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[-] scytale@lemm.ee 105 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)
  • Work from home.
  • Can wear whatever I want.
  • Lots of food and can cook whatever I want.
  • A/C temp the way I want it.
  • Comfort of my own bathroom and toilet.
  • Lots of entertainment options (streaming/TV, laptop/PC, games).
  • My hobby is indoors (music).
  • Don't have to spend money just to hang around.
[-] Grandwolf319@sh.itjust.works 50 points 1 month ago

Don't have to spend money just to hang around.

Not to mention there are no more third spaces. When we leave our home, besides going to a park or something, you’re expected to pay at almost all establishments you go to. As in, you have to pay rent to use infrastructure you don’t own, so why not just stay at home since you’ve already paid for using that.

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[-] Mandy@sh.itjust.works 89 points 1 month ago

Having seen how so called extroverts where seemingly going insane 4 years ago, I at this point assume they don't like their own home for some reason

[-] Asafum@feddit.nl 38 points 1 month ago

I think it's an issue with entertaining themselves. Extroverts seek entertainment through social interaction while introverts tend to be able to entertain themselves just fine.

[-] Signtist@lemm.ee 28 points 1 month ago

Even my introverted friends were getting stir crazy in 2020. By the end of that year I was the only one I knew who was still perfectly content to be snuggled under a blanket putzing around online all day... I mean working from home.

[-] Noodle07@lemmy.world 28 points 1 month ago

My gamer friends and I had the best of times, we were back to being teenagers

[-] Mandy@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 month ago

i saw my friends kinda go nuts too

it was surreal

[-] Grandwolf319@sh.itjust.works 19 points 1 month ago

It was really weird to me too. Like, if you don’t like your home and being by yourself, maybe you’re not a good influence on others.

[-] AquaTofana@lemmy.world 9 points 1 month ago

I was one of those extroverted people going absolutely nuts, and I never stopped working. However, my leadership had split us into 2 separate shifts, and so I was seeing the same 5 people every day versus a normally bustling workcenter. I joked to one of my Airmen that I wasnt sure if she was real or a figment of my imagination to keep me company.

I was literally constantly exhausted even though I wasnt allowed to do anything aside from work/home.

It did give me new insight to one of my best friends though, who is an extreme introvert. She lived with me for a brief while in our 20s, and I would get so frustrated when she would come home and immediately disappear into her room, and then Id have to fight her tooth and nail to get her to come hang on the weekends. I really was like "Why tf do you live with me if you obviously dont like me?" I always thought her "Nah Im tired" was just an excuse, and it made me feel really bad about myself.

Now? I definitely understand the difference better, and Im a lot more patient.

[-] Mandy@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 month ago

Thank you for your detailed insight there

[-] Evil_Shrubbery@lemm.ee 39 points 1 month ago

It really took me the longest time to realise that a huge percentage of people that need to go outside as much as possible do so because they feel unhappy at home ('home' as literal dwelling I mean, they don't know what to do there, aren't happy with or can't be by themselves, don't enjoy their immediate home environment & stuff they have in it, etc).

[-] Noodle07@lemmy.world 14 points 1 month ago

Home is the best, if you can't stay home and be happy you need to change your home

[-] Jiggle_Physics@lemmy.world 13 points 1 month ago

I enjoy my house, and my things, and use them often. I enjoy my home life. I still feel the need to go out and experience the world beyond my tiny bubble. I get great joy simply out of breaking up my routine, meeting new people, seeing new places, going to local gathering spots. When I am done with all that I also have the benefit of socializing without having a pile of dishes to do either.

Your assessment is right for some people, and you probably have contact with a group that leads to a bias in believing this is what people, generally, who need to do things beyond their house, are like. It is not true for most though. Most people like their homes, and home lives, a lot. They also feel the need to go out and do something other than home life, regularly, in order to be happy, in the long term. Doesn't matter how awesome my house is, doesn't matter how many skills I am working on, or how many hobbies I have, if I don't do something out of the ordinary, on a fairly regular basis, life begins to feel dull, and no amount of improving my home will alleviate that.

