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Trans Megathread for the Week of November 11th, 2024 to November 17th, 2024 (hexbear.net)

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Xenia, the fox girl mascot of Linux, was first designed in 1996 by Alan Mackey. She was meant to be an alternative to Tux, the official mascot.

She had fallen into obscurity, but was noticed by a Twitter user in 2019 and was redrawn as a fox girl. But as it turned out, Xenia was originally meant to be male! The original creator, Alan, was cool with this, saying "It matches the transition of a lot of the smartest, nerdiest Linux users I know" and "And sure, you made her trans!".

So now we have a trans Linux mascot. And I think that's neat.

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[-] EllenKelly@hexbear.net 17 points 2 weeks ago

Goodnight comrades, here's part of the code of conduct that i think about alot

Be aware of your own enjoyment of the site.

If you find yourself no longer having fun, do something else. There are many different comms on Hexbear, and many different ways to shitpost and have fun.

If the site as a whole is just not cutting it for you, take a break. We'll still be here when you get back. Nothing should compel you to stay.

https://hexbear.net/code_of_conduct

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[-] Bureaucrat@hexbear.net 17 points 2 weeks ago

I love my trans comrades trans-heart

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[-] Beetle@hexbear.net 17 points 2 weeks ago

Bureaucrat posting has been a wholesome ending to site drama

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[-] SpookyGenderCommunist@hexbear.net 17 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

!CW Venting, social dysphoria:!<

!Feeling kind of shitty and just generally lost in my transition. There's a lot of stuff about it that feels daunting and that I don't know how to move forward with. Lately I've been wishing I had a cis girl friend who could help me out, and be a kind of 'big sister' I could go to for advice. But most of the women I'm friends with are very butch, and haven't felt super equipped to help me. And the one friend I have who has been able to help, moved multiple States away, and while she's been able to help me with some stuff, the distance has impacted our friendship, and I'm just feeling sad about the whole thing!<

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[-] Tommasi@hexbear.net 17 points 2 weeks ago

going outside in the same make-up i passed out in yesterday because it's brat summer

[-] LocalOaf@hexbear.net 17 points 2 weeks ago

SA abuser mention (not towards me), panic, sad/angry/confused

Joined a gym, been going everyday and going pretty hard powering through intense simmering rage at family shit and my own feelings of inadequacy and wasted time

Been feeling a lot better physically, and already making big (returning) newbie gainz

Finishing up cardio tonight, totally gassed and take a minute to just walk around the lobby, drinking some water, catching my breath, looking around at some of the group classes stuff on the calendars and a "leaderboard" thing of members that opt in for it

See (former friend who r***d and abused his ex who I was mutual friends with like a decade plus ago's first name) (that fucker's last name's initial) on the board

Almost have a panic attack imagining running into him there, immediately imagining getting into a fight there

This gym shit has been the first thing that's given me any self improvement and confidence in YEARS and now it might backfire horribly in a way I couldn't have possibly seen coming

This isn't fucking fair

Every goddamn year that passed since I went no contact with (that fucker) after the abuse came out, I've tried forgetting all about him and tried to help his abused ex and it was like it all just kicked me in the gut all over again out of nowhere from just a first name and last name initial

What the fuck

I don't know what to do about this or how to process it

Like, there's a possibility that it's a random different (that first name) (last name initial) but it's in the same town and is definitely a possibility that it's him and aggghhhhhhhh

[-] lilypad@hexbear.net 16 points 2 weeks ago

volcel-judge trans-gun trans-undertale

anti-volcel aktion

Yet again confirming that girldick is pretty and wonderful

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[-] LeylaLove@hexbear.net 16 points 2 weeks ago

Well I'm starting Naltrexone today. I really hope it's enough to keep me out of rehab

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[-] RainbowReflection@hexbear.net 16 points 2 weeks ago

Hi, I'm new here blob-no-thoughts

CW: dysphoria, transmedicalism, sad, transphobia

spoiler :( I want to be a woman, but I'm not. It's been like four years of wanting to be a girl, but my egg only really cracked this June. Before my egg cracked, my concept of gender identity was that I wasn't really a boy, and I wanted to be a girl, but obviously I was totally cis because even though I knew about the existence of trans people, I couldn't possibly be one of them, after all, trans people know that they are trans at the age of four and are conviced that they are the other gender. I don't know what I was thinking.

