The contradictions of life tear us apart; it isn't a reflection on you or them necessarily.
Sometimes you gotta let go to get to your next self.
Wishing you well.
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Thanks, appreciate it. Truth is, I had been talking to my outside friends and loved ones for over a year about hanging it up. So this isn't entirely unwelcome, as unfortunate as the way it happened is.
Youβre probably talking about doom metal but a MF doom jazz quartet tribute band would be sick
Good luck comrade
I'm sorry you aren't doing well rn π«
Thanks homie. Appreciate you.
I'm really sorry to hear that.
I have my mid-life crisis coming up and was thinking vocals in a grindcore or death metal band so hit me up if you want idk
I just wrote a grind song like 2 months ago and tit got rejected. Time to dig out the audio interface.
I actually can do some killer vocals imho i just haven't ever been in a real band so don't have any stamina for shows or anything. Would be perfect to start by just doing stuff for online comrades
I know how to program drums and shit, so it isnt outside the realm of possibility. Just not sure where to pirate sample banks from these days. Also, ya know...theres the whole taking a break from music for my mental health thing too. Maybe someday we can get something going!
Timeline: Whenever we both feel like it, if that even ends up happening.
No pressure, just thinking outloud
Sounds like a deal buddy
...weren't you guys a two-piece? 
4 as of late
The one-piece is real!
I feel you, comrade. I've been in and out of a gazillion bands, and most of them didn't make it to the first gig. And the one did dissolve after the first few.
Rant incoming
I am a metalhead and love playing and composing old-school stuffβany famous and underground acts before the 2000sβbut virtually nobody plays that stuff in my city.
I tried playing βsofterβ stuffβblues, indie rock, pop, folk tunes, etc.βbut none of them scratches that itch, you know.
Many of those bands were composed of pricks. They either were people with a huge ego with little to no talent or were not taking the band stuff seriously enough because they think it is a game (I know some people have a busy schedule, but if you want to do something meaningful, either reschedule your life or leave and stop wasting both of our time.)
Now, I'm currently in another pop rock band. They were fine at the beginning, but imho their playing became rather passionless with time. I warn them many times, but they either don't understand or don't listen to me. There's a new gig coming up; after that I'll talk with them heart to heart.
Rant is over, thanks for tuning in.
It's fucking tough out there homie. Consciously removing myself from any sort of local scene for that past few years doesn't leave me with a ton of contacts to hit up if I resume working on it later.
Many of my βcontactsβ in my local scene have children in my age, lol. Β And for the record, I accidentally wrote βfrom the 2000sβ instead of βbeforeβ in the previous reply.
If it's any consolation, the my band(that I started) kicked me out so now I'm working on throwing together a punk project.
Oh damn thats rough
To be fair, I either wanted to do deathcore or crust punk and the band was going in a more melodic metal/thrash direction anyway.
Crust is love crust is life
Love you Corgi β€οΈ
Oh that sucks, sorry to hear that... 
Eh, a long break will be good. Like I said elsewhere, I'd been thinking about hanging it up for a while now.
It might be tough now but the band breaking up and taking a couple months/years off are necessary preconditons in order to reach the stage of getting the band back together.
Yeah, I'll come back to it some day. Things are just unclear.