As a “fuck the system this is blatantly discriminatory” type of kid I never had this experience
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You know what they call someone who just barely scraped by in medical school?
Doctor.
Being naturally good at school to the point where you don't even have to try, so you don't learn skills you need to learn and study properly, so the minute you get to a level of education that outpaces your natural knowledge, then you immediately start to struggle and then because being intelligent/good at school was one of your defining traits your whole life you lose a core part of yourself and so instead of playing catch up and developing those study skills you just get depressed and start to spiral, and eventually drop out and have to settle for a near minimum wage job that is monotonous and you hate and you have no way to afford going back to uni and you just exist as a ghost of yourself for the rest of your life...... Or so I hear.
This is why parents/society non stop deep throating the idea that grades are everything is so toxic. Being good at school doesn’t even automatically mean a person is intelligent just that they have the specific skills that specific school is looking for it’s not a reflection of their overall intellect.
Don’t give grades, if the student has significant growth that’s all that matters, pass or not pass, at least in k - 12
Old fart advice:
The numbers and rankings at school are temporary after all. I’m not saying don’t do your best, you should, but don’t navel gaze it either.
There’s SO much more to life and discovering yourself along the way.
I hope you all find your ways in life. Keep at it, you’re awesome.
This is what I always told my kids. Basically no job on earth gives a fuck about your highschool grades a lot don’t even care about your college grades, they only care if you got the degree so why worry about it? Apply yourself, get results that reflect personal growth and call it done. I’m not raising worker bees
Me this year. I had reasons to get good grades the first semester of uni; now I don't. I am not really losing out on much.
What I realise is that schools essentially teach you to become corporate worker drones. The home work and struggling to keep up the performance are actually analogs to working life as an adult. Schools also teach you early in life what burn out is by pushing you.
In some ways, I'm glad I went to a school that fosters critical thinking and promoting our individuality. My school is kind of looked down upon for not having many pupils going to college. But in hindsight, it is a liberal arts-lite college by encouraging us to be more well-rounded invididuals.
Well, stuff like math and science are CERTAINLY something you need to know, even in every day life.
Especially grammar. No one will take you seriously if you write like a zombie from PvZ.
Until your net worth has enough commas in it.. I've seen 12-year-olds on COD with better language skills than some C-suites
There is something oddly demotivating about having your TAs use chatbots while checking exams, and even do it in front of you when you challenge your grades, but I can't put my hand on exactly what.
Tbf I know I would be less caring even without this but it was still one of the major factors.
I still care for learning about computers, much less about grades.
It’s dehumanizing, literally
What's a TA? Teacher ...?
Teaching assistant. At my school they were enrolled grad students who helped professors with grading, tutoring, etc.
I feel exactly like a car from the movie Cars doing something.
Happened to me in just a couple semesters of uni. Here the grading system is numeric, the max is 10 and you need a 6 to pass.
First semester I'd finished most classes with 9 or above. This semester I've gotten 3.4 on econ 101.
That's very economical actually
Maybe econ shouldn't be so fucking boring
I feel like you could replace economy classes with 10 minutes of the teacher repeating "don't borrow money" and it would be more useful
happened to me as soon as I finished year 7 😭
That's exactly me when I transitioned from high school to university.
It was me when I started drinking...
Crack is a helluva drug
I wish I had this power 😭😭😭
I was an as long as I pass student that was just good at standardized tests, so everyone around me talked to me like I was an A+ student slacking.
You were
Well a fine hello to you to.
It is what it is, if you had the ability to educated guess your way through the tests you had the ability to do the rest of the work too. You do not bat 90%+ on 25% or lower odds without understanding the material.
Unfortunately having the ability doesn't equate to having the time or motivation.
¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Happened to me in just a couple semesters of uni. Here the grading system is numeric, the max is 10 and you need a 6 to pass.
First semester I'd finished most classes with 9 or above. This semester I've gotten 3.4 on econ 101.