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Xenia, the fox girl mascot of Linux, was first designed in 1996 by Alan Mackey. She was meant to be an alternative to Tux, the official mascot.

She had fallen into obscurity, but was noticed by a Twitter user in 2019 and was redrawn as a fox girl. But as it turned out, Xenia was originally meant to be male! The original creator, Alan, was cool with this, saying "It matches the transition of a lot of the smartest, nerdiest Linux users I know" and "And sure, you made her trans!".

So now we have a trans Linux mascot. And I think that's neat.


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[–] Bureaucrat@hexbear.net 15 points 4 months ago (9 children)

Trans ppl r cool, so says the happy puppy

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[–] Josephine_Spiro@hexbear.net 15 points 4 months ago (4 children)

Lost so much shit since I started wearing women's pants. I keep not bringing a purse because I think I won't need it then I just feel my wallet slip out of my pocket after a minute of walking

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[–] TheSpectreOfGay@hexbear.net 14 points 4 months ago

im playing animal crossing new horizons again comfy

[–] 0x2640@hexbear.net 14 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (1 children)

ventpostwe're stuck in a shitty depressing cycle, in a lot of pain and alone so we lash out if poked > lashing out causes guilt at causing hurt > guilt prompts a desire to hide due to feeling like creatures will never forgive us (and sometimes they genuinely dont which feeds into the feeling like nobody ever will as soon as even one slip up happens) > isolation cranks up the hurt and loneliness more, repeat

we dont feel safe, we never feel safe, we never have, maybe we never will. that causes us to hurt those we care about, and it sucks.

yes our first post on the new megathread is a ventpost :3

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[–] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 14 points 4 months ago (5 children)

British people don’t know anything

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[–] Luna@hexbear.net 14 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (2 children)

The latter is a vent, the former is talking about ~~fucking~~ pronouns pronouns

transphobiaEverytime I see "he or she" it tickles me, in a bad way. Why was this popularized, or used at all, when "they" is not only a better catch-all when gender and/or pronouns are unknown, AND "they" makes the sentence more fluid and feels more grammatically correct? I don't know if the cis are alright...

ableism, slurs mentionedWell, the radlib co-worker strikes again. Always get a bad feeling about him whenever he talks about certain things. It's like, he's ALMOST there, but has to ruin it with some sort of lib garbage. Or, even better, some GAMER WORDS just to spice things up, ya know? Just casually drop the r-slur, it was totally necessary to make your point known.

Like, as a queer person, why are you using ableist slurs when many queer people are neurodivergent? Why are you even using slurs in the first place when it's something you've probably been on the receiving end of? Long story short, shouldn't have expected anything less from a radlib, but these kind of things just piss me off. Why do people insist on language that has been used to hurt others (AND ME) when it's so easy NOT TO? ralsei-angry

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 14 points 4 months ago (2 children)

after three months my insurance finally gets back to me to say "we're not paying for your therapist lmao" i am going to scream

[–] Thallo@hexbear.net 13 points 4 months ago

Insurance is so fucking useless.

Literal fucking death panels

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[–] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 14 points 4 months ago (3 children)

Don’t let British people convince you they are smarter than Americans, they may be worse

[–] imogen_underscore@hexbear.net 13 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

as an irish person i have to say i have a bit more patience for yanks. ime brits tend to be more chauvinistic and less likely to admit the evilness of their own country. lots of them are crypto-unionists too. definitely more prejudiced against them

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[–] ThereRisesARedStar@hexbear.net 14 points 4 months ago
  1. Misgendering, sexual harassment
    spoilerI have to do a lot of interacting with the public as part of a socialist thing, and I've realized the hotter I look that day the more people go out of their way to misgender me.

So they're failing at making me feel bad about gender but I still feel icky because its literally just so fucking overtly trans coded sexual harassment

  1. I need to find a social space to use for dating but ugh, I've gotten so picky, except the folks whove made me picky are comrades and I don't date comrades! Ugh! I have a partner but sometimes there are aches that are outside their wheelhouse.

  2. Does anyone else get a really weird mix of dysphoria and euphoria while looking at Chappell Roan in drag? I'm trying to sort out my feelings there but getting swamped by "pretty gender-non-conforming lesbian ahhhh" when I try to.

did not know about the trans Linux fox girl, ty for making my day better

[–] belligerentkitten@hexbear.net 14 points 4 months ago (2 children)

another serious storm expected, and we're usually cut off for a few days to weeks when this happens. managed to go down for supplies, food, gasoline in case we lose power again, pick up medication, take medication in order to have vaguely functioning body, and make preparations for the storm. would have liked to be able to fix the roof leaks before the storm but unfortunately that was beyond my capabilities. but i got a whole bunch of dry wood before it all gets rained on so we should be able to stay warm and dryish.

was a p successful day, especially considering how hard everything has been recently. am proud of myself. and resting by the fire and keeping warm :3

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[–] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 14 points 4 months ago (6 children)
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[–] Yor@hexbear.net 14 points 4 months ago (5 children)

Medical gatekeeping, but I'm continuing to make progressMy surgeon is really trying to get a third letter in support of surgery because he's clearly nervous that this is new to him and tbf majority of other surgeons. I have a current therapist that I'm asking him to talk to as the third person, but he shouldn't need more than two letters.

