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[–] phoenixz@lemmy.ca 3 points 2 hours ago

Narcisism with psychopathic traits

I had to deal with a guy with both for the past 5 years

[–] Thorman@lemmy.ml 4 points 2 hours ago

Linux User and Star Trek fan

/s

[–] HobbitFoot@thelemmy.club 6 points 3 hours ago

Maybe not the worst but something else: the need to be in control and the inability to make decisions.

So you get people who want to be in charge but can't actually do anything when they are in charge.

God Complex and Malignant Narcissism. As seen in Trump and Musk.

[–] alternategait@lemmy.world 3 points 4 hours ago

For me personally extroversion and socially anxious.

[–] Grail@multiverse.soulism.net 1 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago)

Bigoted and hateful. I see people in this thread vilifying mental disorders, but Nazis are way more dangerous.

[–] OhStopYellingAtMe@lemmy.world 8 points 7 hours ago

Arrogance and ignorance.

[–] Nytefyre@piefed.social 1 points 4 hours ago

Drama-Free and Zero Tolerance.

[–] madcaesar@lemmy.world 1 points 6 hours ago

🤣 This entire thread basically just describing Trump

It's crazy what a giant piece of shit this guy is

[–] Skyline969@piefed.ca 27 points 14 hours ago (2 children)

Narcissist with a victim complex. Nothing is their fault, and if it is, it affects them worse than you.

[–] luthis@lemmy.nz 6 points 14 hours ago

This. This is the winner. Those people deserve all the suffering they inflict on themselves. Unfortunately, they enjoy it.

[–] GreenKnight23@lemmy.world 4 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

what's funny is that narcissists only play the victim and never fully accept that they are the victim because they believe being the victim is beneath them.

they generally only play the victim when it achieves their end goal.

narcissists are the best prey to victimize because they can never admit that they are the victim when it doesn't fit their goal. not only do they suffer in silence, they spend an inordinate amount of time attempting to plan retribution which only makes them easier to manipulate. as long as you maintain the ability to stomp on their progress while achieving their goal of revenge, you can play with narcissists endlessly until they tear themselves apart.

[–] Grail@multiverse.soulism.net 3 points 4 hours ago

Yes, this is true, I have NPD (caused by parental abuse as a small child), and it has made Me very easy to abuse. I was having flashbacks and thought spirals for years after I was abused by an intimate partner. In the end I lost My job because of it and became homeless.

And just like any other disorder, I'd ask that you use either person first or identity first language. Person first would be "person with NPD" and identity first would be "narcissistic person". Shortening the disorder name into a label is against the APA's inclusive language guidelines because it contributes to stigma. Research has shown that stigma against NPD leads to low diagnosis rates and poor mental health outcomes.

[–] enphurgen@lemmy.world 11 points 14 hours ago

Over confidence and ignorance

[–] rob_t_firefly@lemmy.world 29 points 19 hours ago

Charisma and sociopathy.

[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 17 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago) (1 children)

Narcissistic Egotists.

They're literally fucking up the whole world.

[–] corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 2 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

How do you fuck a world in a literal sense?

[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 3 points 16 hours ago (2 children)

Stick your dick in a gopher hole.

[–] Babalugats@feddit.uk 2 points 15 hours ago

But then you're just fucking a gopher.

[–] Zier@fedia.io 0 points 14 hours ago

Don't kink shame me!

[–] silly_goose@lemmy.today 1 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

Egotism, ignorance, and obsessive personality. Then your life is completely consumed in an uphill battle of proving yourself right.

[–] vanitasvanitatum@lemmy.world 1 points 7 hours ago

So narcissistic personality disorder?

You just described my boss… poor me

[–] theywilleatthestars@lemmy.world 9 points 16 hours ago

Arrogance and incuriousity

[–] Waldelfe@feddit.org 14 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

In an everyday level: anxious and stubborn. The kind of people who constantly worry but also won't listen to reason when it's explained why they needn't worry.

[–] corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 5 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

Anxiety isn't cured with mere knowledge. It's one of those survival things that needs more basic response.

[–] Pissmidget@lemmy.world 3 points 14 hours ago

Exactly, my rational mind is very aware 99.9% of my anxiety and terror is nonsense.

The rest of me, however, goes "That's nice... Let's put a pin in it and react like it isn't anyways"

[–] RobotToaster@mander.xyz 16 points 19 hours ago
[–] Zier@fedia.io 4 points 15 hours ago

An overblown ego & proud of being stupid.

[–] lime@feddit.nu 8 points 18 hours ago (2 children)
[–] otacon239@lemmy.world 7 points 17 hours ago (1 children)
[–] lime@feddit.nu 5 points 17 hours ago

you want some baileys?

[–] Zier@fedia.io 0 points 14 hours ago (1 children)
[–] lime@feddit.nu 1 points 5 hours ago

depends which one you prefer.

[–] Evil_Incarnate@sopuli.xyz 2 points 18 hours ago

Hate coworkers with ignorance and apathy.

[–] JizzmasterD@lemmy.ca 1 points 18 hours ago

Sleepy and Doc

[–] Goudewup@lemmy.dbzer0.com -4 points 18 hours ago (2 children)

French speaking and French nationality

[–] luthis@lemmy.nz 2 points 14 hours ago

They invented guillotines so.. can't be all bad

[–] DarrinBrunner@lemmy.world 1 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

I admire a lot about the French. As a non-French person, though, I'd never visit France. I've only met one Frenchman, he seemed alright. But, we weren't in France.

[–] Tujio@lemmy.world 1 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

Three times now I've been in Germany heading towards France. On every stop along the way people got more more rude. Anecdotal, I know, but god dammit.

[–] starlinguk@lemmy.world 3 points 12 hours ago

I go to France (including Paris) regularly. The French are not rude.

My French is virtually non existent, by the way.