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[–] Bolshechick@hexbear.net 35 points 1 week ago (12 children)

taking about assimilationists and patriarchyI'm tired of this genre of posts I keep seeing on other sites where they'll say something like "trans people existing doesn't affect you" or like "no one is asking you to change your beliefs, just to treat others with respect" or did stuff like that.

Trans people (and queer people in general) existing IS a threat to the gender system, and so is a threat to people deeply invested in it. I DO want people to change thier deeply held beliefs. I am a radical, I hate society, I want to change it, I want to destroy patriarchy. Assimilationism is not a path to liberation.

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 20 points 1 week ago (1 children)

spoiler

"no one is asking you to change your beliefs, just to treat others with respect"

This one in particular, like no your beliefs are literally just wrong and unfounded and should be changed. The whole "treat people with respect even if you disagree" thing is such bullshit, at least in this case. You can't "respect" me if you think (whatever horrible transphobic thing you can imagine). Respect isn't not calling people slurs.

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[–] inTheShadowOf@hexbear.net 19 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Real!! I understand wanting to be stealth and just be cis, but tbh I can't help but think the trans people assimilating are losing some of the most important parts of being trans. It's something special, not something to hide away. catgirl-salute

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[–] CrookedSerpent@hexbear.net 34 points 1 week ago (4 children)

Chat.... The date did NOT go well, we had a lot in common, had good conversation, and he was really attractive, but near the end he basically just came out and said he was 'dating' multiple people and wasn't looking for a serious relationship, in spite of the fact that I literally told him that I was looking for a serious, monogamous, relationship beforehand. πŸ™‚πŸ™‚πŸ™‚πŸ™‚πŸ™‚ Then he, very clumsily, all but asked when we should meet up for sex cuz he 'doesn't like going on too many dates and becoming friends with the person' - his words πŸ™„

Fucking epic. At least this was the normal kind of guy being an asshole instead of the transphobic kind. I actually kinda appreciate that he treated me poorly in the same way he treats his cis-women dates! XDDDD

Dudes rock.

[–] AntifaSuperWombat@hexbear.net 21 points 1 week ago (1 children)

And another day that I’m glad that I’m sappho.

I’m sorry you have to deal with those pieces of shit.

[–] CrookedSerpent@hexbear.net 14 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Trust me, I'm sorry too... πŸ˜‚

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[–] Kuori@hexbear.net 17 points 1 week ago

doesn't like [...] becoming friends with the person

the most massive red flag of all time good lord. even aside from the fact that he met up with you under false pretenses

[–] MoonElf@hexbear.net 17 points 1 week ago

doesn't like going on too many dates and becoming friends with the person

he did you a favor by saying it directly and letting you know what kind of person he was at least so you didn't waste your energy.

how frustrating!

[–] JohnBrownsBussy2@hexbear.net 16 points 1 week ago

Really sorry to hear that he turned out to be shitty and kinda gross.

[–] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 32 points 1 week ago (12 children)

bottom surgeryIt is incredible already to have a vagina, and wow does this healing process hurt.

[–] AshenWolf@hexbear.net 19 points 1 week ago (1 children)

May you have a swift recovery :meow-hug:

[–] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 15 points 1 week ago

Thank youuuu. trans-heart

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[–] yewler@hexbear.net 27 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I scored big time today. One of my profs is retiring at the end of this semester and he pulled me into his office and told me to take as many books from his bookshelf as I wanted

[–] yewler@hexbear.net 24 points 1 week ago (4 children)

I've spent the better part of this evening nose deep in a book on abstract harmonic analysis

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[–] 0x2640@hexbear.net 16 points 1 week ago

eeeeeee~ awesomeeeeee!!!!!! ~~not jelly or anyfinng....~~

[–] yewler@hexbear.net 27 points 1 week ago (9 children)

transphobiaWhen I wasn't looking one of my students left me what looked like a wedding invitation which I thought was weird but when I opened it it was a freaking religious thing telling me to stop being gay and give my life to Jesus. It referred to me as a son of God all the way through and every time it put SON in all caps.

I don't want to let them win but I've been feeling discouraged all day ever since.

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[–] AcidSmiley@hexbear.net 25 points 1 week ago (4 children)

needles n stuffDid my first DIY injection yesterday. I was kinda anxious before if i could pull through because i've never shot up anything, but i had some of my friends around to support me and it seems i'm more cold blooded than i thought, even got told i have a steady hand and that everbody else present had a harder time during their first try. Haven't felt this much like a big girl since my first laser session.

