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submitted 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) by Katra5Lives@hexbear.net to c/traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns@hexbear.net

sounds hasty, but its been more than a year since i've found out, and i've done literally nothing

Like literally maybe allowing myself to have pink and purple things without being afraid, and my Power Puff Girls sweater

but thats it

FOR A YEAR

Despite the poor (not like bad, they thought they were helping, its poor in execution) reception when i hinted at experiencing gender dysphoria, I want to let my family know that I am completely and utterly certain.

I have some sort of future, and I want to make the most out of whats possible. Im just so scared.

I don't know why, I'm in a much better position than many of my trans comrades. I can legally try to obtain hormone therapy, as there are gender clinics in Oahu. I know friends (even though they have moved away) and many comrades that could help. Its a wide, but weak, net. But again this is the unreliable narrator shit, It could literally be completely fine, or hell, to do this, im just afraid.

But i'd rather be afraid in my real body than forever stuck in this banal hell.

And hi, I'm Catra!

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[-] thirtymilliondeadfish@hexbear.net 26 points 10 months ago
[-] lilypad@hexbear.net 16 points 10 months ago

Well come out, ye Kat as trans
Come out and tear down cis het plans
Break the chains that bind and keep cisnormati-vity

Show em how there is no chance
That you will turn down this dance
With the gender faeries from the towns and ci-i-tys

[-] Katra5Lives@hexbear.net 13 points 10 months ago

throwing bombs hidden in blahaj's at the cops for my 'gender reveal'

[-] Cromalin@hexbear.net 26 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

i was transitioning for well over a year before coming out to my family. it's terrifying, and i would never judge you for putting it off. i can say for certain that it feels like taking a massive weight off even if they react badly, and i wish you good luck with that!!! i hope everyone accepts the real catra!!!

[-] Katra5Lives@hexbear.net 13 points 10 months ago

Thank you Cromalin, it means a lot meow-hug

[-] heartheartbreak@hexbear.net 24 points 10 months ago

Lmao I did that last year. My new years resolution was to be out and I came out on Jan 2nd lmao

[-] Katra5Lives@hexbear.net 17 points 10 months ago

may i be half as brave as you, the world awaits us!

[-] heartheartbreak@hexbear.net 17 points 10 months ago

If you do it on the second you don't have to do anything for the rest of the year galaxy-brain

[-] Katra5Lives@hexbear.net 18 points 10 months ago

Now thats the kind of motivation that does it

[-] Sasquatch@lemmy.ml 14 points 10 months ago

Wait until December 31 and you don't have to do anything the whole year either. Bonus points if you make a new years party awkward

[-] Orannis62@hexbear.net 18 points 10 months ago

Don't make the mistake of thinking those of us who've already come out are braver than you. Speaking for myself, I was also terrified to come out and terrified for some time after. It was worth it, but that's also easy for me to say now.

There are some things that you have to take slow and there are some things where you just have to take the plunge and DO IT, and I'm not trying to tell you which should be which for you. You'll have to feel it out as you go

[-] Katra5Lives@hexbear.net 16 points 10 months ago

Don't make the mistake of thinking those of us who've already come out are braver than you. Speaking for myself, I was also terrified to come out and terrified for some time after. It was worth it, but that's also easy for me to say now.

Very true, Trans people are brave because every second of existence is a resistance against reaction! Its one of those things where im like "they deserve joy and happiness" and then turn around and say "but for some reason its not true for me I suck". Makes no sense at all.

At the risk of sounding cheesy, being brave is doing something you know is right despite how afraid you are. You are very Brave, as much as the rest of us transgenders.

meow-hug

[-] Orannis62@hexbear.net 7 points 10 months ago

For whatever it's worth, it did get less terrifying for me over time. I don't want to give the impression that it's just all fear all the time. Coming out is in many ways when my life began. It was terrifying to do but it was also so so worth pushing through that fear. Take your time if you need it, you're the only one who can know your circumstances and your timeline, but don't be afraid to give yourself a little push too, if you need it.

Also, if it helps, coming out isn't a binary thing. For me it was a process of slowly coming out to more and more people before I eventually just made a facebook post and told everyone who knew to feel free to tell others. I started HRT towards the beginning of that. There doesn't have to be a set order here.

[-] RION@hexbear.net 14 points 10 months ago

Same. Once I find a new job and get myself my own apartment it's on sight ๐Ÿ˜ค

[-] Katra5Lives@hexbear.net 13 points 10 months ago

LETS GOOOOOOO

Catra solidarity RION -> Kicking this year's ass and getting tits and pretty clothes

[-] lilypad@hexbear.net 14 points 10 months ago

Heia Catra!

Just want to say that regardless of your position resource wise, this is scary. We live in a very cisnormative world that punishes being trans, regardless of how much you make or how many resources are available to you. As others have said, you are just as brave!

[-] Katra5Lives@hexbear.net 14 points 10 months ago
[-] Ocommie63@lemmygrad.ml 14 points 10 months ago

Hiii, Catra ๐Ÿ‘‹๐Ÿ‘‹๐Ÿ‘‹

[-] anothertranscomrade@hexbear.net 7 points 10 months ago

Coming out to my parents is on my list, too. It's been almost six years and I promised myself that it's happening this year.

I believe in you.

[-] Othello@hexbear.net 2 points 10 months ago

im proud of you!

[-] Jenniferrr@hexbear.net 1 points 10 months ago

Hi :) myself am really struggling to come out to family and stuff. Right now I'm doing the guy tying with my family for Christmas- new years and it just sucks. I get the fear though, like I really get it. Just keep doing little things and keep challenging yourself. The nice thing is that it feels so good when you break into the next step.

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