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I’ve treated Lemmy as a fun, silly blog since I made my account. I love how you can freely post anywhere and as much as you like, unlike on Reddit. I’m also a teen who grew up online with unrestricted internet access and does online school, so I’m a bit addicted to being online. I love how much more interactive the comments feel here, despite it being a smaller platform. I’ve had fun reading and interacting with people. But I think I might delete my account and everything, because people analyzing my behavior and accusing me of things has started to get to me. Most recently, someone accused me of trying to manipulate people because of my age and gender. All I wanted to do was make people feel some fun and giggles. I’m wondering if you’ve ever felt something similar.

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[–] swelter_spark@reddthat.com 1 points 19 minutes ago

I felt that way, too. I started enjoying it more again when I started blocking people that I wouldn't want to interact with, and blocking communities that seem to attract that type of person.

[–] forestbeasts@pawb.social 1 points 1 hour ago* (last edited 59 minutes ago)

Oof, yikes. 🧡 Maybe switching instance to a more chill place would help?

If people are jumping on you like that, that should a thing your mods can deal with. I don't know if lemmy.world has the kind of mod team that would go out of their way to protect you from this kinda shit (since they're a big generalist instance), but if not, you're likely to get better moderation on a smaller server. Like how we're on pawb.social and it's probably pretty good here. Just like, having a place with admins who care. But it might be worth bringing the stuff up to the lemmy.world mod team, because if they can handle it it's easier than packing up and moving.

(We're not teen here, but are also Super Online. And also various forms of queer and otherwise marginalized so yeah, I get it.)

-- Frost

[–] DarkFuture@lemmy.world 3 points 2 hours ago

Nah.

I blocked the .ml instance like everyone should and I've had a great experience overall.

[–] pineapplelover@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago)

Just make a new account then

Edit: yoo it's violet08, you make good content, keep it up

[–] Tedesche@lemmy.world 0 points 2 hours ago (2 children)

I have considered abandoning Lemmy multiple times. It’s a bit too chock full of far leftists who think it’s fine to do unprovoked violence to far right people under the “punch a Nazi” slogan. I find many of the hypocritical tendencies I fled on Reddit can be found here, just from a slightly different slice of the political spectrum.

[–] Outlawstar@lemmy.world 4 points 1 hour ago

I love punching Nazi's and I am far left. I have a big problem with people who don't want to punch Nazi's and would be happy to punch them too. Evil prevails when good men do nothing. Maybe stop being on the wrong side of history and just don't get punched? Happy to come smack a traitor around any day though! Republikkklans and the right have betrayed their country. Do remind me what the penalty for treason is again.

“Patriotism means to stand by the country. It does not mean to stand by the president.”

--Teddy Roosevelt (R)

"The greatest danger to American freedom is a government that ignores Constitution."

- Thomas Jefferson

"To announce that there must be no criticism of the President, or that we are to stand by the President, right or wrong, is not only unpatriotic and servile, but is morally treasonable to the American public."

 -Theodore Roosevelt

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"The test of our progress is not whether we add more to the abundance of those who have much; it is whether we provide enough for those who have too little."

—FDR, 1937

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-Theodore Roosevelt

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-The Federalist No. 47, at 324 (James Madison) (J. Cooke ed.1961)

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-Thomas Jefferson

[–] AskewLord@piefed.social 0 points 2 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago)

you don't have to be far right for them to want to consider you a nazi or punch you. you just have to be less extremist than they are, or not the same flavor of anarchist/socialist/communist.

[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 2 points 6 hours ago

nope. its been fine to me.

[–] hexagonwin@lemmy.today 2 points 6 hours ago

just ignore those people lol, no need to get offended by that or anything

[–] melsaskca@lemmy.ca 5 points 9 hours ago

Some people will go way out of their way to be offended. Some people just want to make you feel small. But that's not most people. Most people are good. You have to separate the wheat from the chaff. If you get stung from time to time just shake it off and don't become cynical. All the best.

