Germany, born early seventies. Background, there was a strong "never again" sentiment after WW2 and to that end we were educated about the horrors of war from an early age. WW2 and the Third Reich was discussed in school and also very present in living memories of grandparents and their friends.

It was made very clear to us where the first nukes would drop (Germany) and who would drop them (Germans). Flexible response was explained to us, the Nato strategy of using nukes first, as well as MAD. We were given estimated times from sirens blaring to explosion. We visited a bunker, and we were imagining nuclear hellscapes and asking ourselves if one should even try to enter a bunker to try to survive. Pershing II were discussed and MIRV, which were new technologies at the time.

Sonic booms from military jets were common, we would respond to that with "Russians are coming". Not fear, but fatalism was the usual response, and a large number of young men would reject draft and opt for civilian service, wanting to do something productive during service instead of training to get pulverized in the first wave.

Then came Gorbatschow, and Reagan would still pursue his star wars programme, which left us scratching our heads.

I was old enough to really remember only towards the very end, but from a kid’s POV in the US:

• It was mostly chill. The Russians were the bad guys in every action movie though.
• We were taught that Communism was bad and the people who lived under it had no freedoms and were hungry all the time.
• We didn’t really do nuke drills or anything, no “duck and cover” or whatever. We knew about it and that it was a possibility but it seemed like that was about it.
• It really was a cool feeling of optimism when the Berlin Wall fell.

Less of a fear that we would get nuked and more of a fear that Reagan would do something colossally stupid.

I think that one's age and the period of time (e.g. 1988, right before the end, and 1962, during the Cuban Missile Crisis were not the same) would be a factor here.

Nuclear war wasn't a constant topic of discussion in my American experience, but more prominent than after the end of the Cold War.

Russia never lost the ability to conduct a large-scale nuclear strike, so in the sense that Moscow or Washington could trigger a large-scale nuclear war, things haven't really functionally changed.

For most of the Cold War, mutually-assured-destruction was a factor, so I think that few expected an intentional surprise attack.

In some ways, risks were lower. The concern shifted towards nuclear terrorism, which is harder to deter.

And nuclear proliferation has meant that instead of two big camps with mutually-assured destruction, geographical separation and the resources to ensure a second strike capability, you have a lot of parties running around who may have a stronger incentive to perform a first strike. Maybe India and Pakistan -- who have fought directly while both had nuclear weapons, for example:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kargil_War

Since Pakistan and India each had weapons of mass destruction, many in the international community were concerned that if the Kargil conflict intensified, it could lead to nuclear war. Both countries had tested their nuclear capability in 1998 (India conducted its first test in 1974 while it was Pakistan's first-ever nuclear test). Many political pundits believed the tests to be an indication of the escalating stakes in the scenario in South Asia. When the Kargil conflict started just a year after the nuclear tests, many nations desired to end it before it intensified.

When the apocalypse is hanging above your head, you tend to appreciate life while it lasts.

Also, music was better.

I remember my school calling everyone in to the gymnatorium for a special announcement. They then told us that our town, and our school specifically, were going to be featured on a television show that night. And that we should all watch it with our families.

When little rizz watched that night with their family, they saw a shot of their school. And they pointed and said, "look!" Right as the warheads detonated over the school and everyone turned into skeletons.

And rizz lost their fricken mind from watching The Day After.

In Australia, attended high school during the 1980s. We were listening to:

• Frankie Goes to Hollywood - Two Tribes

If any member of your family should die while in the shelter, put them outside, but tag them first for identification purposes

• Nena - 99 Luftballons

99 Düsenflieger
Jeder war ein großer Krieger
Hielten sich für Captain Kirk
Es gab ein großes Feuerwerk
(99 ~~balloons~~ [Edit] jet fighters, then there was a big war, they thought they were Captain Kirk, there were big fireworks)

• Sting - Russians

How can I save my little boy
From Oppenheimer’s deadly toy?
What might save us, me and you,
Is if the Russians love their children too

At school, we were taken to see Atomic Cafe, Miracle Mile, and they showed us Threads and The Day After on newfangled video tape. Wrote essays, analysed characters, situations, etc.

I’ve just recently found out that I’m high-functioning autistic, but even so, it’s only been in the past few years that me and my schoolmates, after lots of therapy, have been able to overcome trauma and fears of dying in a nuclear war at any second.

For reference, born in 1966. The possibility of nuclear war was something everyone was aware of but people weren't in constant fear. I think we did nuclear attack drills in grade school but can't say for certain though the joke in the playground was "crawl under your desk, place your head between your knees and kiss your ass goodbye". Just like today there was always some shit hitting the fan folks would freak out about until the next thing came along (Swine flu, Iran hostages, gas shortages). The oddest think I remember is the end of the Soviet Union and tearing down of the Berlin Wall. It was (fortunately) anticlimactic. We had been heard so much about the red scare. After that calling politicians "communist" disappeared for awhile until the kook media revived it

You know how schools have active shooter drills now? We had nuclear attack drills…. Duck and cover people, duck and cover.

If you haven't seen it consider watching Wargames 1983 starring Mathew Broderick. It's fiction and a story of course, but a crazy time capsule as well.

Inundated pop culture - War Games, Red Dawn, Rocky and every movie that needed a bad guy; If the Russians love their children too ...

Well, growing up in the 80s, I thought for a while I might not live to be an adult. I saw The Day After and I lived three blocks from a naval air station.

We often joke now about how the "foreign enemy" in every action movie in the 80s was Russian. Then, in the 90s, it wasn't cool to pick on Russians anymore, and they switched to "Chechin" and "Bosnian" militants. Then, after 9/11, all Arab terrorists. Now, we're getting back to Russians again.

I wouldn't say constant fear. We did duck and cover drills alot in school. That's about it.

In school there were signs for nuclear fallout shelters. Some drills, sort of like tornado drills. Discussion of the bomb was quite frequent and fatalistic. I grew up in a town that did arsenal and weapons testing that often shook the classroom windows.

The thing about mutually assured destruction is that it assures everyone loses. I wasn't too worried. Accidental launches could happen and we got close a couple of times.

Most of the time it was chill. Lots of spy movies. And all sorts of propaganda was flying about.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qfZVu0alU0I

Born early 70s. Depends where you lived I think

If you lived in a country full of gun-owning shitebag cowards, yeah, people are scared of their own shadows

In other countries it was more "Meh"