Humans age on a curve, returning to a state of infancy as they get older.
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Most annoying noise is my phone alarm in the morning.
Why did we build a society where we must wake up and drive away from our homes full of love and beauty at the maximum legal speed every day?
Guls. I have developed an irrational and visceral anger towards their constant screeching during the summer months.
Anyone else hate that the checkout scan noise is constantly going off in grocery stores?
Honestly...the discord notification or my phone vibrating.
When you're busy with something but the crew starts a back and forth in the group chat and it just keeps going off.
There should be a setting that only sends a notification once from the same channel over a set period of time.
I find I simultaneously want them to stfu but also know everything they're saying.
Its not the notification sound mind you. Its the sound of the phone vibrating against whatever its resting on.
For the past several months, in my neighborhood, there is a periodic very low frequency thumping sound. Imagine a chopper motorcycle idling, but lower frequency and very distant. It comes, lasts about 20 minutes, and then stops. I've only heard from one other person in the neighborhood who has noticed it.
Closing the windows does nothing because it's such a low frequency. Also, because it's a low frequency, it sounds the same whether inside or outside, and it's impossible to figure out which direction it's coming from. I usually miss it during the day, but at night, if I hear it I can't get to sleep until it stops.
Leaf blower
Everything annoys me, notifications, kids making noises, my own kids making noises, the sound of an extractor fan whilst im trying to shit in peace... getting older is mad. Explains all the grumpy old men.
I don't have kids so this might not work for you, but for me getting a nice pair of noise cancelling headphones has been a real godsend. They were a little pricey but being able to just have a silent bubble you can turn on whenever you want is great. They also completely cancel out the background sound of being on a plane.
OK since nobody has said it yet. How everything has a goddamn LED in it to show its on or off or disconnected or whatever.
I hate how I have to put eletrical tape over all my device lights so I can get some peace at night.
Edit: shit this thread is specifically about noises, not general annoyances. I do not retract my statement however.
Count your lucky stars you cannot hear LED's.
I can. My hearing is extremely sensitive.
I've gone through the effort to set up smart plugs for most of my devices, to turn off automatically, for no other reason than eliminating the buzz.
That is actually pretty interesting! Are you sure it is the LEDs that you can hear? I would probably lean towards the mains 50Hz buzz being heard by you due to internal transformers
Depends; I’m a lot older now and deaf (but have tinnitus, yay) in one ear, but I could hear the flyback whine of old TVs. I can hear the odd switching regulator still, but most these days are switching waaaaay above even the best human hearing range.
50/60Hz buzz should be fairly rare these days except for some high power cases or some really poorly designed electronics.
It's without a doubt the LED's themselves. Moving closer to the exact location of the LED confirms it.
For some cheap products, I've physically cut one side of the LED pin to shut it up, and the buzzing stops.
Though technically it could be the sound of a capacitor charging/discharging or the resistors, not exactly sure on the exact mechanism, but it's at the very least something on the LED circuit.
...wow, you just reminded me that i used to hear LEDs, too: i'd totally forgotten about that...anyway, i can vouch that commuting a couple of hours every day in a top-down roadster for twenty years makes the problem go away; heck, the tinnitus even drowns out a lot of electronic-feedback clicks and beeps which are supposed to be audible...
Repetitive and useless noises at any time.
Loud noises when I’m trying to sleep - like next door playing music loudly or something.
People playing music, videos, or voice/video calls on their phone speaker in public spaces, subways or planes.
People letting their phone ring loudly while just looking at it and not silencing it.
People with loud text send/receive tones while texting.
I love custom notification sounds. My ringtone and message sound is made by me. It started back in 2005 and stayed til around 2021. Now my phone is on silent. Most apps have notifications disabled manually. I got a smartwatch and only let it show notifications that I actually care about. Phone stays in DND forever.
I just cant understand how people live with notifs on for everything. Fake notifs from insta, fake notifs from whatsapp, fake notifs from email apps, youtube, any other app. By fake notifs I mean these notifications that are designed to prompt you to open an app. Suggestions, changes, invites, reminders. Fuck all of that. I want them to be useful, not trash stream of crap attention grabbers.
Notifications in general. Every app wants you to have them on and then they have the gawl to use that permission to send ads.
And you never know which one is going to do it or how but inevitably anything you give notification permissions to will send you bullshit.
Can't turn on Door Dash or Amazon Notifications because they'll find a way to leave their lane and send you span Notifications.
And I know, I can adjust settings but I'm tired of doing so. Especially when they will move or change those settings with an update. Hell my phone could update and shift things.
I tried dating apps recently and it was just a constant flow of bs Notifications.
my neighbors electric garage door opener wakes me up almost ever god damn day i hate the noise with the energy of a million suns
Gas station pumps here in ontario have these shreiking beeps, at every step, I fucking hate it so much
Insert card
BEEP BEEP BEEP
connecting
BEEP BEEP BEEP
Would you like a car wash today?
BEEP BEEP BEEP
pick up nozzle
BEEP BEEP BEEP
select grade
BEEP BEEP BEEP
nozzle replaced
BEEP BEEP BEEP
Have a good day
BEEP BEEP BEEP
BEEP BEEP BEEP
it can stil be heard beeping repeatedly as I fucking drive away
And if you hesitate at any step, it will beep repeatedly as if your a stupid cow taking forever to do the simplest task and need to be cattle pronged in the earballs to get your ass moving
A phone on vibrate. Getting a text or notification and the thing vibrating. Started pissing me off more and more. Its rewiring our brains like Pavlovs dogs. Every time you hear it, it makes you check your phone and connects you back into the never ending flow of information.
