It's precisely because the norms demarcating gender are so arbitrary that they must be policed so ruthlessly
Reminds me of how weird my mom was when I said I wanted a strawberry cake for my birthday because it was pink. I just liked strawberry, I didn't care what color it was.
truly wild the extent to which people are policed on innocuous things like this. I remember when kids at school decided that liking bears was girly and boys could only like reptiles
could she just like... make it like blue razzberry flavor but with strawberry?
I dunno, just one of those early things that didn't make sense to me as a kid. But then I did turn out to be kinda gay and genderqueer but I don't think pink frosting had anything to do with it. Or maybe it did 🤔
I used to work for a sports merchandise store and I regularly had women ask me if it was okay for their husbands to wear teal jerseys.
Like
Your husband will not explode if he puts on a Jaguars or Mariners jersey.
I love that my queer ass is the authority on cis-het masculinity. Like, yeah dude, teal is a manly color now. In fact, no one is talking about it, but so is fuchsia. Have you considered buying him a breast cancer awareness jersey?
I had some relatives question a woodland theme to toys and bedding for a baby boy. Lots of green and brown, plus some snails, rabbits, deer and shit.
CW hunting
In the end they rationalized it by saying they guess he can be a hunter. Now I'm wondering how many of the hunters I know just want to go camping but feel like it's too feminine if they aren't trying to kill anything
Fellas, is it gay to appreciate nature?
Most hunters I know just wanna hang out in a cabin and drink beers with the bros. Same goes for ice fishing.
My dad was a hunter for my entire childhood and he never shot a thing. He just liked having an excuse to enjoy the mid-late autumn wilderness.
spoiler
It was actually nice going on a couple trips with him and sitting in a completely silent forest early in the morning, quiet enough to hear the snow falling
do boy like coloring
This one seems weird even by cis people standards
the standards are pretty weird and contradictory especially around the edges
for example it is unmasculine to be too educated but also "girls can't do maths". Women can't learn fractions but must be excelent cooks
both institutional sexism against female artists and "is it ok for a boy to like colouring"
for everything else the gender binary standards are they are also self contradictory gibberish
Yeah that just sounds like somebody who doesn't know anything about kids
creativity, colors, joy not immediately connected with violence, it just all seems a bit sus
Cisgenderism must be eradicated. 
This shit makes me so mad, even more so because I know that if I ever raised a son I couldnt stop other people from conditioning him this way
most of the bad ideas a young boy raised in a non toxic household is going to be exposed to are probably going to come from other boys their age. Shortly followed by the internet and then tv
providing a space where they can be vulnerable at home is from my childhood experience at least pretty helpful
Very true. I remember when i was a small boy i used to let my mom paint my nails because I thought it was cool. Then at the park one of the other boys sneered "only girls paint their nails" and I never wore nail polish again. But I doubt that behavior like this is innate in children
When I went to pick up a family friend's son from daycare a couple months ago, some of the boys had nail polish. They weren't being teased over it either. The kids are all right.
I'm happy to hear that :)
no they learned it from elsewhere in society. What I am saying is that you can't just remove a boy (or girl) from society and the negative ideas it will teach them. At least not completely
I know. Which makes me sad, because I want to protect kids from the harm the patriarchy inflicts on them. Shits just fucked, and like you said a good home environment where they can express themselves is really the best I can do on an individual level
"Oh yeah yeah you're right Sharon, play food is for women and the gay, OK here." drops loaded snubnosed revolver on the counter
Okay but can we talk about hot pink 9mm pistols? When you want to kill but you want to he femme about it
I worked at a GameStop briefly. One time had a lady customer ask me if we could exchange a game in a Wii box for a PS2 box since her son in the military might think the white box is too feminine
As a parent of little kids I am now one million percent convinced all of this gendered “girls naturally like pink and ponies and boys naturally like blue and dinos” is utter nonsense. I try as best I can to just let my kids explore whatever they want and they do not fall along any of these gendered lines.
But ultimately, it feels like a losing battle since everyone in my life (partner included) as well as all of society is fighting against me on this. As my kids have gotten older I can already see how they are ~~falling~~ being pushed into gendered interests. But I know it’s not some organic interest. I can draw the lines and point to how they get so much societal push on these things.
This is why a few more radical parents dont reveal their childrens AGAB to others. It comes with its own set of challenges, I'm sure, but I sure wish I had a little more space from cisnormativity growing up
BEWARE: An object’s ability to reflect certain wavelengths of light has the direct effect of permanently altering your child’s gender identity with repeat exposure.
That's why you're not supposed to look at the sun, it's too much concentrated gender
Fun fact: In most Roman languages that assign genders to inanimate objects (that I know of), the Sun is usually male (le soleil, el sol, il sole) and the Moon female (la lune, la luna). In German it's the opposite for some reason, the Sun is female (die Sonne) and the Moon male (der Mond).
In German, the Sun is trans. Pass it on.
AND the moon. Another example of transmasc erasure smdh
Do we have an emote of Trump staring directly into a solar eclipse?
Given what chuds think 5G can do, I think you just cracked the code.
I remember being a kid and my dad refusing to let me buy a Jigglypuff stuffie because "It's pink"
Well, guess what daddy, I have like ten of them now
a customer remind me she was buying a gift for a boy when I suggested play food
~~COMMUNISM~~ CISGENDER MALE = NO FOOD
a customer telling her daughter she can't give out ice cream stickers because there will be boys at the party
wait a minute... if boys can't have ice cream... then what's the deal with all those memes about Joe Biden eating ice cream???
Joe Biden trans woman confirmed
No they aren't and I see this shit all the time at work. Dudes always pull up with their big ass pickup trucks bragging about how big and intimidating their car is. Refuse to touch electric cars or anything smaller than an SUV because "only queers and women drive those"
No they aren't and I see this shit all the time at work. Dudes always pull up with their big ass pickup trucks bragging about how big and intimidating their car is. Refuse to touch electric cars or anything smaller than an SUV because "only queers and women drive those"
ZYBERTRUKKK(tm) is being marketed specifically to those insecure dudebro nerds... and they're buying it. 
When the revolution comes, I'm putting these people in the Leslie Feinberg Memorial Re-Education Camp
The cissies have never been alright, never ever
mostly these gender rules got really bad under the victorians who were just weird people.
censor nursary rhymes for being too upsetting, won't say trousers as it's rude to acknowledge the existence of legs but will do a mountain of cocaine, whip children, and collect human hands. Raid egyptian tombs to eat the bodies and build massive mausoleums
Victorian England was a bizarre place and frankly I don't think we should listen to people who had child slave factories about parenting
Pink was considered a masculine color in settler-colonial North Amerikkka until the late 1800s. And all the presidents before Truman all wore dresses until they were toddlers in a socialized process called breeching where boys wouldn't wear male-gendered clothing until they were potty-trained and able to walk and talk.
until the late 1800s.
Into the 1920s IIRC. Although IIRC none of the colors were gendered at all, and the idea only showed up in the early 20th century or very late 19th century with pink as the "masculine" (because it's the more "violent" color) and pale blue as the "feminine" color (because it's "gentler") before that was reversed a few decades later.
One time a friend needed to shave his face for an interview but he was out of blades. His sister handed him an unopened woman's razor and he said "ew, no!" Bruh, it's just different-colored plastic, and no one will even know.
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