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 23 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 23 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

bottom surgery euphoriaCatheter is finally out, and I am officially part of sit to piss gang, or at least squat and pray gang. Everything so far has not been as bad as I feared, and so much better than I hoped. I already love having my vagina so much.

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[–] nemmybun@hexbear.net 23 points 1 week ago (4 children)

almost 4 weeks post-ffsMost of the swelling is down. I'm very slowly regaining feeling in the areas that were previously numb. It feels like when novocaine wears off, and the pins and needles sensation is most mild except this sensation is extended over several... um... I hope just weeks. No pain in my lips or chin or inside mouth or it's low-level enough where I can ignore it. There's mild pain on my scalp primarily along the sutures. They're still sore to the touch so I'm trying to sleep on my back which is very unnatural to me. Besides the sleep deprivation, I'm pretty much back to pre-surgery energy levels and have honestly been for a week already. I'm fighting the urge to go out and be active when I should still be resting.

I've started messages and silicone strips for the only visible scar and these treatments have already had effect. Minoxidil for the transplanted hair and obviously it hasn't been long enough usage to have visible hair regrowth but it has slowed down shock loss.

Now that the swelling is down and my vision is back, I can look in the mirror and appreciate the results. And yeah. The struggle was worth it. I love the changes, looking into a mirror and seeing my face now is euphoria-inducing. I dunno think I'm kinda hot now too... I can't wait until the hair grows back and the healing process is fully complete. I'll be unstoppable catgirl-smug

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[–] Boynomoder@hexbear.net 22 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I want this outfit, I want this hair.

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[–] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 21 points 1 week ago (7 children)

bottom surgery postingAbout a week post operative now, and I have never felt so comfortable in my body in my life. I didn’t think that I had that much bottom dysphoria, but now that is just completely gone, and I’m still so early in recovery. I already love having a vagina so much, ya’ll.
aubrey-happy

[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 15 points 1 week ago (8 children)

i can only wish for the day that it's me who gets to post about my new custom built pussy in the trans mega like you're posting about your new vagina now

congrats :)

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[–] AntifaSuperWombat@hexbear.net 20 points 1 week ago (7 children)

There’s 2 thing I would have NEVER expected as a teenager:

  1. That I’m a woman

  2. That I would join a knitting group (well not yet. I still have to wait a few weeks)

I was looking for a new hobby and thought I would give it a try, because I found crocheting quite enjoyable as a child and I REALLY want some nice, custom sweaters.

But holy moly is yarn expensive. meow-knit (perfect emoji lol)

I just spent 100€ for 2 circular needle pairs, some basic tools and 22 skeins of wool, and almost all of those things were on sale. Like, it’s legit cheaper to just buy a sweater, unknit it and use that as a source of wool, because the prices in the fashion industry are just that insanely low.

Prime example of how ridiculous capitalism is. meow-tableflip

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[–] GenderIsOpSec@hexbear.net 19 points 1 week ago (3 children)

the county im in sent me a invitation letter for cervical cancer screening catgirl-huh

it's kinda affirming in a way tbh catgirl-heart

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[–] SorosFootSoldier@hexbear.net 19 points 1 week ago (2 children)
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[–] Bolshechick@hexbear.net 19 points 1 week ago (9 children)

My fiancΓ©e didn't like the name "girl bag" for my balls doggirl-cry

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[–] AshenWolf@hexbear.net 18 points 1 week ago

I'm still cute, which is, of course, pretty cute doggirl-happy

[–] sweet_pecan@hexbear.net 18 points 1 week ago (1 children)

gonna book an appointment at a lgbtq clinic, they'll set me up with psychiatrist who will diagnose me with gender dysphoria no worries according to my friend. but that sounds scary and hard. doctors are scary.

[–] Kuori@hexbear.net 16 points 1 week ago (1 children)

doctors are absolutely scary. my advice is just to tell them exactly what they are expecting to hear. before i found a good gender doc i just ran them down the checklist for gender dysphoria essentially, even though that didn't perfectly match my experience.

it's normal to be anxious but you're gonna do great. good luck! meow-hug

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[–] AntifaSuperWombat@hexbear.net 18 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

Went to the doctor today, but they were surprised to see me, because apparently my appointment is in 2 weeks.