Last year someone in my ap computer science class came out as trans, our teacher told us that the student wanted to tell us something, and people were like "did [deadname] die?" and the teacher said that the student wanted to go by a different name and pronouns. Then someone goes said that he wouldn't use she/her pronouns to refer to someone who doesn't look like a girl. At least some people were respectful, though. The point is, I can't trust the people around me to not be bigoted, although most of the people in that class, have graduated. The trans student was very cool though, she was one of the only students who took the class seriously (I think there might be something in the computers turning people trans!) and was probably a gamer. Too bad she also graduated. I'm not a gamer and I don't have anything interesting about myself. I kind of looked up to her, even though I didn't identify as trans.

My whole life has been a lie of pretending to be someone that I'm not. I'm a minor, and I live with my parents in the wonderful state of Florida, where woke goes to die. I have reason to believe that my parents are transphobic. My family is Catholic. I am not, but they don't know that. I have been pretending for years. I don't say anything about how I feel about my gender.

I am growing more body hair every day. It's awful, and I don't think I've ever had this much. As much as I would like to do something about it, I am scared of what other people would say. I don't even know how to remove it without accidentally hurting myself.

I feel like a robot. I do the same stuff every day, and by that I mean that I don't do anything. I just do my schoolwork, and school gets repetitive. It distracts me from thinking. But guess what, when I do think, I just think about how I want to be a girl, and then I get sad. But I don't actually get sad, since I don't feel my emotions very deeply.

::: spoiler Read at your own risk CW: autogynephilia I think I might have that? But also maybe not? I mean, it can be arousing to imagine myself as a woman? But also I can think of myself as a woman and not be aroused? Autogynephilia has been one of those things that makes me question if I'm really trans. Most research on trans women does make a distinction between two types of trans people, those who find out early and are attracted to men, and those who find out later and are attracted to women, and sometimes have autogynephilia. Yes, I know that this research is stupid. That doesn't help. I still think about it. Also, I'm not really sure if I meet the criteria for gender dysphoria from a transmed perspective. Wikipedia shows the dsm description, but it says that it has to cause clinically significant distress or an impairment in functioning. The thing is, I do well in school, and to most people, especially adults, I appear well functioning. But I don't know, I don't have many friends and no one that I am close to, but I don't think that gender issues are what is causing this?

If you made it this far, I'm sorry for putting you through all of this. I'm okay, even if it sounds like I'm not.

[-] imogen_underscore@hexbear.net 15 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

other people have gone into enough detail already but just chiming in to say AGP isn't real, it's just a way of pathologising trans women experiencing female sexuality in the same way the vast majority of cis women do. try not to be ashamed of those feelings. Blanchard is a hack fraud and all of his work on this is made up transphobic bullshit designed to hurt you and keep you in the closet. thinking it's a secret other thing than just being trans is a pitfall you should try to pull your thoughts out of. also you don't need to experience dysphoria to be trans, you can just be trans. for what it's worth it sounds like you do experience it though and are just trying to invalidate yourself probably out of fear. i know it's scary but my 2c is that it clearly sounds like you should transition.

[-] naom3@hexbear.net 15 points 2 weeks ago

cw: autogynephilia dysphoria

Autogynephia isn’t real. There’s no actual evidence that the attracted to men/not attracted to men dichotomy isn’t entirely arbitrary and the whole theory doesn’t even make sense in the first place. Julia Serano has a very thorough take down of it but you need to know that it has been widely discredited even by the medical establishment for a while now and that it isn’t just “stupid” it’s fake. It’s literally just the same old parhologization of women’s sexuality that’s been going on for centuries but applied to trans women and blanchard was only able to briefly gain recognition because of how marginalized we are.

As for dysphoria, I’m sure people will tell you (correctly) that you don’t need to have dysphoria to be trans, but even ignoring that I don’t think dysphporia is a usefull way to think about being trans; dysphoria can manifest as many different things and can be hard to recognize, either because it’s something you haven’t considered, because it’s too subtle, or because, like a fish in water, it’s so omni present that you don’t even notice it. It’s very common for trans people to only realize that something was dysphoria after transitioning or to realize they had more dysphoria than they thought.

Instead of thinking in terms of dysphoria, think about what you want. Do you want to be a girl? If so, you’re trans. That’s all there is to it.

