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Hey so something really fucking embarrassing. I accidentally uploaded a porn image I had saved on my documents rather than the meme I wanted to share. I QUICKLY deleted the post, but and I prayed to god no one saw me doing porn on main. I DEEPLY apologize for anyone who might have seen it, it was not my intent to be weird, I keep that shit to myself. My heart is literally pounding as hb I consider my home on the internet and y'all my friends. I literally tell my therapist I talk to my friends online daily.

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[–] oliveoil@hexbear.net 4 points 22 hours ago
[–] stevatoo@hexbear.net 51 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] AF_R@hexbear.net 7 points 1 day ago

Never apologize for greatness.

[–] AntifaSuperWombat@hexbear.net 33 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Wow. Not even willing to share your porn stash with your comrades. How selfish. catgirl-disgust Go do some self-crit!

[–] CARCOSA@hexbear.net 23 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

I purged it from the upload database, no worries. You should be able to access everything you've uploaded from a user menu (profile -> uploads) and delete if you want to.

[–] SorosFootSoldier@hexbear.net 11 points 1 day ago

Thank you and thanks for putting up with my sorry ass <3

[–] Awoo@hexbear.net 23 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (3 children)

There are a few forgotten porn images hidden in the deep threads of hexbear history actually, known only to a few

[–] MeetMeAtTheMovies@hexbear.net 17 points 1 day ago (2 children)

OG /newgang remember the Sandy Cheeks cock vore tornadoes. The transfemme Garfield titties. Hillary’s milkies. There were a few members I won’t name who would just upload their nudes and they’d be up for a bit before a mod saw them and removed them. I believe that one was a tradition carried over from the sub. I also remember the porn link threads that spawned a few struggle sessions. We used to be so much hornier.

[–] Awoo@hexbear.net 12 points 1 day ago

There were a few members I won’t name who would just upload their nudes

There are a few butthole pics too. That was also a popular hobby among some in the /new/ tab of the CTH subreddit

Never been horny ever.

[–] DornerStan@lemmygrad.ml 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Clown hammer for the real ones

[–] FourteenEyes@hexbear.net 27 points 1 day ago (2 children)
[–] Erika3sis@hexbear.net 17 points 1 day ago (1 children)
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[–] SorosFootSoldier@hexbear.net 11 points 1 day ago

I know, I know, fuck!

[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 27 points 1 day ago (3 children)

last year I accidentally uploaded a pic of myself in a miniskirt instead of a reaction meme and I didn't even notice until like 10 minutes later. It got 2 upbears other than mine. It happens, bud. You don't need to worry

[–] SorosFootSoldier@hexbear.net 14 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I just wanted to make sure I didn't offend anyone since this place has been nothing but nice to me. I just fat finger clicked on something in my docs without looking at the preview negative

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[–] KuroXppi@hexbear.net 15 points 1 day ago (1 children)
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[–] tactical_trans_karen@hexbear.net 10 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Pshhh!! Post hog, you coward!!

[–] SorosFootSoldier@hexbear.net 7 points 1 day ago (2 children)

It's small and wimpy, ain't no one want to see that shit.

[–] BeanisBrain@hexbear.net 11 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Look on the bright side: at least you're not V*ush.

[–] SorosFootSoldier@hexbear.net 5 points 1 day ago

That is true!

[–] Wertheimer@hexbear.net 9 points 1 day ago

Damn, you're out here proving the Onion wrong. That's the real crime here.

Study: Most Self-Abuse Goes Unreported

[–] some_guy 1 points 22 hours ago

People fuck up. Everyone looks at porn. It accidentally slipped into your main posts. Not a big deal.

Anyone who says they don't look at porn is a liar. And anyone who genuinely doesn't look at porn is highly suspicious.

[–] WilsonWilson@hexbear.net 13 points 1 day ago (1 children)

This is why I use descriptive file names

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[–] darkcalling@hexbear.net 9 points 1 day ago

Organize, organize, organize. Always name files and always check names of what you're uploading. I name and tag my meme folder contents as otherwise I'd never find them again for example.

[–] Dort_Owl@hexbear.net 17 points 1 day ago (2 children)
[–] SorosFootSoldier@hexbear.net 11 points 1 day ago (2 children)

You spoony bird don't laugh at me!

