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I dunno, I mean I think AI is stupid too, but she could have gave the guy a chance. Explained that she didn't like AI and the use of it, and valued creativity over it. Dating is already so stupid, like you have to be on guard about every little thing.
Makes you wonder what else she's this defensive about? Wore red instead of white, boom this lady is gone. Like Pepsi instead of Cola? She's outty. Maybe it's him that dodged the bullet...
Nah, now he knows for next time. The point of a relationship is to get to know the other person, not the soulless imitation of whatever bullshit this program scraped off the internet.
Oh man, your mod history is exactly what one would expect from a nuanced take like that.
Congrats on the consistency though, don't often see dedication like that these days.
Could be a troll acct, judging by the username.
Hahaha, did Cgpt form that opinion for you or did you shit it out all by yourself? Either way, congrats on putting your pants on today, big guy!
To me, someone who doesn't even care about planning something as simple as a date, it's an indicator they won't care about most thing in the relationship and will try to ChatGPT their problems away.
I mean, the parameters for a first date are generally pretty simple and low-key. It's generally type-of-food (lunch, dinner, coffee) plus type-of-activity (walk, movie, game-of-some-sort (bowling, axe throwing, whatever)). They're using AI to accomplish a pretty simple task. Which means they're also likely to offload harder tasks as well. I am not your mom, your secretary, your PA, your maid, your cook, your housekeeper, your personal shopper, etc, etc.
If they need assistance with something that simple, then she successfully dodged a bullet.
So did he for sure.
Yeah if you just aren’t paying any attention.
She’d probably expect him to take an active role in participating in their relationship, shudder.
Hahaha, good luck getting dates with your slop generator!
Yes but the purpose of the date isn't just to go through the motions of a typical date. It's to get to know each other. I expect a person to suggest a place they like, and that tells me something useful and opens the conversation.
Suppose someone suggests trying a new (to them at least) restaurant on a date? I guess that communicates something sordid.
If someone needs/wants to use AI to do extremely simple things like plan their date activities, that's a good indication that they are an exceedingly uninteresting and unengaging person overall. They can't even do the simple things, so the hard stuff in life is going to be insurmountable and they'll be a massive burden on their friends and partner(s).
Where's the incentive to "give them a chance" in this scenario? The books at home are the better option by far.
This reminds me of when I was a teenager, spending time chatting with multiple people simultaneously on MSN Messenger and AIM (man, how did I manage that?)
There were some people who'd just say, "I'm bored." That's it. I never knew how to respond. I usually said something like, "Oh, that sucks." But their conversations never went anywhere besides complaining about boredom, so I usually stopped talking pretty quick. I get the impression they were just looking to have me entertain them somehow, despite putting no effort into making it worth my while. Bruh, I'm having three other conversations about fascinating topics, catching up with a friend living in another continent, and participating in a group RPG, all without anybody whining that they can't think of something to do. Step up or step out, your boredom isn't my problem.
Sorry but you seem to be arrogant about how sociable other people naturally are. Good for you if you had many friends to do interesting things with and never felt bored, but I find it hurtful that you think not having those traits is to be shunned. You don't owe internet strangers entertainment, but why would you rant about such a harmelss thing decades after the fact?
A lot of people seem to engage with dating with that same energy. You match, they write "hey", and then wait for you to entertain them. A lot of social things are garbage-in, garbage-out.
That's all quite different. Been there done that, dropped out. But judging someone over a petty thing like this is petty in itself. Maybe he's not even a fan of AI, just thought it would be a cute idea to fly by her. Had I received an info sheet on my wife's background and beliefs, I would never had responded to her.
How is this different then googling date ideas and clicking a listacle? Effort wise it's about the same and you could make the same argument on their reliance on Google/Internet.
It seems that Internet dependence has become accepted as the norm while AI dependence is still new enough that there are people who don't regularly use it and thus feel superior for their independence in this one specific area.