Fucking disconnect, breathe, brrrr..brrrr..
Fucking cars. Especially Subarus and Toyotas, which have an unpleasant tone. They beep every button push on the remote, so unlocking all the doors is two pushes BEEP BEEEP BEEEP BEEEEP! Then people push the lock button more than once as they leave BEEP. BEEP… BEEEP!
My car doesn’t need to beep. I’ll turn around and look at it and see the lights flashing.
Also, my fucking dishwasher. If I program it to start in 5 hrs when electricity is cheap, and then add something, I have 3 seconds to add it before it soft cancels the cycle and I have to push a button to make it continue for some inexplicable reason. If I close it while it’s in this mode it beeps constantly for 20 seconds. If it wasn’t bolted down everyone in the family has had a time when they would have taken the opportunity to throw it out the door.
I can also relate to the chewing; if I’m eating it covets other’s noise and I survive, but I can’t stand hearing other’s mastication. Also breathing heavily. A family member has asthma and fucked up sinuses and refuses to see a doctor, so they just mouth-breathe panting all day long (and don’t have their phone silenced either).
Babies or toddlers crying is one of the big reasons I won't be a parent. My reaction to the noise is incredibly intense and I pretty much lose all sense of thought past getting away from the noise any way possible. People most of my life be like "nobody likes it get over yourself / you get used to it / it's worth it". No Susan you don't understand how badly I'd neglect a child to get away from that noise, it'll create a feedback loop, and I refuse to do that to a kid. Thankfully in my thirties now and people have for the most part finally stopped trying to convince me otherwise
Its not just the crying for me, its those random shrieks of delight that also get me, especially in supermarkets with all that noise and light reflecting surfaces
There are many reasons I never had children, but the crying would have been a special kind of torture
I don't like kids so I can relate
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Mosquito devices still pierce right into my brain, I can't spend too long in supermarkets that use it and those sonic cat scarers are a nightmare
I got an used airfryer from my mate who didn't have any use for it. It's pretty good and useful. But it beeps at around like fucking 150dB. And it beeps constantly. Give it electricity? BEEP. Start adjusting the heat? BEEP AT EVERY TOUCH. Adjust the time? BEEP AT EVERY TOUCH. It's ready? BEEPS 60 TIMES!
Cafeteria style restaurants as a kid. The sounds of all those people eating was gross. This was before there were tvs every 5 ft playing Fox News.
Easily the assholes on motorbikes who go out of their way to be as noisy as possible and cause a whole row of houses to vibrate tangibly.
At my last place I used to wake up 2-3 times a night from this.
I'll never understand this. Motorcycles are fantastic vehicles (fossil fuel issues aside) -- they're agile, fast, and exhilarating. But none of that enjoyment comes from the noise they make; removing your muffler is purely a selfish, "look at me!" exercise.
Oof, phuck!
A couple years ago, we had a downstairs apartment neighbor with a fast and very loud motorcycle, that he would literally park inside his apartment, and he'd make a point to rev it up right when he returned or left from his front door..
I confronted him, from a slight distance from our front balcony (he stayed on ground level). Anyways, I kinda lied to him, but not very rude, but I firmly spoke..
"Sir, we'd appreciate if you wouldn't rev your motorcycle up like that, it's scaring our dog."
That motherfucker had the nerve to threaten me, but I stood behind my words, with witnesses around no less. The lie, for whatever reason, the sound actually didn't scare our dog, but that was my lie, and I was sticking to it.
Well guess what? Within less than a month, apparently one of the other neighbors had that asshole evicted... 👍
I fucking hate breathing sounds. I can't help it.
One of the kids at my job managed to tune his whine into a fucking siren. Seriously. He'd ramp up the volume and pitch, ramp back down, and repeat, just like an ambulance.
I can see why he did - it's very good at getting someone's attention. Our practice is to ignore it and prompt functional communication instead, and thankfully it's working as I haven't heard the "ambulance whine" in a while. But wow, it was a truly awful sound. I'll take straight screaming over that noise any day.
Man, teaching became a lot harder when they outlawed tasers.
A car horn at the wrong moment can completey ruin my day. And I don't mean when it is aimed at me. Just the sound itself at the wrong time.
Never visit New Jersey, it's pretty much constant there. It's how I always know I'm home when I go to visit.
I hate that microwaves have to beep like R2-D2 everytime you push a fucking button. I was in a crappy hotel room once, and in that room was a microwave from the '90s. That thing had an analog timer and dials and physical buttons and shit. No crappy capacitive touch sensors. It was amazing. Every microwave should be like that. Oh, and when the food was done you heard a ding (LIKE A FUCKING BELL!) and that was the only sound it made aside from the ooooooooooooo sound of the thing. It was amazing. I still long for a microwave like that one.
I haven’t had a microwave in a decade and have zero regrets. Every now and then it would be handy, but it’s really not a necessity.
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I already commented, but after going through the other comments I realized nobody's brought up one of the worst offenders - the sounds of eating. The squishing, chewing noises, the lips smacking, even the "ahhh" that soda commercials include whenever somebody takes a drink. It makes my skin crawl and can even make me irrationally angry.
A lot of ASMR also triggers me. It's creepy and unsettling to hear a close up recording of someone whispering. I can't explain it, I know it's not rational, but there's something about it that makes me deeply uncomfortable. I simply can't wrap my head around how people can find that sort of sound pleasant.
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