[–] FlakesBongler@hexbear.net 12 points 1 day ago

spoony

Instantly felt my back crick up yes-honey-left

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How dare you be so sweet!!

[–] JoeByeThen@hexbear.net 16 points 1 day ago (1 children)
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[–] take_five_moments@hexbear.net 16 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

if only you posted it on main then u coulda been horny on main

seriously though i've done a bunch of stupid shit when i was drinking, this is pretty tame all things considered :)

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[–] FlakesBongler@hexbear.net 15 points 1 day ago (5 children)

This is why i practice good file storage practices

Last thing you need is me getting all high and posting the stuff i play the bone flute to instead of something funny

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[–] Erika3sis@hexbear.net 13 points 1 day ago (4 children)

I have also uploaded the wrong thing on occasion, so it's understandable to that extent, but I still want you to consider the Swiss cheese model here. This is after all the selfcrit community, and I think it should be guided by what's known as "just culture", i.e. asking "What went wrong?" instead of "Who caused the problem?" — like in aviation accident reports, you know.

In the case of accidentally posting porn on a public forum, the Swiss cheese model might look like:

  1. Don't save porn to your computer. This is pretty unenforceable, and it's pretty pointless to judge people for downloading porn or to try to stop them from doing it; but still, consider what files you actually need to have on your computer. But if you determine that you need to have porn on your computer — even if it's just for self-pleasure without sending unnecessary Internet packets, or driving traffic to surveillance-capitalist tube sites with their algorithms and all — then…
  2. Keep the porn on your computer segregated from other files. Perhaps on an external hard drive if you want to be extra safe that you won't accidentally upload it, but a separate (hidden?) folder should normally do.
  3. Double check the name of the file before uploading. When I've uploaded the wrong thing on Hexbear, it's always been because when I click on "upload image", Firefox opens up a file explorer, and I start typing in the name of the picture I want, and if the file name contains a space, I'll hit space… only to remember a second too late that hitting space selects the top file in the search results, rather than adding a space to the search query. Which I think is pretty bogus but what can ya do.
  4. Double check that you've uploaded the correct file before posting. This is what's stopped me from ever accidentally posting something I didn't mean to: just take ten seconds or so to look over the post title, the attached picture, the body, and the community, before hitting post. I think the most embarrassing thing I've ever accidentally uploaded to Hexbear was a screencap of the tags on some AO3 smut fanfiction, but as said, I didn't post that picture, I just hit "delete" and found the file I meant to upload.

Another thing to consider is how these lessons can be applied elsewhere. If you could accidentally post porn on a public forum, then what if you're entrusted with even more sensitive files, like documents related to the inner workings of your organization? You can of course just avoid being assigned that sort of responsibility, yes, but it can't hurt you to become capable of taking on that sort of responsibility, right? That's what growth is about, right?

In any case, I think it's safe to say that everybody here forgives you, and doesn't think it was a big deal, since no harm was done and most of us can relate to making that sort of mistake. «{Мы|("We're} {чуть-чуть|a-little-bit} {злые,|evil,} {тюрьма|prison} {для|for} {нас!»|us!")}

[–] 9to5@hexbear.net 11 points 1 day ago

I just keep my porn on the desktop next to my work files grillman

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[–] culpritus@hexbear.net 11 points 1 day ago (5 children)

Since no one else has the guts to ask the real question: Was it foot related?

I'm sure you had a little death of shame when you realized what happened. Luckily it seems to have mostly gone unnoticed. sweat

[–] isame@hexbear.net 10 points 1 day ago

😂 a little death huh?

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[–] Carcharodonna@hexbear.net 13 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I didn't see the porn, but now I'm curious how weird it really was (jk)

I'm sure you're fine. I do cringe stuff all the time. I'm probably doing cringe right now. We're all human. We all occasionally upload our personally-commissioned Erich "Silver Fox" Honecker mpreg furry fan art on accident. It happens.

[–] SorosFootSoldier@hexbear.net 12 points 1 day ago

sicko-wholesome phew now I feel a bit better, I stg I'm not a sex pest, like I said I keep it to myself

[–] Moomoo_Milk@hexbear.net 11 points 1 day ago (2 children)

We're all human. Don't sweat it. Mistakes happen.

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