When all the red pill shit first started coming out it was ironically more about self-improvement followed by pick up artist tacticts once you got your shit together.

Still misogynistic at the time and it just continues to get worse. Rather than put in the work to improve themselves, they'd rather go all handmaid's tale.

[–] EmilieEasie@fedinsfw.app 4 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

Yeah, that's a thing I still struggle with! Understanding how not being able to date turns them into misogynists. I guess it's entitlement, but I can't really relate to that in this case, so it's hard to understand.

[–] pivot_root@lemmy.world 5 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago) (1 children)

It stems from a victim mentality, envy, and ego.

When they're chronically online and immersed in social media and entertainment media, they're surrounded by portrayals of happy couples, love, and romance. Eventually, it skews their perception into thinking that they're the only ones who are missing out. They start to feel like life is unfair to them, with love and sex being out of their reach.

That grows into envy and hatred towards men who have experienced it, and especially those who have above-average success with their romantic lives. They compare themselves to those men, convincing themselves that the reason other people are more successful is because of superficial traits like conventional attractiveness or money.

While all that happens, they refuse to consider that their lack of success could be due to their own behaviors or negative attitudes. It's always something else that is stopping them from experiencing love; their ego is protecting themselves from hurt, avoiding the necessary but painful introspection that would snap them out of it.

It culminates in the belief that both women and other men are the reason for their nonexistent love life. They become openly mysognistic, but they also think poorly about attractive men—they just don't show it outside of incel communities because they're afraid to get their ass beat.

And all of that was before this red pill shit. The red pill movement exacerbated it by catching them at various stages throughout their incelification process, affirming their beliefs, and then hooking them in further so shitbags like Andrew Tate can profit off of them.

[–] EmilieEasie@fedinsfw.app 4 points 3 hours ago

I wonder if part of the issue is that we raise kids with a lot of platitudes like "don't rush it, you'll find someone" when the truth is not everyone does find someone and you're not promised a life partner