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On the 10th of April 1912, The Titanic set sail from Southhampton in England for her maiden voyage across the Atlantic Ocean. Four days later, just before midnight on the 14th, Titanic struck an iceberg, which caused it to take severe damage and sink during the night, leading to the death of the majority of her passengers.

At the time, Titanic was one of the most advanced ships in the world. It was as a steam-powered ocean liner, a type of ship specifically built to repeatedly make the dangerous crossing between Europe and America. Because air travel was not available at the time, this service was vital, and Titanic was built at a time where different shipping lines were constantly trying to outcompete each other in building the fastest and most luxurious ships. The Titanic was equipped with restaurants, cafes and even a Turkish bath (a sort of spa / sauna hybrid), though due to the strict segregation of first, second, and third class passengers, only a minority were allowed access to these accomodations.

The White Star Line, who built and operated the Titanic, was convinced the ship wouldn't sink, and did not adequately prepare for it, only carrying enough lifeboats to carry a portion of the ship's passengers. While this claim seems absurd today β€” modern ship are far, far safer than the Titanic, but no one would ever claim they couldn't sink β€” it was a popular sentiment at the time. Because of the Titanic's novel and highly advanced watertight compartments, it was thought that even if she suffered catastrophic damage, she would bob around on the surface like a cork, rather than sink to the bottom, so there would be no hurry to evacuate the passengers

Later, the story of the titanic would go on to become something of a pop culture legend, the greatest example being the 1997 movie by James Cameron (it's really good actually). A bunch of conspiracy theories about the ship's fate has also popped up over the course of the last century, some gaining significant traction despite the lack of evidence.


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[–] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 7 points 1 week ago

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[–] inTheShadowOf@hexbear.net 9 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Looks like next year I'm closing the long distance gap. 2026 is going to be the year of making things happen.

After two years of waiting for a lot of things to start moving forward again, I'd say it's about time to have things to look forward to. Even electrolysis sounds exciting again, never thought I'd be saying that smh

[–] rafflesia@hexbear.net 8 points 3 days ago (2 children)

Is it normal to already have breast soreness after only a couple weeks?

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 7 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I did, although most of it has been mostly in/under my nipples so idk if that's the same as you.

[–] rafflesia@hexbear.net 7 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Yes, I lightly brushed my nipple the other day and it was like damn, guess it's working lol

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 7 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Yea totally normal, tbh mine started like beginning of week 3 I wanna say. Keep thinking the same thing every time I bump or brush them against something.

[–] segfault11@hexbear.net 3 points 3 days ago

can confirm that’s how it was for me

[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 10 points 3 days ago (2 children)

Everything feels so stagnant when I'm not working towards my transition. Like I'm just waiting to unbox my real self into existence, then I'll start living my life, and then I'll be worthy of being treated like a girl irl.

[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 5 points 3 days ago

And also then I will be worthy of having real friends and real love from my family and real love from a hypothetical partner.

It's a toxic mindset I embody in my whole life. Never satisfied with what I can currently accomplish. If I am given proper instructions and guidance, this energy can propel me forward. But without them, I just burn up.

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 3 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (2 children)

Everything feels so stagnant when I'm not working towards my transition.

It really does. And quite frankly, worthless. Life as a man means nothing to me. I just need to get to the point where I'm perceived as a woman already. I'm tired of this stagnation.

real love from my family

ngl I feel super un-optimistic about this but I don't really care

I love my life of rot. Love that I was born like this. Why wouldn't I

[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 1 points 3 days ago

I just need to get to the point where I'm perceived as a woman already.

Worst part is that I have trouble accepting myself as a woman. Very difficult for me to not judge myself harshly (even though there is literally no point to judge myself so harshly, I'mdoing this for myself)

New Avatar was fun and worth seeing in theatres. The plot is the weakest point again and it recycled probably too much from 1 and 2 (but we still love seeing whales fight back and giant blue angelic alien dorks squash marines). Comprador Navi is a good idea. Cameron again writes feminine badasses who maintain their femininity while also being covered in blood and raging.

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 6 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

negativity about family(cis) people just assuming my family will come around and be fine and I'll have a good relationship with them in the future. Like fr a huge part of my problem is being seen as my agab and you think the people who were there for that will forget?? The people who saw me as a boy for the longest will eventually view me as my true gender? I don't even want people to see my pre transition pics but people who took them its going to be fine. Who called me my deadname for decades. Like even at this stage I feel like there's a difference in how long people have known me before in how they treat/feel about me.

I'm not being doomer btw, I just find it frustrating that the cis (mostly) think I'll have a fine relationship at some point and it just won't be like that.

