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[–] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 5 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (5 children)

HELLO THIS IS THE MEGA SIGN UP POST/LIST POST

if you have a preferred week please tell me

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Shaleesh* (12/22 - 12/28)
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​ * after name denotes someone who has posted before and will be skipped by first-time posters

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[–] RION@hexbear.net 27 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

Talking to my dad is fun because he'll call me something like an "industrious lad" meanwhile 20 feet away is the bottle of pills I shove up my ass to make my tits bigger

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[–] SwitchyandWitchy@hexbear.net 22 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

Shout-out to all those who learn about trans people and stand up for us because for some reason you just really care about trans rights. I'll be waiting for you with your hormones of choice when you're ready cat-trans

[–] SwitchyandWitchy@hexbear.net 15 points 3 weeks ago

Also shout-out to those that do this who are actually cis, I'll still be waiting with your hormones of choice and other gender affirming care because everyone deserves to express and live their gender the way they feel fit.

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[–] KoRax@hexbear.net 21 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

Dec. 6th marks 1 year on HRT. I'm so happy but I don't have anyone IRL to celebrate.

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[–] Arahnya@hexbear.net 20 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

my comment saying that "we cant boil twinks down to youthful looks alone" and that "the old bald twinks time is now" got removed by tiktok for "violating community standards" 🀦 lol

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[–] Bolshechick@hexbear.net 20 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

I'm so hot now actually :3 estrogen is so magic

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[–] meler@hexbear.net 20 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Wokeness really did a number on me. I went to college a good Christian boy and left as a cute commie girl!!!

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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 20 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (2 children)

idk this feels weird to post, but positiveVery nice actually feeling something on my chest in the shower, very comfy, it feels right.

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[–] Alisu@hexbear.net 19 points 3 weeks ago

I feel like a togepi. I have cracked my egg, but am still hiding under the shell

[–] Alisu@hexbear.net 19 points 3 weeks ago

I fucking hate liberals holy fucking shit

[–] RION@hexbear.net 19 points 3 weeks ago (5 children)

bottom thoughtsI want a beautiful, confident woman to be so taken with me that she's unable to hold herself back. I want us both to be a little scared of how much she wants me and to have all the thoughts driven out of my head for once and just exist as a plaything for her to do as she will. And I'll be so flushed and embarrassed but there's nowhere to hide as my heart keeps beating faster and I can't even form a word, just let out breathy, dazed, whining moans for her like a wounded animal

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[–] rafflesia@hexbear.net 19 points 3 weeks ago (12 children)

Well after much hemming and hawwing I have finally decided to start hrt! I've got an appointment booked, anything I should know? I hear spiro kinda sucks, should I ask for something else?

[–] SwitchyandWitchy@hexbear.net 14 points 3 weeks ago (8 children)

Na~3~N is right, don't trust that your doctor is doing the right thing for you even if they are actually well-intentioned. This is a new science for them if they've even studied it extensively, and they are trained to be very risk averse. I have known very few trans girls that haven't been under-dosed. The risks are very overstated with feminizing hrt. And you can push your levels much higher than many doctors think relatively safely.

I've heard (and seen) from so many trans girls that fat redistrinution really starts to take off after 2 years. This is all your mileage may vary, but don't be disappointed if you don't have the body shape you want even if your boobs are growing nicely already.

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[–] Moss@hexbear.net 19 points 2 weeks ago

Got rejected for a job I'm massively overqualified for pain

[–] Disaster_of_Passion@hexbear.net 19 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

voice dysphoria, transphobiaI have dnd tonight and it will be the first time I've spoken out loud since Thanksgiving when my sister told me "you sound like a man pretending to be a woman, but maybe that's just because I know what you are" and yeah ngl I'm having a little bit of a break down. Or a lot a bit of a breakdown. If I'm being honest I don't want to speak ever again in my life.