It doesn't even matter if AI or not. The point is, if you're too dumb/lazy/busy/whatever to come up with an idea yourself, at least don't tell your date that you are.
If someone makes a judgment call on something so petty as this, that's an indicator they're a picky pain in the ass. God knows what she will next find offensive.
Why does someone likely in their 40's need to give someone a chance, particularly someone that thoughtless?
I'd say she already gave him a chance - she said "yes," after all. He was so close, he just needed to use his own brain and put a little personal effort into planning the date. He could've even been honest about not knowing what to do and said something like, "I'd like to have some of your input to make our plans. I was thinking of a movie, but there's a museum not far from me. The park's really nice this time of year, too, if you'd prefer to be outdoors. Do any of those sound good to you? Do you have any ideas to add?"
I mean, that's what I'd do. It's not hard to think of things if you know a person a bit, but if you don't know them well enough yet to know what they'd like, that's okay too! Make it clear you want something you'd both enjoy and turn it into a discussion. No AI is going to know what she likes better than she does, so just go to the source.
And if that's too much effort, then perhaps dating in itself would be too much effort.
No one owes anyone a chance, but one should take chances. This is Dating 101. If someone rejects me over some petty issue like this, they're going to reject me later for something equally petty. And dating gets hard as we age and take on baggage from past relationships. I only drew the line at MAGA, racism, shit like that. Hell, my wife still attributes some of my thoughts and actions as if I'm her ex.
And who says he was thoughtless? Maybe he found the idea cute and wanted to fly it by her? He's likely not in a social group that hates AI like we do here. Had a date propose we meet at the antique/thrift mall. One could take that as she's poor or cheap or whatever. Her reasoning when we met? "People on first dates shouldn't spend money on each other until they catch a vibe." (My words, hers were better but I forget.)
tl;dr: Too much room to misinterpret someone when you first meet, especially before a first date. If they seem attractive enough in the ways you seek, give them a chance. You owe it to yourself, not them.
I'll just say that dating changes as you age
Well aware! I was dating hot and heavy at 49-52, been there, done that. But we should be aware that our aging assumptions and baggage can hold us back. Take a chance or die alone, whatever floats one's boat, that's their call.
What ever floats your boat is absolutely correct, this man did not float this ladies boat so she nipped it in the bud.
AI is a little different than coke vs Pepsi dude but sure.
There are for sure things where you can know you’re not compatible with someone and being dependent on AI can be a pretty big flag. It’s not her job to fix him just so he’d dateable.
For me, I'm enough against the casual use of AI that someone who does what he did is like someone who has significantly different political views than me. AI data centers take obscene amounts of energy and water. I'm very much in favor of, for instance, machine learning applications being used to identify diseases in pathology slides. That's something that can help humanity to an extent that it's likely worth the resources. But to suggest plans for a date? That's nauseating.
No one has to do anything or is obligated to give someone a chance at the early level of dating implied in this image. At that point, you are interacting with someone you do not know and it is socially acceptable for either party to end things clearly if that is what feels right and comfortable for them. AI usage is not some simple ethically clean topic akin to choosing a favorite soda like you claim, and it's weird that you even tried to compare those things. Having strong opinions on that topic, or any other major controversial topic, and choosing not to engage with someone due to differing views on that topic, is fine and expected.
You claiming dating is stupid, that you feel defensive about it and have to be on edge, and then victim blaming the woman in this scenario for doing nothing wrong all come to together to paint a really unhealthy picture. I sincerely hope you can work through what you have going on and, if you so choose, find someone right for you that makes the relationship feel rewarding.
Remember that Lemmy, and this sub in particular, is absolutely rabidly anti-AI. It’s like the Jellyfin vs Plex thing dialed up to 111
Uhh yeah the name of the sub is fuck_AI, who would've think people here hate AI for what it is.
Agreed. Not liking LLMs is fine (and might make for an interesting discussion topic over dinner!), but this is petty. She was looking for an excuse to reject before being rejected, or maybe wasn’t very attracted to him to begin with.