[–] eletes@sh.itjust.works 2 points 7 hours ago

Just make a new account every year maybe? But I would recommend getting offline. My attention is pretty shit after years of reddit. Lemmy has been better for me mentally since it's not pumping algorithms

[–] sefra1@lemmy.zip 2 points 10 hours ago

That's the problem with pseudo-anonymous platforms, since every post is logged into a single account it becomes possible to trace completely unrelated posts on unrelated threads and in this case even communities and instances, even to the point of stalking.

And the more posts you write the more information a hostile actor has to be able to correlate information. It's really bad for opsec, since there are no reason for two different posts on two completely unrelated threads to be linked together.

Anonymous image boards are usually much better in that regard, unfortunately chans are nazi bars, so I stopped using them years ago, my guess is that they are also difficult to moderate (though usually the mods are nazis themselves).

What I recommend doing is keep using lemmy but delete your account and make a new one from time to time, I usually do that with every website that requires a login anyway, abandon all old accounts, clear all cookies and browser data, (and apps if you use them), turn off my router overnight so I get a new IP and start anew, make a new email and register new accounts to that email.

[–] fluffykittycat@slrpnk.net 5 points 14 hours ago

Block those people, they aren't worth your time. report them too, get the harassers banned

[–] 1984@lemmy.today 4 points 15 hours ago

Ive been here three years, and ive been accused of being all kinds of things. You cant let it get to you. You should absolutely think about peoples comments and figure out if its about their own issues or if its genuinely a problem with your own personality though.

There are users here who had difficult upbringing because of racism or gender issues, and they will think you are a hateful person if they see a comment they dont agree with on those topics.

Hang in there. If you can make comments and posts that make people feel good (many upvotes), you are helping the community I would say.

[–] Furbag@lemmy.world 4 points 16 hours ago

Nah, your posts are good. Fuck the haters. I don't even bother to look at usernames 90% of the time but I recognized a few of the posts you've made over the past few days in lemmy shitpost and they are genuinely good.

[–] njm1314@lemmy.world 2 points 14 hours ago

In all honesty you should probably delete and create new accounts every 6 months to a year or so. Of course I'm lazy so I don't.

[–] SaneMartigan@lemmy.world 1 points 14 hours ago

My take - Start a new one. If you delete it any good advice you've given disappears.

[–] mr_noxx@lemmy.ml 89 points 1 day ago (4 children)

If Lemmy is a service you've enjoyed and you aren't trying to hurt anyone, why let random jerks ruin it for you and chase you off? Just block them and forget they ever existed. This is the way.

[–] violet08@lemmy.today 33 points 1 day ago (10 children)

True. Maybe I’m just softer than I thought. But having someone write a whole accusatory paragraph about me when I’ve never even stirred the pot feels pretty bad.

https://lemmy.world/comment/22429589

[–] angrystego@lemmy.world 3 points 15 hours ago

This can happen and it feels terrible. On the other hand, I find it quite nice that there were several people there ready to defend you and the hater got downvoted into oblivion. You're not alone and you're being loved.

[–] gigastasio@sh.itjust.works 36 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Here’s a little something you can send to that person, and people like them:

Or if you prefer…

Carry on, shitpost soldier. 🫡

[–] M137@lemmy.world 0 points 2 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago)

They could preferably use images with the same/similar message that aren't cringe as fuck, like those are.

[–] Carrolade@lemmy.world 31 points 1 day ago

Don't feel bad about it. He's basically saying he thinks you're too cool to actually be real, so you must be fake. Seems like a compliment to me.

[–] mystrawberrymind@piefed.ca 16 points 1 day ago

I, a very normal lady -like I would not give out identifying info but you’d probably be surprised- reading this post like 👀. I am sure I’m not the only one lol. Some of us have strong ideals about healthier internet browsing and are giving the fediverse a try. We are out there!

