Being aware of your unwanted behaviour is the first step towards modifying it. Good luck!
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I just want to say that this level of self reflection is admirable given your challenges. Tell people you trust or people that need to know only. As far as stigma goes, nobody has it worse.
until you realize trump is president, but the behavior is permissible just not labeling yourself as a narcissist. society does have rules that only exist to isolate us and hostility towards those that are mentally ill is one of them
That seems kind of antisocial and would get a lot of attention, so yeah, win-win!
Why not just talk to a professional?
time, just happened yesterday
Your employer is not your therapist.
Probably a question that should be discussed with a therapist. I dont think people here can give a good answer as we lack to much context.
yes, but this is also a straight up troll.
legit narcissists don't think they are manipulating people, or being narcissists. they see their behavior as 'natural'. they also don't talk about their trauma.
Weird how often I see this take. Narcissism is really Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and it is possible for someone with NPD to recognize they have it and want to change. Not super common, but it is possible.
Yep, although it'd be pretty surprising if it went like this. OP is straight up worried they're being bad to others, and willing to invite embarrassment by announcing it. (Unless they never really meant it)
Like, amateur over-the-internet diagnosis is worthless, but BPD would fit the almost no information we have better.
Sure they will want to change, but they can't, and won't. Narcissists are the worst.
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There’s plenty of narcissists that know they’re narcissists, and there’s therapy tools to help them participate in the world in a more healthy manner, but as you sorta indicated, it’s very rare any want to, and even more rare than any actively go down that path, so seeing someone speaking as if they’re struggling with it internally without seeing any sign of having already developed those tools makes it highly unlikely they’re legit. Probably just regular old mental illness of some sort, maybe attention seeking coupled with drug use and emotional instability. Wonder if they’re single, that’s right up my alley.
Are you really narcissistic or did someone just say you are (rhetorical question for yourself, not the internet)?
If you really are, congratulations, knowing and admitting is a huge thing!
Listen to the other advice, ask a professional.
I feel like you're the first to sincerely ask that. I can answer that I just have a trigger warning about it. Even though the other threads hint to how I know outside of a professional diagnosis
It's a neurodivergent thing, I often ask and say things outside of social habits. Also I don't need the answer nor does it mean anything to me to be blunt, uh, again.
Okay I got ya. Nah I have an hole issue with communication. I don't want problems to get overlooked or needless mistakes to be made.
Probably neurodivergent myself since I can't quite connect to another person
I assume you're asking this because you'd like to reduce the impact of that kind of behaviour.
If that is your goal, then it would be best attained by going to psychotherapy. NCD/ASPD cannot be healed, but it can be treated and its effects greatly reduced, assuming you're willing to put in the work.
If you wish to address these behaviors you need to speak with a therapist. It's nothing to be ashamed of. It's like a workout for your brain. We really can't help you. I wish you well. It's possible to change and better yourself, but only if you truly wish to.
if you truly are a narcissist, they will know after 2-3 talks with you. no worries.
Well if I was a shitty narcissist, but people are catching on that I'm shitty to MAGA and conservatives in general.
You know shitty behavior is still shitty behavior
I consider being shitty to MAGAts good behaviour
Lol they attempt to be toxic like me. I'm just waaaaay more toxic than them
The narcissist we need, but not the narcissist we deserve
Me when I'm about to do a crime: "no one cared who I was before I put on the mask"
Don't worry I'm referring to the time I witnessed someone destroyed an inflatable trump statue
Yeah people will definitely be able to tell you’re a narcissist, so no worries ig
Lol are you actually a cult leader, but if they know I'm a narcissist then I shouldn't feel the need to disclose.
Kinda feel like an injured animal being dog piles by other mentally ill people
You having a feeling isn’t actually linked to what other people know or vice versa
Interesting wording. But yeah it feels like signaled other people to attack my ego. Didn't expect that I would actually retaliate against another narcissist.
You might have mental health issues, but I kind of doubt you have those ones just from the basic context.
I'm going to say no. Try to be nice, let people figure out the rest. And look for some kind of support if possible.
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There is no point in telling them. They either already know or will find out once they meet you.
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Have you been diagnosed as such by a psychiatrist?
Yeah, something else seems to be going on. A narcissist doesn't consider warning people about themselves.
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If you are and you admit it, you’ll get more grace from intelligent people. Sometimes.
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Are you manipulating us right now in order to get some answer you want?
As people said, talk to a therapist. Is this normal behavior or thought patterns? Maybe you’re going through some sort of crisis or psychosis.
Reach out to a professional for help. Good luck!
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