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[-] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 16 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

Watched ~~part of~~ a voice training video and now youtube thinks I'm serious. Stop reminding me of my weakness ohnoes

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[-] Tommasi@hexbear.net 16 points 2 weeks ago

For some reason my tax refund got super delayed this year, but I finally got it! First time in forever I don't feel broke. Time to get some cute winter outfits catgirl-happy

[-] Moss@hexbear.net 16 points 2 weeks ago

My breaking bad hyperfixation is the most obsessed anyone has ever been about something

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[-] Luna@hexbear.net 16 points 2 weeks ago

Webfishing clocked both me and my sister. The first chest she opened awarded her the pan title, and the first chest I opened awarded me the bi title. How did it know these things? This doesn't change the fact that I'm still going to run the Good Girl title though.

[-] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 16 points 2 weeks ago

might have gotten a wee tipsy last night

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[-] Angel@hexbear.net 16 points 2 weeks ago

I misread the "Linux" on her shirt as "Ligma" multiple times. Deadass. I keep having to double check.

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[-] Yor@hexbear.net 16 points 2 weeks ago

it's funny how two drinks can legitimately get me drunk. a good value too. I just watched the menu and that was good and ate bean borgors

I also did my injection today finally

I'm planning for the future too

I really hope people to believe in me when I say things about myself and how I feel

goodnightt

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[-] hexbee@hexbear.net 16 points 2 weeks ago

hairy dysphoria talk

I feel like I'm becoming worse and worse at shaving as time goes on. Maybe now that I'm out I actively despise the hair more and have less and less patience for it. Before I came out, I had already decided to laser the hair off my face because I hated how it looked and felt on me, and found continuously shaving really annoying. But now that I know I'm trans it feels like so much more of a big deal for some reason and I'm struggling to even get myself to look into it...

[-] Thallo@hexbear.net 16 points 2 weeks ago

I play it cool here, but every week, in my head I'm like, "this is the week I'm going to tell them I'm actually a cis guy and that I can't post with them anymore 😭"

Lmao so deranged peltier-laugh

[-] Josephine_Spiro@hexbear.net 17 points 2 weeks ago

If you ever say that we will forcibly make you trans again

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[-] AshenWolf@hexbear.net 16 points 1 week ago

Hi everyone! I (Luna) made this account just in time for a bit of an announcement in terms of my gender thoughts:

I've decided to go with the flow as of late, and the flow took me in a very interesting direction. I've given it some thought, and I realized something: What is gender to me? What do I want out of it exactly, and what do I consider gender to be? Sure, I wanted to present more feminine, and I felt the best way to do that was to be a woman. Is that the case, though? It was a pretty lousy assumption, to be honest. I knew I wanted to start feminizing HRT, but does that inherently make anyone a woman? No, they're a woman if they want to be, simple as. Do I want to be a woman? Maybe, but at the same time, what do I really want out of it specifically? Do I worry about playing the role perfectly at every turn, am I bothering to play a role? Isn't that what I'm trying to avoid? Shouldn't I just be trying to be myself? Why do certain things, like coming up with a name, seem so difficult for me, why do I struggle to identify with anything, why do I feel like she/her pronouns work some times and not others, why do I feel like other pronouns work some times and not others (still hate he/him though)? Why does gender seem to encroach on my sense of self at times? Am I trying to conform to a binary I wasn't meant to conform to? Why does this give me such doubt, why do I feel doubt about this stuff? It's not even about my transness, I know I am, I've known that I am, and I don't even see myself as cis at the worst of times anymore, but where does that leave me?

Recently, I've been exploring new pronouns. I asked you all to vote on pronouns for election day, and I honestly vibed with all of them. Okay, maybe not pup/pup's, but would it really piss me off if someone used that? No. I realized all of the pronouns out there (minus he/him) sound great, and feel like they could fit, and I don't mind being called by those pronouns. At the same time though, there are times where it feels like nothing fits. This sums up my thoughts, it feels like no matter what gender I try to realize for myself, no matter what I try to identify as, something goes wrong. I feel trapped, I feel like there's always a limit, even if there isn't necessarily.

A bit ago, I said that the label of demigirl fits me best, and it was the label I first identified with after my egg cracked. What I forgot, both in memory and mention, was that my egg didn't originally crack that day a few months ago. It cracked much earlier, and I had already internalized that identity. I may have presented cis (and not really been a fan), but the identity itself felt like it fit me. I'm fucking weird, I don't fit into anywhere, anything, and that probably applies to gender. I may feel dysphoria at times, may feel the need to cling onto gender in a desperation to have a sense of self, but I am not my gender. I am a human being, with the same level of identity as any other, regardless of what my gender identity may be.