[–] mesamunefire@piefed.social 8 points 1 day ago

Congrats thats a heck of an achievement. Someone wrote a small paper on you. Thats pretty cool.

[–] ramble81@lemmy.zip 7 points 1 day ago

I’m sorry, but I’d have to simultaneously laugh and admire the fact that someone took that much time out of their day to analyze what I said and produce a paragraph like that. You’re literally living rent free in their head. Take that as a win and keep on trucking forward. Fuck the haters.

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[–] Tollana1234567@lemmy.today 1 points 14 hours ago

Just block and report them. On reddit, yea i would delete it

[–] Ice@lemmy.zip 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Eh. Sure.

I was also a teenager on the internet, back when Reddit was a chill place to be. Now I'm an adult, with... responsibilities.

My advice?

Enjoy yourself, have fun, be unfiltered, be silly. The internet isn't that big of a deal as long as you keep a degree of separation between your irl identity and online life. It's liberating especially as someone who was a bit socially awkward.

Still, don't forget mental hygiene. A break is good from time to time. Talk to people irl, take a walk, touch grass.

When people get angry online, I do my best to be a duck, let it wash off, respond either pleasantly or with cheer. Life is too short to be miserable, so go forth and have fun little duckling :)

[–] fluffykittycat@slrpnk.net 2 points 14 hours ago

This is good advice

[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 7 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

I have been online since 1993 and had been taught and continue to treat everything I post as if it will never be deleted. I don't see a point in deleting my accounts when the data has very likely been duplicated the instant I sent it and could still easily be reposted or used by whoever has access to the database it is stored on; let alone the multitude of unknown bots and agents that may have duplicated it independently.

So, no. It never even crosses my mind because I think it is rather pointless. Of course, it is also because I don't really talk about my personal life in detail enough, or use my real name online so my online identity can be linked to my real one and don't have any fear of something I said when I was 9 being used against me now that I am 41.

[–] ScoffingLizard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 20 hours ago (2 children)

The tech to link anonymous profiles to real identities end masse might not be ubiquitous, but I saw an article recently that says it exists using AIs. However, most AI is ridiculous so I'm not sure.

[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 1 points 3 hours ago

The tech to link pseudoanonymous profiles exists. They are not linking your one off account to your real data on their own. They are linking alt accounts to people's main account that is often using their real name.

Unless they are able to be fed shit like all the school work I did growing up or all my personal notes that were physically written down, they won't have enough information on my real identity to link my online one.

[–] Rai@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 8 hours ago

That’s why you gotta post using different posting styles, punctuation, slang, hobbies, and post times on different web sites with different accounts for the past 28 years (I am mentally ill)

[–] givesomefucks@lemmy.world 27 points 1 day ago

Just block people.

And they can block you too.

There's a lot of weird people on Lemmy, that's not a bad thing, it's normal for online spaces at this stage. But some people will dominate your time if you let them.

Most recently, someone accused me of trying to manipulate people because of my age and gender.

"Online no one knows I'm not a dog"

That type of stuff rarely comes up, so when people just constantly mention it, it gets noticed.

So just stop saying it, and problem solved

[–] surewhynotlem@lemmy.world 18 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Delete your account and create a new one. Problem solved.

But also, two things. First, always be questioning yourself. Those jerks might have a point. But second, jerks are jerks and you shouldn't listen to them or be bothered by them.

If you can balance those two ideas, you'll do really well online, and probably in real life too.

[–] angrystego@lemmy.world 1 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

The jerks don't have a point if they say you're fake and pretending you're younger than you really are, as OP mentioned elsewhere. There's no reason to introspect if these are the accusations.

[–] surewhynotlem@lemmy.world 2 points 8 hours ago

Yeah, that one falls into point 2.

The nuance is being able to tell which comments to reflect on and which ones to toss. Took me years to figure that out.

