

(She normally allows face scritches and back pets but this position isn't conducive.)

And sometimes I just take a few seconds to tell her good things about herself, like she's smart and pretty and brave and strong.

Fortunately, cats are cool with the attention only lasting a few minutes.

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