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What're you into, what're you looking forward to, what're you happy about?

Please

I am feeling terribly self-harmy in advance of my birthday next week

I got to the point of making a pros and cons chart

give me something to be vicariously happy about or something to look forward to, please

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[-] the_itsb@hexbear.net 16 points 1 month ago

@FourteenEyes@hexbear.net please come tell me your relationship is going swimmingly

@FearsomeJoeandmac@hexbear.net please tell me about the trash you're eating this evening or ask me a ridiculous question

@ashinadash@hexbear.net & @magi@hexbear.net please tell me something cute about your relationship

@Dirt_Owl@hexbear.net please tell me anything, everything you post is great

@ReadFanon@hexbear.net please lecture me about how there's better ways to deal with this or literally anything, I am delighted by your discourse on everything

@HarryLime@hexbear.net please tell me some wolf facts or something

I'm too tapped to continue this roll call, which could definitely go on forever

[-] ashinadash@hexbear.net 14 points 1 month ago

Hi!! We just spent an hour rearranging our bedroom hifi and sweating it out together niko-happy More generally I like that we discovered together that we have autism, because I ended up lookin into it and self-dx'ing and then she did too, which was rad. I also really appreciate that she and I are of different generations, so we often have different, complimentary views and experiences

Also she introduced me to hexbear. Wifey is much better at technology than I am tbh power-genius

[-] the_itsb@hexbear.net 5 points 1 month ago

My husband and I figured out we have autism together, too. ❤️ suddenly it all made sense why we felt so much safer with each other than most of the other people in our social circle and had such an instant rapport. Our first date was supposed to be a very normal 2-3 hours but instead lasted 36. 😂🥰

I also really appreciate that she and I are of different generations, so we often have different, complimentary views and experiences

I bet you two have the best conversations!! 😍🥰

I have often admired the knowledge you demonstrate in your comments /c/technology etc, so she sounds impressive. Isn't competence hot??? 😂❤️ mine is a mechanical genius, and it is still a sexy marvel every time he magically fixes a thing someone brought to him as dead junk. I've been watching it happen for 20 years, and it's still amazing.

I'm so glad she found Hexbear and brought you with her. You are a delight. ❤️ thank you very, very much.

cuddle Care-Comrade

[-] ashinadash@hexbear.net 5 points 1 month ago

lets-fucking-go DISCOVERING UR AUTISM W/SOMEONE U LOOOOVE

lmao 36 hour date, wildin... We do in fact have pretty good chats 24/7 though madeline-smug It's rad that she's good at computers, but while I should be in programming socks I got the Bad At Math autism, alas...

Damn, the mechanical husband! I have an affection for mechanical stuff but am too weak and busted to do it. I think you have to be not chronically ill, and also jacked with oily calloused hands, right? Congrats on 20 years together though, another itsb banger ✨

Same, yw and I hope you're doin a little better cat-trans I know you said to me before that if your inbox blew up you'd just quit, hope you're managing that too, lol

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[-] magi@hexbear.net 4 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Ever since meeting each other we have speken almost 24/7 like constamtly talking to one another without a break lol but we had been looking for a more welcoming place since there had been too many libs or spaces with too much hostility for either of ua and I'm glad I found hexbear ^^ She is the nicest person I've ever known, and my best friend. We are very similar but not the sane.

I'm very glad to see you doing better

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[-] FearsomeJoeandmac@hexbear.net 13 points 1 month ago

Pulled up to taco bell just in time apparently. I'm getting one of those cheese it crunch wrap supremes.

What's up?

[-] Lemmygradwontallowme@hexbear.net 8 points 1 month ago

Ngl, you seem like the type to rate food by whether it's bussin' or not...

[-] FearsomeJoeandmac@hexbear.net 8 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I'm 34. No.

If it's greasy and unhealthy, unfortunately I generally like it though

I have a bit of a dad bod and this crap has probably shaved 5 years off of my life, but it was so worth it.

[-] MayoPete@hexbear.net 6 points 1 month ago

I had the "Mr. Beast Box" for lunch. It was greasy and disgusting and god damn was it tasty. I feel like an old geezer seeing fast food tie-ins with YouTubers

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[-] magi@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I am the shortarse in our relationship but I can bench press her anya-heh

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[-] Dirt_Owl@hexbear.net 10 points 1 month ago
[-] ReadFanon@hexbear.net 7 points 1 month ago

Here's a couple of photos of some emus I encountered once upon a time. I was in a vehicle and they kinda dashed by fairly quickly so I didn't get a chance to take some really good shots but it was neat to see them in the wild.