[–] HuntressHimbo@lemmy.zip 13 points 1 day ago

It would be sad to see you go, your sense of humor has definitely made Lemmy more enjoyable lately. That said Lemmy isn't worth it if your mental health would suffer. Do what's best for you, and if that happens to be posting great shit posts then we will all benefit

[–] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 17 points 1 day ago (1 children)

When I switched from Reddit to Lemmy, it was my opportunity to start a fresh feed.

I stayed away from things like relationships and AITA, because they usually just got me pissed off and fighting with people.

I keep a few political things because I do want to hear what people are saying about current events, but most of my feed now is jokes, and fun conversation.

[–] BryyM@lemmy.world 10 points 1 day ago

The AITAs developed into Chatgpt testing grounds, so many stories that were clearly fake

[–] remon@ani.social 17 points 1 day ago

There isn't even a need to delete it, just make a new one.

[–] chicken@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 22 hours ago

I deleted my Reddit account and made a new one after my ex messaged me, it's a reasonable precaution and good opsec if you don't feel comfortable with people having an easy time tracking you. I want to avoid doing that here if I can though. I don't know to what extent a record of the things you've said can pseudonymously establish status as a unique person given the way AI is changing things, but the other options seem to involve trusting untrustworthy entities or giving up on the internet entirely so it seems worth trying.

[–] cannedtuna@lemmy.world 12 points 1 day ago

So you’re 18/f/cali and someone doesn’t believe you, I mean, personally I wouldn’t be putting personal info out there.

Saw someone comment that you’re like the female Mickey7, and yeah that seems spot on lol. I mean, not everyone’s going to like what you post, but that’s why it’s shitposting.

Who cares what people think, as long as you’re enjoying posting stupid stuff.

Better than some people on here who create a new account every couple hours just to post 1 or two things, then delete their accounts to avoid being banned.

You do you.

[–] zxqwas@lemmy.world 14 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I feel that whenever I scroll on a community that allows US politics.

I find it amusing when people try to analyse me. They spend all that time and effort only to be that wrong.

Anyway keep up the good work, you're one of the funny people here even if you're a Republican Chinese communist feminist MGTOW spy here to cause disharmony in utopia.

[–] violet08@lemmy.today 16 points 1 day ago (4 children)

It’s interesting how negative comments affect me so much more than positive ones. I’ve definitely received far more positive feedback during my time here, but for every 100 positive comments, that one negative one really sticks with me.

[–] angrystego@lemmy.world 1 points 15 hours ago

I have this trait irl. It's good to know about it and even better to try to regulate it, because it makes life seem so much worse than it really is. I can see there are people who don't have it this way and who just forget all the bad stuff almost immediately - must be nice.

[–] obelisk_complex@piefed.ca 14 points 1 day ago (1 children)

It's an anxiety thing; the actual name is "rejection sensitivity dysphoria": https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/24099-rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-rsd

A lot of AuDHD people suffer it. Great example, I started a business and I've gotten 99% positive feedback on the product from dozens of people, but a handful of negative comments and two of my best friends didn't like it, and I've actually considered giving up entirely because of that.

Which is insane. I love my product, I'm very happy with it... but my buddies not liking it makes me very sad on a whole bunch of levels.

Also I did delete my old account and comments, precisely because as MagicShel said above: it had existed long enough to be a liability. It's not as big a deal here as on Reddit though, you can export your preferences and get back to the same subscriptions and blocks very easily on any new account!

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago

I'll also say that for people who experience that intentionally building up distress tolerance is super valuable

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[–] Hathaway@lemmy.zip 10 points 1 day ago

So, at risk of sounding like an online stalker, I saw that comment while scrolling from that “50 year old woman” and it was just odd. Don’t take it too hard. Then switched feeds and saw this post.

I say this as nicely as I can, but, this place is largely a collection of nerds, social outcasts, Reddit fugitives(ie nerds and outcasts lol), and people that have been banned from Reddit. Not all or even many interactions here will be status quo.

If it negatively impacts your life, leave, if it’s a social outlet, treat it as such, and don’t take it too hard.

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