Welp! Returned right back home contemplating on how I could’ve done such a dumb mistake.

When I arrived at home, I immediately looked at the appointment card: It’s today’s date.

I feel so stupid now, even though it wasn’t my fault. catgirl-flop

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[–] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 18 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] AshenWolf@hexbear.net 14 points 1 week ago (5 children)
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[–] bipp@hexbear.net 17 points 1 week ago (1 children)

2 months on hormones today. Feeling better and better as time goes on. I've been having a hard time eating lately so it's not helping the girl gains, but all things in time or whatever.

I dyed my hair blonde recently also after contemplating it for months and it's the second best decision I've made this year.

Anyways, HRT rules and it's never too late. I didn't start until after 30 and I have 0 complaints so far. Other than wishing I could skip the blood work, ha.

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[–] Moss@hexbear.net 17 points 1 week ago

Been exercising more and eating more healthily this week and I'm starting to like my body just a little more :)

[–] yewler@hexbear.net 17 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I'm happy to say I've rejoined cute gang

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[–] GenderIsOpSec@hexbear.net 17 points 1 week ago (7 children)

there's only one thing more annoying than trying to buy cute boots that fit, and that's buying HATS

my dome is so freakishly large and all of the hats are like ONE SIZE which translates to "HA HA get fucked freak" aaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhh catgirl-flop

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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 16 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Telling myself I am going to actually play my rom collection this time and not just spend hours and hours just downloading and organizing them like some kind of hoarder and then doing that anyway.

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[–] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 16 points 1 week ago (3 children)

we built this shitty

we built this shitty on butt with hole

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[–] 0x2640@hexbear.net 16 points 1 week ago (8 children)
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[–] buh@hexbear.net 16 points 1 week ago (2 children)

putting "OSINT expert" on my resume because I'm terminally online

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[–] inTheShadowOf@hexbear.net 15 points 1 week ago (3 children)

Does anyone else feel like everyone has this unspoken expectation that, eventually, you'll be okay? I feel like I'm going to let people down and it's hard to navigate.

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[–] Bolshechick@hexbear.net 15 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Chat I think I'm falling in love again. I must have the kind of swag that trans guys love, because in addition to all my closest friends bring trans guys, every one I have matched with on a dating app for the past year and a half has been a trans guy. I'm pan, so I feel this is statistically unlikely, but I'm not complaining lol. But, I matched with a new guy recently and it's going so well and he's completely my type doggirl-kiss

Idk how I keep pulling cute boys, I am hideous. But I'm happy

God I love boys!! I could never have imagined that 5 years ago, lol. My love for non-boys has always been there, and hasn't gotten any less. But it wasn't till I figured out that I wasn't a boy that I realized I like boys

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[–] Angel@hexbear.net 15 points 1 week ago (4 children)

Give my rizz some energy please... spirit-bomb

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[–] Tommasi@hexbear.net 15 points 1 week ago

I'm writing every day now and it's helping my mental wellbeing so much. aubrey-happy

Got addicted to a video game for a few days earlier this week (why can I not like things normally instead of feeling like I have to spend 12 hours a day on it) and lost the habit which made me feel terrible, but now I'm back into it. doggirl-thumbsup

[–] LocalOaf@hexbear.net 14 points 1 week ago (4 children)

went to the gym yesterday and had a good workout all things considered given I hadn't been regularly in awhile recovering from my hand injuries and was feeling pretty good and saw some friendly regulars I hadn't seen in awhile

dysphorialooked in the mirror before I left and that was a bad idea

hate how large I am and how... idk what to call it. Frumpy? Blocky? My silhouette is

I'm not like a super tall or bulky muscly type but ugh

I wish I was more slender in my frame and shorter

I wish I could be described as "elegant" and that's pretty far from the actual truth of my appearance

My face is kinda femme and I have kinda feminine legs and hips but I hate my fat distribution and it's like I'm a big work truck with a girly paint job and the women I wanna look more like are like sleek little sports cars or something

Physically I've felt just too big lately and have been bumping into shit accidentally a lot lately and it sucks

My voice and dealing with my hair and body hair and everything have gotten worse and I've felt a lot worse bottom dysphoria than I usually do and bleh

I've known I'm not cis for a long time at this point but keep beating myself up mentally like "why can't I just be a queer cis guy, it'd be so much easier than dealing with how far away my body is now from where I'd like it to be"

ugh

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