[–] shallot@hexbear.net 18 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Honestly your sister can go fuck herself >:(

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[–] meler@hexbear.net 19 points 3 weeks ago

How. The fuck. Did my legs get to be this cute? I'm wearing jeans rn and I looked down and saw the cutest legs of all time

[–] shallot@hexbear.net 18 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Nips are itchy/sore ITS TITTY TIME LETS FUCKIN GOOOOO

[–] shallot@hexbear.net 19 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (1 children)

All I want for titsmas is my two front teats

[–] shallot@hexbear.net 18 points 3 weeks ago

Of course I’m hungry, I’m eating for three

[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 17 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I've completed a 5 hour course in 3 hours yummy feeding my brain that HVAC knowledge. It was all pretty much review on maintenance and diagnostic procedures but still it's solidifying my knowledge on all the stuff I'll do when I do get a job and start working. Looking forward to having a job, ojalΓ‘ I'll finally be able to do adult stuff like go on dates I'll have so much HVAC trivia I can share creature

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[–] Pandantic@midwest.social 17 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

I know this is a Hexbear megathread and I’m not supposed to comment with this account and the megathread isn’t about the picture but…

THAT PIE LOOKS FUGGIN AMAZING. I just saved the recipe. Thanks.

Okay have a great day all my trans comrades. ❀️

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 15 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

Did we stop letting non hexbear accounts post here? I think youre welcome

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[–] meler@hexbear.net 17 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Estrogen may be simply the best thing that has ever entered my body tbh. It's kind of amazing

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[–] meler@hexbear.net 17 points 3 weeks ago

Lol there was a time when I thought I was a guy

[–] JohnBrownsBussy2@hexbear.net 17 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Hey folks!

cat-trans

No big life updates, but just wanted to just confirm that I'm doing alright. Still job hunting, but that's not exactly a unique experience. Other that, I've been enjoying life with my partner and friends. Was able to survive Thanksgiving with the folks (still not out, planning to come out after I land a job or at least move to an apartment that allows cats.)

Also, passed my 1 year HRT anniversary a week ago (although the anniversary of switching from a baby dose to injections is in January.)

meow-bounce

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[–] Florn@hexbear.net 17 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I'm so fucking sick of being too tall to fit in bath tubs, all I want is to sit in hot water in the privacy of my own home

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On the train back home after my orchi, everything went fine

[–] SwitchyandWitchy@hexbear.net 16 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

Damn HRT is magic! Gender affirming care in general is magic. Woke up this morning and when we were about to unlock our phone we saw a very eepy and cute girl in the reflection catgirl-happy

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[–] catter@hexbear.net 16 points 3 weeks ago (4 children)

alcohol, relationshipContext: Closeted in a complex relationship. Trying to navigate that and come out soon.

My egg cracked nearly two years ago during the only time I've ever been nearly flat-out wasted. Now when I'm feeling dysphoric or overwhelmed I reach for alcohol to take me back to that place. Just enough to feel something. It's not alcoholism (at least not yet), but it is unhealthy.

I come from a family where the majority suffer from some form of addiction. It makes me wonder why it's so common in my family... and maybe if I'm not the only one.

I'm trying to find the courage to come out, knowing that for me the genie cannot go back in the bottle. Several people here have been really helpful in figuring this out. I'm so thankful for each of you πŸ’œ

[–] bipp@hexbear.net 15 points 3 weeks ago (5 children)

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Wow, same here. I drank a lot during the early years of covid because I could act different and blame it on that. Also just felt nice to think less about something so all-consuming. Never really drank much before that because my family has a ton of substance problems. I read through some of your other posts and I'm so sorry that you aren't in a place where transitioning feels easier. I got lucky with my relationship, although there's still been issues that have come up because of transitioning. But a big part of hiding it for so long was the fear that I would lose someone that I care a lot about :/.

I eventually decided that I had to pursue it regardless because once the egg is fully cracked, you can't just put it back together. Also, I figured that if my partner wasn't OK with me being me, then it wasn't going to work anyways. Really scary to confront, but necessary.

None of this has been easy but it's absolutely been worth it and I haven't regretted a second. I really hope you can find your peace in this situation however that manifests for you but just know that you aren't alone in your experience or your feelings cat-trans

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[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 16 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

I'd like to kindly inform everyone that I'm doing well.

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[–] SwitchyandWitchy@hexbear.net 16 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

Me years ago: "Well obviously I'd rather be a different gender, what cisgender man wouldn't rather be a woman? Oh."

Me yesterday: "Well obviously I have what feels like different people living in my head and they have conversations sometimes and most fit nearly into these descriptions of different types of head mates in a plural system. What singlet doesn't? Oh."

I'm truly hopeless sometimes but we get there in the end.

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[–] HexaSnoot@hexbear.net 16 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (2 children)

I could use some encouragement and validation. (Maybe discussion on pros and cons too.) I'm afraid people won't see me as pretty anymore because I'm fatter than I've ever been and I'm thinking about really masculinizing my look.