I feel like its because they don't want to admit how they really see us tbh

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 4 points 3 days ago (1 children)

spoilerYour family does sound like they suck. For what its work, my one sister and mother were both pretty good at seeing me as a woman and treating me like a sister/daughter. My mom had a longer rougher transitional period but the only thing she really struggled with was calling me uncle terminal (to my sisters dog lol). Ive talked about it, but my mom was very sure I was a girl when she was pregnant with me and in the end she was right after all. My more extended family struggles with it way more, havent seen them in a while. But not my mom and siblings.

Maybe one day when/if you come out to them, they'll adapt quickly and support you. I guess we never really know. I was surprised by the parents of some of the trans kids when I was working peds in a heavily conservative area - sometimes parental love conquers bias and they become actually quite strong allies, sometimes parental love holds out even if they dont truly accept. Of course we all know the stories of hate and bigotry from family, theres not a reason to expound on it from me.

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 3 points 3 days ago (2 children)

spoilerI just don't believe it. I never showed any signs of being trans as a kid- I was never feminine etc. Yea I've been depressed for a long time but they won't see the connection. They won't be able to see that's why I'm depressed. And just, no signs until I started growing my hair out last year. They'll always remember me as a guy.

sometimes parental love holds out even if they dont truly accept.

That isn't good enough for me. I want to be seen as a woman. A woman with a disfigurement tbh. The like, "agree to disagree but I still love you" is bs and not supportive.

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 3 points 3 days ago (1 children)

spoilerBelieve it or don't, I saw it first hand. My mom and sisters definitely accepts me as a woman, so I know its true first hand. Im not saying this will be your reality, you know your family better and you know them first hand (I only know what you've written, which doesn't sound promising but one never really knows)

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 2 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

I didn't mean I don't believe your experience, sorry. I really communicated poorly there. I was trying to say I don't believe my family will. Thank you. I always appreciate your words

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[–] catter@hexbear.net 16 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (1 children)

mental healthAsked my therapist if there's a way for me to pursue a gender dysphoria diagnosis (I just needed some affirmation). "Oh, that's been in your file for almost two years now." walter-breakdown

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 8 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Wonder if mine gave me a diagnosis too, I should check. Think you usually need one for surgery so idk if it'd hurt.

[–] catter@hexbear.net 8 points 4 days ago (1 children)

It's worth checking! I'm still working through the leap to acceptance, a long way off from surgery. But I think a paper trail could only be helpful for that sort of thing.

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 8 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I'm still working through the leap to acceptance

Me too though kitty-cri

[–] catter@hexbear.net 7 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

cat-trans It's very hard, but at least we're not alone in it

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 4 points 3 days ago (1 children)

sadnessholy fuck I hate this life. Why the fuck. Everything about this hurts so badly. My body. My voice. Everyone around me.
spoiler suicide how the fuck have i not attempted yet like literally

why would I stick around for a life of misery i hate every moment of :::

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 4 points 3 days ago (1 children)

above + dysphoriaI am so tired of this. Of suffering. Of dysphoria. I just want it over. I don't want to be trans, never did. Two long, painful years of knowing. Many before that of misery despite not knowing what was wrong with me. I don't want to keep pushing. I've had enough. It hurts so much. And there's no hope.

I often feel like people don't understand. I don't understand you either. I don't know how this isn't a fundamentally horrible experience for anyone.

spoilerI don't want to do anything, certainly not live in this body, as a trans person, with these dogshit humans around. What options does that give me.

[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 15 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Oh vibrator in my bag

Why did you turn on in public doggirl-tears ?

[–] SuperZutsuki@hexbear.net 7 points 4 days ago (2 children)
[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 8 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Why do you need a portable vibe in public?

[–] SuperZutsuki@hexbear.net 7 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Sounds like she was traveling and taking it with her according to recent posts

[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 5 points 4 days ago

I didn't even think to check if it has one

[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 9 points 4 days ago

boohoo beating Spec Ops: The Line on FUBAR oooaaaaaaauhhh

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 8 points 4 days ago (1 children)

sex and sadnesskitty-cri-screm why does everything about this make me so sad. Masturbating makes me feel sad. My fantasies have been sad for a while now. Touching it makes me sad. Fantasizing about a partner makes me sad and anxious. Feel super terrible about the idea of anyone seeing me, obviously that makes it super hard to get, like idk in the mood or anything. It also makes me worry about finding someone, I know its important for most people and its kinda the thing that makes me feel the most broken. I try not to worry about it because that's a future issue but its still a thing. I just hate being sad and dissociating and broken feeling every time and I still feel horny kinda a lot and should do maintenance, idk.

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 9 points 4 days ago (1 children)

spoilerMasturbation is not the same when you transition especially on E, read Fucking Trans Women vol 0 for more ideas on what to do. There's more rubbing on the perinanal zone (between testicle and anus, closer to anys). You also should treat the head like its actually a clit (it pretty much is anyway). I found stuff changing and getting more pleasurable after E when I started treating it like it was more like a vagina.