[-] Dirt_Owl@hexbear.net 5 points 1 month ago
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[-] ReadFanon@hexbear.net 6 points 1 month ago

I like thinking about my birthdays as being anniversaries of my survival. I'm not sure if it's going to be suitable for your situation but for me instead of thinking back to my childhood or my shitty family, I like framing it as being a yearly marker where I've succeeded despite the odds.

This feels safer and more comfortable for me because it allows me to acknowledge hardships that I've faced and I don't feel compelled to feel enthusiastic or to celebrate things that don't really resonate with me. I can be like "Fuck yeah, I worked hard at this and I made it through another one". This also has the upshot of taking the pressure off of me from feeling the pressure to celebrate it with others because my survival is a very personal affair and I wouldn't feel inclined inclined to invite other people to join in this because it's not about them and it's not for them. Although this also allows room for change too because I am able to welcome people into this experience of celebrating my survival, if I choose to.

There are things to hold out for. The world is changing very rapidly these days and the advances in medicine are pretty astonishing. I completely understand what it's like to question whether it's worth continuing on if things are going to remain as they are right now but try to allow space for the fact that choosing to continue means that you are allowing for the opportunity for things to improve, and that's truly invaluable. I know that it it probably doesn't feel like it's true but I genuinely mean it when I say that it is.

I also want to mention that a typical person tends to underestimate themselves. A person who struggles with serious challenges in their lives and especially in their mental health tends to underestimate themselves even more. You are stronger, more intelligent, more valued, and more resourceful than that part of you which wants to convince you otherwise.

In other news, a little while back I made a post about how anticapitalist and socialist discourse has become super normalised in the media and I keep on coming across random, basically apolitical content where people shit on capitalism openly and directly. I've even seen the milquetoast progressive-ish left which is very hostile to radical politics engaging with concepts and symbolism of the radical left and I think that's because they do not feel comfortable in ignoring it any longer. The anti-landlord discourse has also kicked up massively in the past couple of years especially, at least in my corner of media consumption and it has already become completely normalised. People who aren't diehard communists will do things like mention Mao in comments sections when landlords get discussed lol. I used to feel like the fringe lunatic ranting and raving about radical stuff in most mainstream corners of social media. These days I routinely come across ideas and comments where I simply agree with no notes to add and often there will be comments that surprise me in how openly radical they are.

Also I'm putting a freshwater shrimp tank together for the first time in my life. It's been a bit delayed due to a period of worsened mental health for me and being broke/putting too much money towards causes but soon enough I'm going to have an aquarium for the first time in my life and I'll have some little critters doing their thing in the tank. Not that exact type of shrimp but something similar. I'm looking forward to trying my hand at doing some aquascaping and seeing how I go with setting up the aquarium, and I'm excited share some pics of what I put together. I hope I'll be able to show you the completed project sometime soon.

Anyway, I hope that things go smoothly for you. Of course in the long term but especially in the next week or so.

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[-] FourteenEyes@hexbear.net 4 points 1 month ago

It is. We're taking the hiccups in stride and trying hard to communicate with each other. I bought her a silver coin pendant which has the vegvisir on one side and aegishjalmur on the other, and plan on giving it to her when we go to the renn faire in a few weeks. The more we learn about each other the more we like each other. She has me watching romcom animes (ToraDora right now) and I've been inflicting my weird gamer youtubers on her like Ross Scott and Civvie11. We like each other a lot, and even told each other "I love you" for the first time recently in the nerdiest way possible: referencing the "would you love me if I was a worm" meme in relation to Dune.

I really love her. I'm glad we met.

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[-] HarryLime@hexbear.net 4 points 1 month ago

I don't have wolf facts but I have these

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[-] FlakesBongler@hexbear.net 15 points 1 month ago

Pro: I love you and the world is a better place with you in it, even if birthdays are... a mixed bag so to say

I mean, hell, my partners car popped a tire so we had to borrow her mom's car and it didn't have A/C, so we had to run our errands in 90°F+ heat and couldn't even enjoy our leisure time because we were dying from getting baked

And my birthday cake melted in the heat too, but we salvaged it

Suffice to say, there's ups and downs and believe me, sometimes those downs are downs

You are a beautiful spark in the darkness, don't let it snuff you out

[-] the_itsb@hexbear.net 5 points 1 month ago

You are a beautiful spark in the darkness, don't let it snuff you out

😭 this is the kindest thing anyone has said to me in a while, and it makes me cry every time I read it

