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i kind of want a new name but its so hard to pick one. what name do i look like i would have?
Ive thought for a couple days and i keep coming back to hanah or hannah, i really like that one for you ❤️❤️
Did you end up deciding on one?
Not yet, I think chloe and natalie are my favorites so ill probably try one of those for a while
Trogdor the Burninator
Burrrrnanaaating the country-side!
I'm not going to suggest a name because they're deeply personal and I don't know anything about you, but I will share a story instead.
I compare it to stargazing. Picture yourself laying on a hill on a calm night looking up at the night sky. The first thing you see is a scattering of stars, far too many to count. As you look around, you even start to notice the far away ones. But then you realize that they all shine differently. After a few minutes you start to pick out the brightest ones, about a dozen or so. Your eyes dart back and forth between them trying to connect them mentally. After doing this for a bit, you notice yourself bouncing back to the same 3 or 4 stars that seem to shine the brightest. You keep looking around trying to give each star a fair shot, but your eyes somehow always wander back to those brightest stars. Eventually, given enough time, you'll notice something peculiar about one in particular. Maybe it's the brightest, or the largest, or it has a slight tint that sets it apart. That is your star.
The stars represent countless possibilities, and the brightest one is your name. It takes time, don't rush it.
You look like an Allison / Aly to me!
I thought this too before I came to the comments!!
Celeste
Holly.
Marcy
I'm a fan of Brooke ♥️
Me too! 😁❤️
I'm picking up Amy vibes from you. No matter what you pick though, there is no wrong name. I deliberated on mine for years, but in retrospect I was just stalling. Congratulations on finding the courage to come out, and sorry to hear your family not taking it well. I'm all too familiar with that sting of betrayal myself. If you ever need to talk or vent, we are all here for you!
You're super pretty, wow!
Maybe Amanda? Sophie? Kayleigh?
Idk this is so random 😭
Sophie's pretty good, I don't really like eigh names and i feel like im the wrong generation for amanda. I'll definitely add sophie to my list though
It's a geat pick! Totally not biased :)
Sophie/ Sophia came to my mind too, Emelyn (probably too French?) Somehow I could an Amy too? 😊
Kate/Katy.
Also, nice kitty. I demand more cat tax.
Ooh I'd spell it katie but I like that.
Here's roof cat
In my view, there isn't a "perfect name". There is just a big bucket of good names. You pick a name and then throughout your life you make that name yours.
Your "perfect name" isn't picked, it is built. That is why it's hard to choose. Because none of these names are really yours yet.
I wonder if this is of any help... But sometime parents have names planned before the child is born, and they might have had thought of two. Have you asked them if you had a female name before your birth?
In any case... Damn, you've got style! And sorry I cannot be useful with directly suggesting names. My mother tongue is not English, so all names I'd intuitively come up with would be all weird for an English-speaker.
I wanted to do that, but when I tried to come out to my parents my mom started saying like "well my identity is having a son!!" so now im just pretending to not be trans around them
Poor woman, she had a 50% chance of having to live with no identity at all.
Wow.
Well as a dad, I hereby officially declare you as fine just the way you are.
It's ok to struggle as a parent with your kid's sexuality/identity if you don't fully understand things. It's NOT ok to make it about yourself and stand in between your child and happiness.
Tell your mom an internet stranger said "shame on you" and bonus points if you throw a handful of glitter in the air as you walk away.
Edit: Taylor?
“well my identity is having a son!!”
Jesus christ how pathetic of your mom. hugs
My mom said that if I'd been born a girl my name would have been Alice. I don't need it, so you can have it if you want
Georgia
Furia Hellknight
I see a Jessica/Jessie :)
Mackenzie
How about Natalie?
oooooh i like that. i could be just like the best bob's burgers character
I couldn't remember who that was and had to look her up. The limo driver!
Leah
So in my name search one that I loved that didn’t quite fit me was Liora. I wanted something that was light and lyrical with lots of nickname potential. So feel free to try it on and see if it feels like home for you.
Pronunciation: Lee-OR-ah Meaning: Liora – “my light” (Hebrew) Nicknames: Lee, Ora, Lio, Liri, Lili
You look like a Sarah to me :) like you should be surrounded by flowers
Maybe Madeline?
I see a camera! Tell me more! Show your work! You have the attention of a lifelong devoted photographer.
Also, I’m Tanis, pronounced TAH-niss, and there needs to be more of me with that name in the world!
That's my Pentax P3.
I'm not a great photographer, but here are a couple of my favorite photos I've taken with that camera
You’ve got a solid eye for composition! Keep it up!
Check out name meanings and find one that fits with what y'all want.
Alternatively since one of us is a fae we could give you a name we have ~~stolen~~ been given.
Lauren, Rachael, or Sophie/Sophia/Sofia
Kat(hrine)
Anthiope
Just popped in my head and come to find out it's a Greek godess.