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Credit: u/manchesterMan0098
Uhm, having someone care for you is not a "pathological mother figure".
People need this. Men need this. Asking for care is the most normal thing a person can do.
And then if something is actually wrong, there is a therapist.
Even people who have put the work into therapy need a loving attachment figure. It's healthy to be open and vulnerable when you need it.
All the battles you fought that day? Unless you are on the front line in Ukraine you should be able to find a more chill lifestyle.
"I dont need therapy, I just need to have a woman that reminds me of my mother and will fuck me"
Men can always care for each other and stop expecting women to do all the work.
Yeah this is something I’ve been trying to walk the talk about.
I joined an adults sports league and have a few friends I call almost daily on rotation (whether they want it or not lol) and I’ve started feeling a lot more fulfilled and less anxious.
Most of those friends expect my calls now, and I get questioned if I can’t make it to a practice or game. It feels good to have your presence desired, whether it’s in a romantic or platonic relationship. There’s an epidemic of men who think that that void can only be filled with a lover.
I need therapy. I also need intimacy. Since I cannot find intimacy, I am trying to make do with therapy.
¿Por qué no los dos?
Someone who would lay down in bed with me and hold me while I cry would be a tremendous help to my mental health, but a therapist would be real nice, too. Too bad it's a five-month wait to get in to see one around here.
Look at the user name, it's a truthful joke.
I would say that, conditional to the man having a partner, intimacy is a hell of a lot more accessible than therapy. Provided that intimacy is not rationed or made conditional, this could provide more lasting and more timely healing than therapy as well.
With that said, we really need to normalize men seeking therapy. There are far too many men where the conditions above are not met, and so could and would benefit more from therapy than intimacy.
To all those saying, "but why shouldn't men want to be cared for?"
This meme plays into a narrative the makes women subservient.
It suggests that only men "battle", and that being a man and "battling" entities them to care by women.
No where in this is acknowledgement that women have burdens too, and that all people benefit from care.
No where in this is any hint of reciprocity. If anything, it implies that the "joy" of taking care of "her man" should be enough.
No. Walk the fuck on. Having a penis doesn't entitle you to one-sided care.
The other thing implied by this - that women should 'naturally' be able to fix 'her man'. But if a woman in broken? Oof - 'she has Daddy issues' and better fix herself, right?
And what if a woman tries to fix 'her man' and fails? Oh look - isnt that convenient - society just took all his faults and made them her failures. Wow! Who wouldn't want to sign up for that??
And just look at that success rate. You can count up the number of women killed by intimate partners and see how great this plan is.
Society really needs to get past this childish narrative that tells men they should expect to find a manic pixie dream girl who lives only to make him happy. Men make fun of girls for believing in Prince Charming, but this is truly the more destructive fairy tale.
I get that the original was a bit sensationalist but I don’t see a problem with the overall message. Yes it was needlessly gendered but again that doesn’t change the message.
People need people that care about them and will listen. That’s it.
Yeah my fucking battle of testing software and doing deep dives on bugs.