Letting go of pretty girl privileges is hard when you've already had a lot of people disrespect you in general. I have issues with being passive, so people who hate themselves love to self project on me. People who pick apart women might pick me apart for showing off my manly side. And for being fat while at it.

Being a pretty boy is the vibe I like to have when manlier, I think I like the safety of checking off some "pretty people" boxes that go with societal expectations advertised in magazines. When in reality feeling good about how you look is more about the attitude of feeling cute than how close you look to what you see in magazines. I think I mostly dread not feeling cute because I'm afraid of how others might perceive me and put me down. Trying to seek social "safety" by looking as much like a magazine image as possible was how I felt the most insecure, and I'm doing it right now. Not at the level I used to, but I still am doing it.

For others seeking safety can mean passing on their own shame about their looks, and seeing a gender bender who's fat could either be freeing or lead to them choosing to double down and pass on their feelings of shame.

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I've suffered violence over how I look before, and I don't want to get hurt again over daring myself to check off a box that would lead a past violent bully to criticize me. This person hurt me for years, but it's also been years since I last saw them. Checking off "pretty people" boxes feels like armor against violent shit, and I'm not sure how much faith I have that no violence will happen if I drop the armor.

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[–] RION@hexbear.net 16 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

Confused the clerk at the grocery store today, got sir'd but then ma'am'ed!! But then back to mister when I gave my name for the money orders :(

But that's my first verified male fail!!!

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[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 15 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (1 children)

sex (depressing)

In front of my friends I have bragged that I have had sex before.

I did not tell them that all of my consentual sexual encounters were at a gloryhole and with strangers and I did not like any of my encounters and I've even cried after them.

And they were done during my egg time back when I just wanted to feel something.

And I'm too ashamed of my body right now to try anything with anyone.

And the one time I had decent sex (the foot fetish guy if you somehow remember), he tried to get my number but I lied and didn't give him my number even though I probably should have. At least I would have a consistent hookup which is better than crying alone all the time dreaming about men.

All in all, I would say at the current point in my life, I feel too traumatised and scared to have sex. I literally could not feel good from it. This is despite me being a fairly horny individual (before hrt). Really ironic, no?

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[–] inTheShadowOf@hexbear.net 15 points 3 weeks ago

I love being trans bridget-smug

[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 15 points 3 weeks ago (13 children)

These past mornings been feeling real emotional almost cried just now listening to wizard of earthsea, le guin is so damn good at portraying emotions like fear and doubt

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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 15 points 3 weeks ago

Struggling super hard with the last screen of this Celeste level, turns out I just didn't learn a trick I was supposed to earlier. After finding out the new tec I beat it in one sitting. Still need 3 crystal hearts to unlock the core.

[–] Moss@hexbear.net 15 points 2 weeks ago

I started job searching and immediately had to stop and call my doctor to order a prescription of anti-depressants

[–] Kuori@hexbear.net 15 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

as if by some dark magic, every single time my partner drinks I end up with a nightmare headache

how is she doing this doggirl-tears

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[–] catter@hexbear.net 15 points 3 weeks ago (6 children)

It's been a while since I've posted here. Not necessarily looking for encouragement or responses, just needing to feel heard.

dysphoria, mental health, relationshipsI'm closeted and in a relationship that I'm happy in besides my gender identity. I tried to work through that last year, but I was given an ultimatum: transition and divorce or stay together. I thought I could push these feelings down. For a while, I could.

But lately everything feels out of control. Especially painful is my extremely transphobic in-laws saying I would have made a cute girl. That comment on its own has been tearing me apart the past week, along with seasonal depression that already brings out the worst in me. I was feeling really present a few months ago, like maybe things were turning around and I was not trans after all.

I've had a lot of time to think about what coming out would look like. The only thing I can't handle is what feels like betraying my significant other. At the height of it, they said they would probably stay single forever, and I know it would ruin them financially and emotionally.

The quiet moments I have with you all and the brief glimpses of gender affirmation when creating a character are holding me together. Hope you all have a good week πŸ’œ

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[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 14 points 2 weeks ago

I'm so depressed that when I write a depressing post, I delete it cause I'm too depressed to even bother posting it.

[–] GayTuckerCarlson@hexbear.net 14 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

Thank you to everyone who enjoyed and commented on the previous megathread

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[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 14 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (2 children)

I'm going to go back home soon with longer hair*. It remains to be seen whether I can be successfully pressured into cutting it again.

*it's ear length. Yes, the parents have been uptight about ear length hair.

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