So, it's time for the gender reveal gender-reveal . You may have been getting an idea based on what I have been saying, but I think that being agender is simply where I want to be hexbear-agender . By forsaking gender entirely, I eliminate the endless struggle. I can present however I want to, do whatever I want to (although I could as any gender, this is how it feels for me) without feeling like my sense of self is constantly shifting. I am who I am, beyond gender. What I want for my physical appearance, or how I want to act in the moment, doesn't change that.

I feel like it's going to be tough to let go. I could just be in the middle of a very long 10% agender arc. I could wake up tommorow and decide I want to be a woman again, gender is a fuck and I'm not going to pretend I understand it. For now, though, I'm going to identify as I want to, as I feel most comfortable. I know I do this at least every other week, to the point where it could be a site meme, but I really do feel that every time I start to grasp something, it's like a breakthrough. If this one sticks, cool! I've found it out. If it doesn't, cool! I've still found something out. So, that's me. I'll leave a bit of extra content/context below, but I'm excited to see where my journey brings me, and I always have been, even if it's really confusing ralsei-pout

I'm making this account in an attempt to shift my account from a gendered name to a username. It should also hold up if things are to change (I have no confidence that it won't). Anyway, I felt like I needed the fresh start. A lot has changed in the past few months. Also, I've noticed that how I act greatly reflects how I present, and that includes online. So, changing my account might change that as well.

If I backtrack on this in a week, I'm blaming the carousel hexbear-genderfluid explosion

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[-] yewler@hexbear.net 15 points 2 weeks ago

When I'm around new people who I've introduced myself as my chosen name to, I feel comfortable and amazing and more able to be myself. But when I'm around people I already knew before beginning this journey, I feel this weird tension and I'm not sure what to make of it.

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[-] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 15 points 2 weeks ago

my cool mental health

doing a good job holding in the scream right now. i have to do two things today and it is literally destroying me

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[-] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 15 points 2 weeks ago

In my wife’s Snuggie; got that girl stank going on

[-] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 15 points 2 weeks ago

i am constantly bullied every time i want to say something on here. people from all around the world gather to call me "pee pee girl" and push my face into the dirt...

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[-] 0x2640@hexbear.net 15 points 2 weeks ago

trans linux mascot waow-based

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[-] Wmill@hexbear.net 15 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

I remember jumping into the trans coffin in dark souls 2 and never noticing the effect since I was always beef jerky in armor yes-honey-left was in for a surpise when I used an effigy and changed armor lea-blush

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[-] milk_thief@hexbear.net 15 points 2 weeks ago

I was absent for a few weeks. Sure glad decades didn't happen in the meantime clueless

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[-] Josephine_Spiro@hexbear.net 15 points 2 weeks ago

Lost so much shit since I started wearing women's pants. I keep not bringing a purse because I think I won't need it then I just feel my wallet slip out of my pocket after a minute of walking

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[-] Luna@hexbear.net 15 points 2 weeks ago

OH MY GOSH I almost forgot to mention some progress I made today. I was trying to set up Bluetooth in the car, and it always repeats certain phrases back at me. I dread it for this exact reason, and I've avoided setting it up until now with that being one of many reasons. However, it had to happen, so I went to do it and put on my best fem voice. Imagine my shock when it spits my voice back out at me, and it sounds like a mature woman! I don't even know how I did it, and I don't want to listen to it again in case it ruins what might be magic, but in that moment I felt such intense euphoria. I then enjoyed the convenience of having my music on Bluetooth while no longer having to deal with my static-ridden aux cable.

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[-] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 15 points 2 weeks ago

vent/suffering/bad eating

So much pain. I'm so hungry right now. I haven't eaten in a day and a half. I'm starting to cry. If/when I eat something the pain is going to get worse.

Why am I such a failure. Broken. A waste.

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[-] hellomao@hexbear.net 15 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

TW: Discussion of health

spoiler

A year ago I had a pilonidal abscess and had to get it drained. Now I have a cyst on the same area.

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[-] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 15 points 2 weeks ago

girl facts I wish I knew sooner: apparently the longer your hair gets, the LESS often you're supposed to wash it wtf. i thought i was supposed to wash it more. this probably explains why my hair is always going fucking everywhere

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[-] Bureaucrat@hexbear.net 15 points 2 weeks ago

Trans ppl r cool, so says the happy puppy

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[-] Josephine_Spiro@hexbear.net 15 points 2 weeks ago

misgendering

Cissies see me breasting boobily and still refer to me as a guy. Wild how oblivious they are

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