I appreciate your kindness more than I can say, thank you very very much ❤️

Care-Comrade

[-] plinky@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago

i got mint, so i either will make cookies with ginger and min or try it with chili pepper (for science). Also its great in tea quagsire-pog. But my genius will have to wait till the weekend angry-hex

[-] magi@hexbear.net 13 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Ooh mint tea is very nice ^^

Also partial to mojitos moomin

[-] plinky@hexbear.net 5 points 1 month ago

its also (surprisingly) nice in red tea meow-coffee

[-] magi@hexbear.net 5 points 1 month ago

Mhm, mint is very versatile. Also grows easily of you plant it by itself. It's also nice if used sparingly with rice also, coconut & mint rice with a hot curry for example meow-melt

[-] the_itsb@hexbear.net 4 points 1 month ago

I've had mint tea and mint chocolate cookies, but ginger and mint cookies?! Maybe with chili pepper?? 🤯 I would love to know more. What texture are you going for? Are you working from a recipe or inspired genius?

xi-cooking

Thank you for telling me about your intriguing cookie project ❤️ would you please post about them when you make them this weekend?

Care-Comrade

[-] plinky@hexbear.net 5 points 1 month ago

Oh, no , chili with mint is a separate thingie, I just wanted to test how hot and cold food feels together.

Figure chili would be too weird in a cookie. Although black pepper might work curious-sickle

I’ll keep you updated rat-salute

Nah usual ginger cookies, but because I have a small oven, I have to bake in 3 goes, so I try some stuff with them

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[-] kristina@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Helped a ton of trans people this week with resources, love seeing the relief in people's eyes when I help them out

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[-] SorosFootSoldier@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago

I'm hoping your birthday is well and you post more doggo and chicken pics!

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[-] asg101@hexbear.net 10 points 1 month ago

I live in a cannabis post-prohibition country, so I can grow and use my medicine without fear of being kidnapped, thrown in a cage, and tortured to death like back in the old country (Imperial Core). I hope you are able to light up and celebrate if you are so inclined.

Also, there is so much interesting shit to watch happening, you don't want to miss out!

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[-] Lemmygradwontallowme@hexbear.net 10 points 1 month ago

I look forward to finishing the 2 volumes of Das Kapital, yet happy I completed the first one days ago...

and I think of traveling around countries, maybe Philippines or some other country (Southeast Asia likely; one of my parents are of such origins)

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[-] Cowbee@hexbear.net 9 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

My partner made extremely yummy food! I failed to beat Malenia again today, so that's 2 days of trying, but I'll get there. I made it to phase 2 today, so it's only a matter of time!

In general, I am extremely fortunate to have made it to a point where I truly don't feel like my life is missing anything, and can reliably keep a roof over my head with some savings. I know this is more than many people can say for themselves, but I allow myself to be happy about my own position, as I'm ultimately just another worker.

I wish I could reach out and help you, but in absence of that I want to say I am here to lend an ear if you need help. It does get better. I used to think about harming myself daily, even hourly, but I can say that over time those feelings have become far less frequent. It still happens every once in a while, or I'll get extremely anxious, but forward progress keeps me hopeful.

I hope you have a happy birthday!

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[-] Red_Sunshine_Over_Florida@hexbear.net 9 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I'm going to go on a vacation in a couple of weeks. We go to the same place every time but, it has its charms. I feel in better shape to climb the lighthouse this year. I wish you could see the beaches too, the ones I like have their rustic charms that I enjoy and I'm sure you would too.

You ever been near the coast? If so, how did you enjoy it?

[-] the_itsb@hexbear.net 4 points 1 month ago

I love the coast. I have done day-trip beach visits when I lived in states closer to the ocean 20+ years ago, and it was magical. idk if it would still have the same magic it did then, but I would love to swim in the ocean again.

My paternal grandparents and associated aunts, uncles, and cousins used to meet us at Lake Erie every year for a family vacation. I know there's no way things are very much like I remember them, but I do wish someday to simultaneously have both the money and time to take my kid and husband to the area we used to visit.

I love lighthouses, too. I hope you surprise yourself with how well you climb it and get incredible pictures at the top.

Care-Comrade

thank you ❤️

[-] FearsomeJoeandmac@hexbear.net 9 points 1 month ago

It's your birthday and your still kicking. I will make more shit posts to come

Life's good

We love you happy birthday pal

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[-] Edie@hexbear.net 9 points 1 month ago
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[-] GarbageShoot@hexbear.net 8 points 1 month ago

I have a dog with me who makes impressively loud snorts for his size (and without much trouble breathing, he's just really loud).