I'm trying very hard to stay understanding of everyone else's anxiety regarding my situation, but sometimes I just want to scream at them.

"What do you really want from your body?"


A positive (nsfw) storyI hope this isn't oversharing, but I saw my girlfriend for the first time recently and it went so well.

Every time it was my turn to top, I kept using the same dildo that was pretty much the exact size I wanted from surgery (and was before surgery too). When I told her I liked that one cause it felt validating, she said she bought it because it seemed like exactly what I described to her. I could have cried haha. She never told me she was doing that, she just wanted to be as supportive as possible

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[–] iridaniotter@hexbear.net 14 points 4 months ago

Interpersonal relationships are not helping me whatsoever so I've decided I'm simply going to stop being lame and simply become good. pineapple-surf

[–] queermunist@lemmy.ml 14 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (5 children)

intrusive thoughtsSometimes I think about using urinals in the men's room and fighting anyone who gives me shit for it. It's so much faster, I don't have to touch anything besides myself, and I think standing empties me out better.

But gawd it would cause so many fucking problems lol

[–] imogen_underscore@hexbear.net 13 points 4 months ago (1 children)

i just stand in the women's room usually (blessed with no american style gaps under the stalls where i live lol)

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[–] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 13 points 4 months ago (2 children)

spoilerI struggle deciding which restroom to use in public. idk if I'd rather be seen as a girl or a femme dude in the men's room or gamble on passing in the ladies, but risk being seen as a pervert/degen/predator etc.

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[–] Dessa@hexbear.net 14 points 4 months ago (3 children)
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[–] SorosFootSoldier@hexbear.net 14 points 4 months ago

Good morning TO YOU

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 14 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (4 children)

A friend of mine, who I dated briefly, keeps staying up late but being bossy/dommy and telling her to go to bed apparently is the secret key to her heart - and I'd rather not tread back over that same trail. But I still think she should SLEEP

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[–] Carcharodonna@hexbear.net 14 points 4 months ago (7 children)

I feel like a brand new person right now transshork-happy

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[–] Thallo@hexbear.net 14 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

Getting some routine blood work done, and I asked the doctor to check my T levels.

He asked if I'm "having problems in the male department"

Why, yes, doctor, you might say I am catgirl-smug

[–] Kiagz@hexbear.net 14 points 4 months ago (4 children)

sad :(My brain is so mean to me catgirl-cry Just a constant stream of negativity towards myself. Nothing is ever good enough

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[–] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 14 points 4 months ago (1 children)
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[–] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 14 points 4 months ago (1 children)

i hope you're having a good day

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[–] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 14 points 4 months ago (12 children)
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[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 14 points 4 months ago (4 children)

Haven't painted my nails in a bit and for the best, got an interview tomorrow and I gotta look not too hot to intimidate the interviewers. I'll give it a month if I get in to secure my position before I get back to it, maybe finally get some high end nail polish and not the dollar store stuff I find.

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[–] Thallo@hexbear.net 13 points 4 months ago (6 children)

More dream posting:

I had a dream that I came out to my mom, and she reacted very positively. She asked me to dress up and go see a musical with her. I didn't have the heart to tell her that musicals are really more gay coded, but she was trying to be supportive lol.

Anyway, we went because she likes musicals even though I hate them haha

This is a stark contrast to last week's dream where she was super transphobic. A welcome change.

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[–] belligerentkitten@hexbear.net 13 points 4 months ago (5 children)

i've been a mac/linux person for a long long time but i've just kind of happened across the money for a macbook a couple times which has kept me from having to go full linux - i got one from a uni course a few years ago. this one is nowhere near obsolete and i'm sure i have years left with it. but helping my partner set up a linux laptop has made me feel p good about the fact that simply there is no financial way for me to continue my mac habit. i've been kinda stuck on it for so long partly due to disability because for some reason the macbooks give me way less pain to use. but money is money no matter how disabled i am, and i think i could cope with the same laptop as they have, physically, and mentally i am feeling good about a linux switch. so i'd already been thinking a lot about linux when i saw this adorable trans mascot post. so thank you!

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[–] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 13 points 4 months ago

injectionsthey gave me the wrong needles at the pharmacy so now i'm just stabbing my gay butt with them to keep doing subcutaneous lol

[–] Zorothamya@hexbear.net 13 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

We should add a Xenia emoji to hexbear. (perhaps the !libre@hexbear.net logo? (or maybe some other image at https://xenia-linux-site.glitch.me/ ))

[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 13 points 4 months ago (9 children)

under socialism all trans people will be provided up to 5 melee weapons and a wall mount for them, paid for by the state

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