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[-] _____@lemm.ee 5 points 1 month ago

I play music, games, code , read. Just with music alone I'm already home stuck because of my work schedule. Seriously there is so much in piano technique that with a full time job ur pretty much going straight home and practicing.

Given you care about your hobbies.

[-] Caesium@lemmy.world 4 points 1 month ago

yeah, and the modern world revolves around them.

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[-] Grandwolf319@sh.itjust.works 36 points 1 month ago

Cause when you stay at home, you become comfortable with it and also keep making things better and better. You have full control over your experience so you end up optimizing it.

When you go out to say a coffee shop, that’s optimized for the owner to make the most money.

[-] Etterra@lemmy.world 32 points 1 month ago

How do people go out and do stuff ALL day?

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[-] SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world 21 points 1 month ago

Almost made it a whole week but my stupid wife needs a ride to the craft store

[-] Rolando@lemmy.world 13 points 1 month ago

Craft store is fun! Get some stuff to decorate your "command center."

[-] SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world 18 points 1 month ago

Excuse me but it's my lab in my dungeon thank you very much

[-] Rolando@lemmy.world 4 points 1 month ago

I always think of my area as a command center because of:

The Warlock: Why did you bring a cop to my command center?

John McClane : Command center? It's a basement!

[-] SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world 5 points 1 month ago

I'll have you know that my lab is in the basement of my own house

[-] Rolando@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago
[-] SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago

So when are you gonna come and hang out

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[-] Slovene@feddit.nl 10 points 1 month ago

I wouldn't mind giving your wife a ride.

[-] SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world 7 points 1 month ago
[-] AwesomeLowlander@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 month ago

I'm starting to see how the Gisèle Pelicot case started

[-] Slovene@feddit.nl 4 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

What ... Inhales ... THE FUCK?!

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[-] Empricorn@feddit.nl 5 points 1 month ago

The dream...

[-] blandfordforever@lemm.ee 3 points 1 month ago

Please tell us more about this stupid wife.

[-] SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world 7 points 1 month ago

I drove her to the stupid craft store, but first we stopped and had some stupid Vietnamese for lunch, and then afterwards picked up some stupid eggs at the stupid grocery store so I could make some stupid brownies later.

[-] blandfordforever@lemm.ee 3 points 1 month ago

I'm trying to sum up the vibe here but I'm having a hard time thinking of the right word.

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[-] eltrain123@lemmy.world 17 points 1 month ago

Why go out when you just have to come back home anyway. Save the trip.

[-] solsangraal@lemmy.zip 15 points 1 month ago

i would never leave if i didn't have to eat and make money to eat

[-] ouRKaoS@lemmy.today 9 points 1 month ago

All Day?

Those are rookie numbers

[-] MystikIncarnate@lemmy.ca 6 points 1 month ago

IKR. I'm at home at least 30 hours per day.

[-] dutchkimble@lemy.lol 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

What do you do in the other 6 hours??

[-] HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 8 points 1 month ago

That toilet has a warm bidet and the other ones don't or are COLD

[-] Chef_Boyardee@lemm.ee 7 points 1 month ago

Got no choice. My dad has developed dementia, and I refuse to put him in a home until he is completely mindless.

I'm scared only because my health benefits ran out two months ago. But don't worry pops, I got you.

[-] morphballganon@lemmynsfw.com 6 points 1 month ago

Well, you see, I fill my house with things I like, and people I love, so being there is enjoyable.

I suppose if your house is full of things you hate and people you dislike, then you would want to leave.

[-] theuniqueone@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 1 month ago

For me it's called depression and anxiety.

[-] Grass@sh.itjust.works 9 points 1 month ago

I get that from having to leave my house and go to work.

[-] rustyfish@lemmy.world 5 points 1 month ago

Also there are people out there. Fuck that.

[-] Paradachshund@lemmy.today 4 points 1 month ago

I'm a home body in most cases but if I stay too long I still get stir crazy. Can only exist in cave troll mode for so long.

I find that leaving the house is good for my health, mental and physical. I don't need to see other people, just going for a walk is enough. Just staying at home is, at least for me, quite unhealthy.

[-] Coreidan@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago

Uhhhh because that’s where I live

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