Talking to a friend, I remembered there's a setting on my keyboard that blatantly doesn't work but, because of that, it's probably the most interesting way to play it if you're fine with sacrificing dynamics. I'm going to start using it again, I don't know why I stopped.

[-] the_itsb@hexbear.net 4 points 1 month ago

I love the thought of your little pupper piglet very much 🥰

It took me longer than I want to admit to figure out that you meant a musical keyboard and not a special gaming keyboard 🤦😂 What kind of music do you make with it? What's wrong with the setting and how does that make make it more interesting?

Care-Comrade

thank you ❤️

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[-] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 8 points 1 month ago

I just finished a minecraft farm. It's a mob farm, then I filter out the gun powder. I also have a sugar cane farm, and use the new autocrafters to make rockets automatically. The redstone was complicated but felt really satisfying to finish.

Oh also my pet snake started eating again. She was on a hunger strike for some reason but ate this last time I fed her, so hopefully that's over and I'll be able to start handling her again.

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[-] InevitableSwing@hexbear.net 8 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I saw a post where a guy said he played Social Distortion's "Ball and Chain" on his brand new electric guitar. I haven't played guitar in more than a year. I got disgusted with my lack of musical ability so I just stopped. I couldn't remember that song. I almost started laughing when I listened to it. It's about the easiest song possible - 3 chords in a super easy strum pattern. That's it.

My goal by Monday is to pick up my guitar and play those chords until I get them right. I can even strum mindlessly as I watch speed chess online. Repetition and not dwelling on or - cough - fretting about stuff is key. Why by Monday and not - say - tonight? Um... Cat videos to watch? But in in all seriousness - I will do it. Just not right now.

[-] the_itsb@hexbear.net 4 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I really like the mental image of someone practicing guitar while watching speed chess

not dwelling on or - cough - fretting about stuff is key.

dprk-general

Care-Comrade

thank you ❤️

I've been getting back into making radio control models which has finally helped me really look forward to doing things. It's the first time I've been able to focus on something and just think without my mind churning. I might've found a model flying club that will accept me (I'm openly and very obviously trans) but even if not I've already found someone who wants to fly with me.

I've also reconnected with someone I knew from high school and I think we might become friends. I'm looking forward to hearing from her more.

But one big event I'm looking forward to is you posting here after your birthday that you made it.

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[-] FunkyStuff@hexbear.net 8 points 1 month ago

Hey what's up, I got my friend to play some video games with me which I hadn't done in a while. It's surprising how much more fun it is to do something with other people as opposed to going alone.

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[-] magi@hexbear.net 8 points 1 month ago

I wish you a happy birthday!!

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[-] Beetle_O_Rourke@hexbear.net 7 points 1 month ago

I am moving to a different country to earn more than I ever have before in my life this week!

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[-] emizeko@hexbear.net 7 points 1 month ago
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[-] Thallo@hexbear.net 7 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I just got my first laser hair removal yesterday. It didn't really hurt at all tbh except a bit around the lip.

Excited. In half a year, I should be presenting way differently.

It's gonna be really interesting when my friends see because I used to be famous for my impressive beard. Wanna see how long I can go hairless while saying something like, "oh yeah, I just got really good at shaving"

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[-] SacredExcrement@hexbear.net 6 points 1 month ago

I have a large cat who snores like an old man

He also zooms like a kitten despite being roughly 13 pounds

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[-] AndJusticeForAll@hexbear.net 6 points 1 month ago

I've been cooking really good meals every day for the past like 2 weeks. Made a really good corn chowder today with some garlicy bread rolls today.

Playing Elden Ring 1-2 hours every day. Gunna' try to beat it this time.

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[-] Gorb@hexbear.net 6 points 1 month ago

Look at this beeeeeg yawn. There's loads of good anime and games coming out if you're into those that's what I'm looking forward to. Otherwise I'm sustained via cat content

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[-] SpiderFarmer@hexbear.net 6 points 1 month ago

I got my cat. He's a fluffy little guy. In addition my luck has turned around a bit and I've had the time for miniatures and praxis. I wish you well. I've been at the point of making those lists and far worse than that. Whether people online or in meatspace, it's possible to connect with folks and feel better within the year.

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[-] FourteenEyes@hexbear.net 4 points 1 month ago

I'm happy that I met my girlfriend and that we're planning a trip to the renn faire nearby in a few weeks. We're dressing up. She's being a goblin and I'm an orc, because of our height difference.

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[-] GalaxyBrain@hexbear.net 4 points 1 month ago

Kitty next door was missing for 2 weeks and I saw them in the window today! I think they got even chomkier!

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