You'll meet someome~ but being single isnt a failure state.

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 5 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (1 children)

spoilerYea, I need to start using it differently more... even 3 months on E I can tell its changing a bit, definitely looking forward to that being more what I need.

treat the head like its actually a clit

idk if this is tmi but I struggle with that once it gets hard, maybe I just need to keep trying things but I don't really understand how that would work.

I'll try to remember that, I do just really want someone too, and physical affection. But ty for the reminder. Hope I do find someone, it'll probably be a bit still..

[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 7 points 4 days ago

spoilerMy advice to any new transfem is a Hitachi magic wand or equivalent. It's a real game changer.

I push it onto the head and toward my belly button so it can't move. Feels great. Sometimes I swap it up and do the perineal area to hit the prostate.

It even works really well through clothes so if you have dysphoria at seeing the penis, you can go over underwear or clothes.

[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 9 points 4 days ago (4 children)

I am really enjoying WarSails no game has really scratched the Assassins Creed Black Flag like this. I wish I could sail outside of combat though, like in ports or just on the world map.

The only problem is that something needs to be tweaked to make large naval battles more common. I've only had two really memorable, touch and go ones. Every other battle the outcome has pretty much been predetermined by ships and numbers, it's just how skillfully it's pulled off. Factions need to have dedicated Sea-Lords and Land-Lords based on their holdings and size. So that in a war they're not just sailing in a straight line to their target but patrolling in big fleets etc.

Still there's some really neat things you can pull off that I'm surprised by. One time I was on the aft of the ship and in heavy waves. the enemy galley was raised up so that for a brief moment I was able to jump the short distance and suddenly be on their ship with falx in hand cutting their sailors down by surprise.

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[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 9 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

I'm recovered from my gastro it was really short lived but it has ripped through my family with alarming speed.

I went to get some shopping. I decided to wear an elf hat and elf ears. It was funny to see the triple takes I got. "Hey that lady has elf ears!" followed by "Oh hey that lady is a t-slur"

Also long elf ears give me gender euphoria and I worked out why, they make my chin and nose look more in proportion with my face. All the ladies in my family have big noses, it's not just a being trans thing, my chin is though. Also they peak out of my straight black hair and look really cute.

[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 3 points 3 days ago (5 children)

I had been getting bored of Warsails. I had an idea for a character last night before bed that I really like. My main character is a tall woman. But a cis woman. She's had kids.

I've made a new character who is a trans woman. She is an Aserai called Farah Banu Fasus. I used the character to editor to make her have a very feminine face compared the masculine defaults, then clean shaven, long hair, eye makeup, etc. She looks pretty and clocky. I gave a high pitched voice that does sound like a voice trained voice. She is going to wear dresses and head scarfs in her civilian outfit. She is not going to become a lord/lady. She is going to be a mercenary pirate with a single ship that is funded by legitimate businesses she owns and gang alleyways. My crew is going to be Corsairs and Aserai naval archers.

Plus I can do the pokemon thing of being in a Lesbian relationship now.

[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 3 points 3 days ago (1 children)
[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 2 points 3 days ago

I married a girl and we wore the same dress!___

[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 3 points 3 days ago (2 children)

Wow as if to reward me the first possible companion I met is a Khurzait girl with great stats whose tragic backstory was being raised like a boy then patriarchy happened. I'm only going to have girl followers with fucked backstories too.

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[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 2 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I love mount and blade, love that it grew and still going. I bought the first one like... 16 years ago?? One of my first ever online purchases, along with Minecraft (after it stopped being free on the website, truly ancient) and KSP. I cant believe my choices for early release games all worked out.

[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 2 points 3 days ago

Yeah I was playing the original Beta in High school. I played the freeware until level 7 and then begged my parents to buy the full version with their credit card.

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[–] Des@hexbear.net 11 points 5 days ago

it really seems that much of non-western global regular people cuisine is "dip or scoop tasty stew with crispy bread" and i'm like "omg that's my favorite thing to do"

[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 10 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

searched at airport (off-putting)

Disadvantage of not being legally trans shows up when the airport security guard runs his hands over your body (and even breasts, twice just to be sure). I even thought he was about to take off my shirt and I panicked. Then running over my butt and thighs.

Genuinely what the fuck. How is this even necessary for security? Mfs did a full body all spectrum scan already.

At least the airport people kept misgendering me, so that means that I'm safe from my parents πŸ™‚

[–] Ceres@hexbear.net 9 points 5 days ago (2 children)

a fun part of being vegan is pairing different plant milks with different things. Im increasingly stocking more kinds in my house so I can go 'hmmm almond milk with this cereal, unsweetened soy as a cheese sauce base, oat for oatmeal...'

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